Hi, in the first group and for real, never had a healthier relationship with social media. It's just a much more conscious and mindful usage and I don't really know why. Probably because it's way less (read as nearly none) egocentric and corporate.
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Second group. I understand the phrase "using Internet to escape reality" again.

i tend to only comment when i feel like i have something to add, and i only post after putting in far too much effort into perfecting what i made.
i have ideas for shitposts down in writing. the first thing i posted was sort of shitposty, even. with the time it takes for me specifically to make a shitpost though, i figure i might as well create something more meaningful.
and i hope that adds more value to the fediverse than if i posted as often as i could. some folks are better at that than i'll ever be, anyways.
I'll see you in three months.
daily spam traumadumping on the internet
don't mind me
eh at least you asks open ended questions and it drives up some activity around here
Damn, I feel called out. I want to post more, but I don't have anything to post ;-;
I'm more of a comment guy myself
Shit, I’m the exhaling kind. Sorry, y’all.

Post rule
Just exhaled rn wbu
tbf, I noticed a fair amount of 4 post a year Redditors back in the day. I was often like that back then. 10% of the users provide 90% of the content or something like that. Most social media users are probably lurkers rather than serial posters like me, and that's ok.
I probably delete 2/3 of my messages after I typed half of them out, because I either decide nobody cares, or because I could just upvote a comment which is pretty similar to what I would've written. Not sure if it's the same for others, but I wouldn't be too surprised.
I end up having to walk away from a bunch of my comments in the middle because smol childrens but then my phone decides to refresh the app entirely and lose the post because I was out of the app for longer than 30 seconds and I can't be arsed to track the comment I was replying to back down to finish the draft that I know is saved.
I keep a count of mine. I'm at 4 written then not posted comments so far today.
Well I'm glad for the comments you do post
One issue with Reddit is that it's so big that on most subs, your post will just be background noise. Meanwhile on Lemmy, there's a dire shortage of posts, especially original posts.
I had always been told it was like...90/9/1. Ninety percent lurk, nine percent comment, and one percent post!
I wonder if this number includes bots or not.
Not sure, but probably just about the humans!
We love our serial posters :3
So true :3
I'm a once every 3 months kinda person.
Hmm, your account is seven months old and I've upvoted you nearly 300 times. Clearly that means I've upvoted every post you've made 150 times apiece.
Every 3 months here, but I comment more than I did on Reddit. I remember reading a meme about how there’s no point commenting on a post that’s got more than 100 comments already and realised how true it was.
Bold of you to assume I have something better to do.
No post, only comment
We're supposed to post?
rule
d/dx
That's a nice derivative operator you got there. It'd be a shame if I applied it to a constant function 😆
i have 154 in 4 months... huh
Hmmm, I feel called out
not just fedi i feel-
Real
Im just simply a "rly cool badass rulebreaker".
I'm around 2 times a month on average