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I'm surrounded by people who care more about Charlie Kirk than about Gaza, sometimes it's hard not to believe that most people are drones or just horrendous people. I can't even watch a video my colleague sent me on AI because it's so western centric and anti-China and I can't get past that to have a conversation about the other stuff. It's so isolating and disconnecting.

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[–] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 66 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Since I don't like dehumanizing people or ascribing morality to them unnecessarily, I've ended up drawn to thinking of liberalism as a sort of political hypoxia. I'm specifically thinking of this old video of this fellow named Michael experiencing hypoxia for an experiment: he cannot say what eight minus three equals, nor can he fit shapes into a toddler's shape sorter toy, nor does he stop playing with the toy when firmly and repeatedly told by a supervisor that he will die if he does not immediately put his mask back on. Michael was in that moment "drunk, euphoric and overconfident": he sincerely believed he was a math genius, and he was wholly unaware of his impending death within ten seconds, had the mask not been forced back on him in time.

So, somehow, we are all in a low-oxygen environment, but only a few of us have managed to secure masks...

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 37 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

The mask only partially being a metaphor. covid-cool doomjak

Edit: Oh, so is the hypoxia, kids.

[–] CommunistCuddlefish@hexbear.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

... I really like this metaphor.

[–] purpleworm@hexbear.net 55 points 2 weeks ago

This is one of the most helpful essays I've ever read: https://redsails.org/masses-elites-and-rebels/

I guess to respond to your prompt more directly, it's definitely in the direction of "horrendous people" rather than "drones," not because of some inborn lack of character but because they have been raised in an environment that encourages them at every turn to be awful chauvinists and misanthropes. "When education is not liberatory, the dream of the oppressed is to become the oppressor," etc.

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 49 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Materialism is like a lamp in an extremely dark cave.

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 44 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Just to add so it's more than just a truism: yeah obviously when you go and explain the basic idea of materialism you often get objections from religious or pseudo-religious people about how the theory that the world only works based on material things denies the role of the divine, or something like that. This is kinda hard to argue against without invalidating their beliefs, so it's naturally not gonna work in all cases and there's a reason why religion and socialism have had such enormous tensions historically.

But if you can sell them on the idea that materialism doesn't have to be 100% correct, maybe they can believe that some things are a bit supernatural or magic or whatever (e.g. Cartesian Dualism), but the most important factors for what moves history are material conditions, then that's good enough really. That enables you to explain why they should be very concerned about genocides even when they're far away, why it matters that billionaires are getting so much wealth and power, why they should join a union, have a gun, and get more organized. These things are all pretty accessible points once you get someone to accept that making people "better" or having better "values" etc will not fix society, but instead material conditions must be tackled and transformed for problems to be solved.

[–] Castor_Troy@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

materialism doesn't have to be 100% correct

he-admit-it

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 7 points 2 weeks ago

(I'm not the best source on this, I'm not even a Marxist)

[–] balsoft@lemmy.ml 45 points 2 weeks ago

Everyone around you has been indoctrinated with explicit and implicit capitalist and imperialist propaganda since age 0, with only very minor and localized challenges to that (only if they went to the right college with marxist profs or happened to stumble upon a unionized workspace). Of course you end up with people who are either willfully ignorant or evil, there is no other way to keep your sanity in such an environment. Be glad that you've been able to see through it and have a community of like-minded people.

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 45 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

The assassination video was algorithmically shoved in everyone's feed and collectively traumatized the people that watched it. Content from Gaza, meanwhile, is suppressed on most platforms and has to be sought out.

The consent manufacturing machine is more efficient than ever and that terrifies me. The right controls the algorithm because it controls the platforms, I don't know how we overcome that aside from not giving their platforms our traffic or data (and I'm skeptical this is enough).

[–] CleverOleg@hexbear.net 33 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

This is what really bugs me about the TikTok deal. People are moving away in droves from traditional news sources like TV and newspapers. Any resources that are US-based WILL be compromised and brought to heel (i.e. facebook, twitter). We got to see so much pro-Palestine content on TikTok specifically because it wasn’t controlled by the US. The deal shows us that the American people will NOT be allowed to view content not regime-approved under any circumstances, even “new media”. It’s honestly more effective and pernicious than any “Great Firewall”.

[–] MayoPete@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

Maybe the Trots have the right idea with those newspapers 🤔

But really, the way people lap up complete BS from these sites is scary. It seems like most people choose to build a low-information bubble around themselves. It's bot even about the propaganda as much as the stuff is more potent because the average American doesn't bother to learn anything about the world or history or anything outside their world of treats. The propaganda isn't very effective against people who do even a little bit of reading.

[–] LangleyDominos@hexbear.net 39 points 2 weeks ago

I wasn't always a leftist so I appreciate how easily it would have been for me to be one of those drones. If I was just inherently smarter or destined to be correct I would have been a leftist much sooner. I realize it's mostly a Plinko game. You fall through life getting hit by pegs and they guide you to the slot where you come to rest. That keeps me from seeing people as inherently bad.

Also I don't think there is anything inherent or destined in these things. People care about Charlie Kirk because society was built to create him, kill him, and lionize him. If society is made then it can be unmade. Thinking in terms of "these people are irredeemably bad" goes against the foundation of being a leftist imo. Though I would generally agree that some people are so bad that the effort to redeem them outweighs the harm they cause/caused and therefore they gotta go.

[–] SkingradGuard@hexbear.net 38 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I was talking to a family member recently and they were shocked, or, apalled that I even suggested that all billionaires are right wingers. In fact they were offended at the thought that even the Clintons are anything but communists.

It's surreal, but a reminder that I once also believed in the status quo, and that anyone on the actual left was a crazy and insane brainwashed privileged person (hence their leftist beliefs).

[–] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 27 points 2 weeks ago

To be honest, this part makes me upset that we're so niche that people could even believe that. When people criticize wrestlers they don't say they have weak punch combinations. When people criticize teachers they don't say they waste too much time in the gym. When people criticize football players, they don't call them unathletic (usually). But somehow when it comes to communists, we get flak for the Clintons?! The CEOs?! Chuck Schumer?!?! Russia?!?!?!?!

I hear this shit and I can't even have a conversation about it. It's so doomed to fail because you're not defending the thing itself. You're not even defending a straw man. You're defending a wheat field. It's so far removed from even beginning a conversation about it.

musings about strategyYou can short circuit the conversation "what do you think about market socialism? No, not really like China, I was thinking of Vietnam" and then they don't know Vietnam so it clarifies there's no real headway to be made so you can change subject/tune out their rant.

The alternative would be to dig into how they've been personally victimized by the system. You'll never change someone's mind. So you'd, at best, open their eyes to the suffering they've endured and tell them that someone cares about it (it's not a capitalist). Alienated at work? The meeting Luigi's CEO was going to started on time. Health insurance? Rent? Mental health? Raising kids? Buying a house? No community? You as an evangelist, I believe, are capable of 1) sympathizing and 2) explaining how capitalism caused it. Even if they're grotesque, being grotesque doesn't stop them from suffering or open them to change upon being called grotesque. So if your goal is any kind of rehabilitation, a win, no matter how unlikely, starts with seeing their point of view and recognizing why it would suck.

[–] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 38 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

the people I work with live in a literal entirely different reality. One thinks all you have to do is have babies and the government gives you so much money you can live in luxury (instead of just barely enough assistance that they don't die but live in squalor) and that they just give illegal immigrants free phones and apartments in New York. Like I don't even know what to fucking say to that. He thinks all the homeless are just crazy or choose to be homeless so you can't just make houses for them because idk they'll just wander off all crazy. Obviously I assume he supports the camps, the lethal injections, or both.

what's wild is the guy gave me a little pin from the GDR and a communist flag from the GDR because he collects stuff and despite knowing I'm a communist because I'm very open about my politics I guess he doesn't hate me (i'm one of the good ones? a naive kid to him? I don't know) which makes it harder for me to hate him as deeply and absolutely as his opinions merit but like holy shit every time we talk I get blindsided by some straight i-am-adolf-hitler shit that just staggers me into silence because the only thoughts I become equipped with are "jesus fucking christ you need like 20 years re education"

even my sous chef who is like 95% great opinions is really anti China-pilled to the point I showed her the headline for "experts say China's plans to reduce emissions not enough to avert disaster" or whatever (paraphrasing) intending to be like "this is just another on the list of obvious anti-China propaganda pieces that avoid asking questions like "why are we criticizing China for falling short when the West is literally collectively walking back climate goals due to AI energy needs"" and she just like shut me up and was like I don't wanna talk about China. After going "have you considered you're getting propaganda?" immediately after seeing the headline, which was literally for an anti-China propaganda piece. She saw an anti-China headline and thought I was being exposed to pro-China propaganda because... I don't know? you guys posting it here and discussing it is propaganda i guess I have no idea. It really shut me down for the rest of the day, I hate being shut up kitty-birthday-sad

[–] miz@hexbear.net 27 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

"have you considered you're getting propaganda?"

"you can only trust the nice-looking people on TV news wearing a lapel flag pin".

IT'S ALL FUCKING PROPAGANDA, DO YOU THINK ABC DOESN'T HAVE AN AGENDA??

[–] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

and like they fucking know that like we talk about that shit a lot and it's like ahhhhhh

the way they act it's like china stole their dog and I don't get it

[–] RomCom1989@hexbear.net 22 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

At that point that would just be education

[–] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

truest words

[–] CharlieTheOctopus@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago

Plot twist, your coworker is actually a devout student of Socialism with Chinese Characteristics and silenced you for slandering the People’s Republic.

[–] aqwxcvbnji@hexbear.net 31 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Start organising with like-minded people. Fatalism is a result of being informed and not using that information for change.

People's consciousness will change if they struggle with you. They won't understand from theory, they'll learn by standing by your side in trying to enact common-sense reforms and seeing how the state/their employer reacts to it.

Great pamphlet that relates to your question: https://frso.org/main-documents/some-points-on-the-mass-line/

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

yeah i'll get right on that with the anti-mask liberals and john birch society

[–] gayspacemarxist@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yup there's no other demographics that you can talk to.

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

driving over an hour to a major city where i would be a tiny minority of mask wearers instead of seeing literally zero others in a couple years isn't really feasible.

[–] seas_surround@hexbear.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

then maybe the suggestion doesn't apply to you

[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 30 points 2 weeks ago

I have a specific intersection of privilege where I can just flatly tell people they're wrong or racist and I don't get any consequences and people will sometimes even listen to me.

Not saying I can change minds but I can at least make people stop being like that around me

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 30 points 2 weeks ago

i'm a shut-in. that probably doesn't scale very well.

[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 29 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

this is the closest thing i have to social media, besides like some chat apps for close friends and family. i think the slight increase in effort required to share something with me cuts back on like 95% of the bullshit i used to see regularly, which was mostly peripheral acquaintances and their friends getting sucked into debating the designed-to-be-useless talking points of the day's news cycle. i hadn't really thought of it until now, but the faux-connection social media offers of easily/rapidly sharing mass media slop across networks of weak social connections seems like it could be part of that broader sense of disconnection we feel from each other. are we even communicating with each other when we do that, or are we merely acting as nodes for relaying talking points around the same ephemeral pond of people who don't really care to know each other? i'm not trained or clever enough to really elucidate what i mean, but my first thought to your post was, "i know what you mean, but that feeling doesn't resonate with me anymore." it has been over 5 years since i got out.

i work with mostly cool people, though we tend to only communicate via work channels about work stuff, local/regional issues, and some of us have shared our personal contact info for union communication.

close friends and family all seem to more or less know where we stand and don't really get into it with the big headlines of the day. i don't really volunteer my analysis unprompted anymore or send out articles unless they are pointed to a topic of mutual material interest, and don't really receive much in the way of news stories anymore from people. we all seem to accept that others stay current as they can and that there's a psychological price of trying to constantly stay on the edge of breaking news, so why push someone to be on my news schedule. when somebody does ask my opinion, i generally give it to them and it tends to dislodge them from the cycle of whatever talking point they were expecting me to have tee'd up, because it has all the nuance of me thinking my way through it spontaneously.

i read the news when i want, from a few different feeds. most are crappily framed. i don't really go in for spreading them around anymore, unless something is super relevant to any of the ongoing themes of one of my chats... which is frankly not common. my different chats, more or less, stick to certain areas of mutual interest. some people i talk to about hasbara-israel, world systems and empire, some i talk to about the geography of class conflict, some i talk to about healthcare provisioning in the US, some i talk to about natural resources and environment. you get the idea. these exchanges are asynchronous as hell, because everybody has lives, but they feel pretty rich.

i have some really close friends with very similar politics, and we mostly send each other absurd artifacts of an empire in decay on a regular basis. not like the truly grim aspects such as militarism, violence, the carceral apparatus, but more like the eye rolling features: AI hype, tactical dad gear, executive managerial word salad, cultural slop, wack bumper stickers & signage, "good thing but at what cost". because these are things we can groan and make jokes about without becoming despondent.

i am less connected to my broader former social media networks of years ago, but i feel far more connected to the dozen or so people i communicate with now more intentionally. and it gives me a sense that i am not all that disconnected from others more broadly, as a human, at this place & time, with similar material interests to those around me because i am no longer in the noisy pond, where regular people are flattened into whatever talking point they are advocating or railing against as they comingle with bots and outlier cranks.

[–] SevenSkalls@hexbear.net 7 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

How did you find your way into these chats?

[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

they're just people i know IRL that, post-deletion of my social media accounts, i made the effort to stay in touch with and establish some avenue of communication. some i met in school, other places i worked, or through other people i knew. we're scattered mostly now across the country, so some i see IRL rarely.

also, now that i'm not on social media to update people, when i made a big move across country, i made it a point after i got a little settled, to email a bunch of people individually to update them on my situation in a personalized communication and see what's new with them. maybe like another 10 people outside of my typical chat groups. i dunno what i expected, i just felt compelled to tell people i made a big change and how to reach me. i was surprised that i had long responses from everyone, giving me the low down on their last year or so, and a digest of all the gossip, support/reflections on my changes, and lots of positivity for reaching out and checking in.

lately, i think we tend to over value social media as a communication tool. people have been keeping up lasting relationships and distant friendships with correspondence since literacy became a thing. scrolling feeds of highlights interspersed with ads is such a bunk way to check in with people, because it feels like it's just different types of brand management jockeying for attention and compulsive react emojis for the dopamine and dollars of engagement. neither of which facilitate actual connections.

[–] SevenSkalls@hexbear.net 5 points 2 weeks ago

I like that idea of just reaching out to a bunch of people that I haven't seen in forever individually. I should try that.

[–] spectre@hexbear.net 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

You're talking about with the work people?

[–] SevenSkalls@hexbear.net 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Well, all of them. I guess it's just weird for me to reach out to a bunch of work people and add them to a group chat, especially if they're topic specific. I've heard of other people who had that happen, I'm just kind of just curious about how that evolves.

[–] spectre@hexbear.net 4 points 2 weeks ago

Unfortunately I dont want to talk about my work life in detail, but to summarize, I have intentionally spent years developing a team culture that has a "core membership" of about a third of our team. I've taken lucky opportunities and created my own opportunities to develop it further (such as being involved in hiring new team members when possible). It helps that most of us like our job more than a typical job, so when we hire, I am looking for people who are gonna fit in to actually wanting to be here. it also helps that the job is attractive to "progressive" people. I'll also mention it's an office job.

It takes time and intentionality, but I do believe that as socialists it is necessary to be leaders of our workplaces and communities. Being vocal, not being annoying (tough balance), being competent, and having a job you don't actively hate (tough under capitalism) all lay the foundation to being a good coworker who will naturally be seen as a leader.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

I have a similar thing going on and it's mostly Signal groups set up in connected activist spaces.

[–] Dr_Gabriel_Aby@hexbear.net 29 points 2 weeks ago

I used to be concerned about this, now I just feel grateful my brain isn’t mushy goo

[–] BeanisBrain@hexbear.net 26 points 2 weeks ago
[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 21 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

most people are ~~drones or just~~ horrendous

Yea pretty much

[–] miz@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

I used to think I had a problem with misanthropy but it turns out that it's just a problem with Americans

[–] Damarcusart@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago

Most people don't need to think about or question the system, and so they don't, they ignore the cracks in the system because thinking about them is stressful. They are also told by the media around them that they are a brave clever Free Thinker for blindly absorbing whatever status quo opinion their preferred talking heads want them to think.

I try not to push back too much on this whole thing, it won't work. You have to slowly but surely teach them critical thinking skills and media literacy, you have to pick away at the wall of nonsense people are surrounded with and encourage them to pick up a pickaxe and start chipping away themselves, it takes months, years even, to get someone to a point that you can not have to worry about them falling for every big obvious thing, you can't force someone to change their mind, but you can give them the tools needed to change it on their own. Unfortunately, some people would rather live in a blind comfortable status quo and will never question things, but as conditions worsen, these people will become rarer and rarer.

[–] crazyminner@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 weeks ago

Now imagine being vegan on top of that.