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Fellow 2 year 3 month lemmy user, your anger nourishes my soul.
My how time flies. Reddit was already trash at that point, it was mostly habit keeping me going there, but I think it's gotten a lot worse. Either that or I forgot just how bad it was.
Never look back, keep fighting the good fight my friend
I browse exclusively on my phone, so deleting reddit apps and installing Lemmy apps was the biggest step for me.
I primarily browsed All, so setting my default sorting to All Top 12 Hours was key.
Finally, I made a point to comment and post more. This is where Lemmy beats Reddit hands down in my opinion. You can comment on posts that are hours old on All and still have meaningful discussions. Trying that on Reddit is like screaming into the void.
Edit: I also forgot to mention that I upvote almost everything. If you made a post that I read and it's not complete trash, you're getting an upvote. Same with comments. I upvote almost every comment I read - especially ones in response to my posts or comments. I feel like it let's people know they're being seen.
Your edit is a bit like that in the Fediverse in general. Since there's no algorithm, liking a post in Mastodon does nothing beyond letting op know you appreciate them. I like that.
I hate this phrase. There are several algorithms. There's new, hot, rising, etc. There's no company manipulating content discovery. That's the difference. Algorithms are great. For-profit companies with an incentive to control content is bad.
Edit: I also forgot to mention that I upvote almost everything. If you made a post that I read and it's not complete trash, you're getting an upvote. Same with comments. I upvote almost every comment I read - especially ones in response to my posts or comments. I feel like it let's people know they're being seen.
Oh hell yeah, me too. I browse all a lot (sometimes sorted by scaled) and even if something isn't for me, if it seems like something others would like, it's getting an upvote.
RIF stopped working so I started using Liftoff for Lemmy instead.
Don't really use the desktop site.
Same except Jerboa
I now use Voyager because the liftoff Dev had twin kids and naturally they take priority.
just deleted my account and all reddit apps. quit cold turkey. there's less on Lemmy. but I'm happier, and more productive 🙂
Same here, I forced myself away from that platform. Took me a few weeks to get settled and find all the right communities, but it worked out well!
For me, the realization of how toxic Reddit can be combined with how lost in the crowd I felt was enough. I enjoy the smaller feel to the communities and that I can actually have a conversation instead of getting buried in comments was just the right combo.
Heh, on Reddit, I just avoided the larger subs. r/gaming was the worst gaming sub (aside from subs for free competitive games that are playable by children)
It took some time for me to realize that not finding a continuous stream of new content was a feature and not a flaw. It meant that there was no algorithm feeding me an endless stream of crap in hopes of keeping me glued to the screen. It meant I could close the app and move on with my day and check back much later. That realization made me embrace it.
Honestly, reddit drove me away. I got tired of being hounded by engagement bots asking inane questions, and in the wake of reddit going public, the comment police regularly were nitpicking my comments, reading into them intolerance that simply wasn't there. I was just sick of it all. Reddit has a much bigger userbase, but lemmy is more friendly. There are occasions where it would be nice to post something niche and have a robust discussion, which requires a site with more mass appeal, but I'm not interested in all the drawbacks of dealing with reddit.
That is what happened to me.. the bots banned me within a minute for a metaphorically based - though salty - post. 14 years.
Thing is, I noticed a change in the algorithm not too long after the IPO since my homepage started in with more rage-bait subs and many were ones I'd not visited or even heard of. It was subtle but also kinda disheartening. I decided to manually delete all of what I could and as I was going through the posts I noticed that the art subs I used to go to had all but disappeared on my home page.
I used to go to photoshopbattles all the time and as I was scrolling my home pages, it was nowhere to be seen. Nor was AppleHelp, VintageApple or MacPro..
It's a bummer because reddit used to be really cool. It's like when you discover a cool little cafe or something that you love going to. Eventually more and more people discover it, and it becomes a bit more crowded, but you still go. Then it gets written up in some magazine or something, and the crowd becomes nuclear. It becomes a tourist trap flogging merchandise, and they turn it into a chain, with the food semi-preprepared for mass consumption. The experience sucks and what was a special spot is ruined.
Participating has really helped. I'm still struggling to post, but I try to comment wherever I feel I can add value, however small.
Build the platform you want to be part of.
Cold turkey basically.
spite, anger.
My best is: just stop. Yes, Lemmy is like the rural version of Reddit. It’s slower, more niche communities, and not a lot of people making content. But screw Reddit. I was a 15 year reader. They’ve destroyed it for corporate greed. I’m all set.
I missed the quantity of content on reddit, but I do not miss the quality of replies on reddit.
I just don't care for Reddit, or it's redditisms.
If you're using the app, uninstall it. Delete your bookmarks, etc. Make it more than an idle thought to be on the site.
Use the time you would normally spend doomscrolling on reddit to do something productive on Lemmy. Look for new communities to join, reply to posts you would normally just upvote, post something to a community that could use a boost, etc. The place is far from empty but more interaction really helps to drive growth and build friendships.
See you around mate. 💚
For me, it's the fact that while I dont always see eye to eye with the people here the fact is every account is almost certainly an actual person and not a bot. I want to hear other's experiences and perspectives and Reddit will not provide that.
I also like the fact that there is an end to the content here. It's not endless scrolling.
The API blackout. I said when blackout I'd quit, and I did.
Just by keeping at it. Lots of posts don't get a lot of comments, seems like a lot of lurkers. My front page only has one post with >10 comments and the rest are at 3 or fewer. But Reddit is still in the top ten more-visited web sites in the world. So can't expect the same number of comments compared to the bigger subs there.
Join a bunch of communities that you may be interested in to fill up your feed with a bunch of stuff to read. That way, if you want to take a break and read stuff, you can look here rather than on Reddit. You can look for communities here that are a close match to what you had on Reddit. Over time, you can dial them in and hopefully not feel the need to go back to Reddit.
I never go back and just to read Reddit. I only go there if a web search looking for something in particular takes me there.
I came over here when they cut off 3rd party apps. I wasn't going to browse reddit without Boost, and theres a Boost app for Lemmy, so staying here was easy. I have gone back to reddit twice since, and both times were to check if GeForce Now was broken or if the problem was on my end. Unfortunately Nvidia is pretty terrible at keeping people updated when something is wrong with GFN, so the GFN subreddit is really the only way to find out what's going on. If I found an active GeForce Now community here I'd never go back.
Reddit banned all the subreddits I actually enjoyed so I stopped participating altogether. It’s helpful to recognize that reddit’s structure leads to total stagnation in the content. I haven’t been active for years, but I still end up on a reddit thread from time to time to get answers to questions that Google should be answering (that’s another topic altogether) and I see the same stake jokes being made, the same arguments being had, the same mediocre insights from the same dull people, and it makes me so glad that I left. I don’t begrudge younger people going through the process of figuring out how to engage with the world, but I also don’t want to participate.
I just stopped using reddit. I was so mad about having my 12 year old account perm banned for talking shit about Nazis I swore the entire place off.
I kinda had to accept that Lemmy wouldn't have the same hooks to trigger impulsive scrolling because Lemmy isn't a corporation desperate to mine you for every ounce of data you can provide.
Also took me a while to find a group of communities with content I like.
I sometimes reinstall Reddit just see what's happening over there, whenever I open it, it feels like I'm being inundated with ads, both obviously and via the ingenuine comment threads.
The majority of the communities I visit on reddit have no real equivalent on Lemmy. The only things in Lemmy are politics, open source, linux, android, anti ai, immediate downvote of the majority of news, etc.
Lemmy feels more like an individual community rather than a real platform, like lobste.rs with more emphasis on politics.
What part are you struggling with? Not enough content? I get it, but also that's a feature. If you dislike centralized platforms more than you want to rot your brain, it takes zero effort.
Got permbanned last year for saying tthat NeoNazis like Stonetoss aka Hans Kristian Graebner should be named and shamed. Tbh fuck that place. Reddit admins are Nazi sympathizers.
I deleted my account and the app
Build a community about something you love! It takes little effort. :) Then when you browse Reddit occasionally, you can steal memes. In fact, do that anyway if you end up browsing and post them here!
I used to feel dread when I logged into reddit and saw that someone had replied to something I wrote. I no longer have an account there, and I even went for the nuclear option of overwriting all my old messages,
then deleting them in case they chose to restore them, because:
fuck spez
For me personally it helps that I'm on a dedicated instance for Danes, so that's kind of like a safe haven, or like a kiddie pool where it was easier to get to know lemmy at first.
I no longer dread when someone replies because most of the people here on lemmy aren't assholes. I think it's because there's this barrier to entry which filters out a lot of people, or maybe it's that the assholes are looking for fights to begin with and is therefore attracted to the biggest platforms?
Lemmy just isn't that good, you need other stuff too. I highly recommend finding independent niche website forums (the old school ones) for your interests and joining them. These are WAY less likely to have bots (unless political based) than Lemmy, Reddit, etc etc. They have real people, sometimes parroting bot stuff they saw elsewhere, but they are at least real and you can talk to them. And you get to know them because normally there's only like 50 active users on those websites at a time anyway. But damn do those 50 people know a lot about vaccuums, or trains, or magnet fishing or whatever the dedicated topic is for that site. It's the most unfederated you can be
Look at the quality of the posts.
When I open Reddit it's just the most vacuous drivel. It's not enjoyable or entertaining at all. There is no depth or substance.
Getting permabanned on my main and any secondary accounts I had helped. The app on my phone I use for Lemmy makes it look pretty much exactly like the Reddit app so the only difference for me is less people which means some communities I'd like to talk to people in just has nobody in them.
I went on a 10 day backpacking trip with no reception. I deleted my reddit apps and bookmarks before I went. So got over the withdrawals during the trip, and there was just enough friction to reinstall when I got back that I never bothered.
I was also very mad about them killing the API for 3rd party mod tools and the resulting slip into AI slop and misogynist claptrap on the sub I helped mod. It's an empty Internet wasteland now; just bots and MAGA incels yelling at each other.
I went from full lurker to participant since I felt like I'm not completely drowned out by others. That made it more fun, since Lemmy all feed is pretty small relatively speaking and lurking gets boring if you're expecting an endless feed of random junk. Plus, since it's small, you can also feel like you're contributing to the Lemmy community, since without your comments and posts, it won't exist.
Although get to the bottom of the all feed and things get wild.
Delete all your Reddit bookmarks and favorites and find a lemmy community to launch yourself into. I picked gaming and a few news ones and so far, it's fine.. Even moreso that I found the old.lemmy.zip page and it's comfortable to me as I was dedicated to old.reddit and RES.