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I got permission from her, so my GF is @PieInTheSky@feddit.online

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[–] cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Nope, my wife uses Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Discord.

Can't get her to adopt Fediverse equivalents.

I'd say I choose quality over quantity, but she mostly is in artist communities that don't want to move off the old platforms. They say they were there before the crazies, they aren't the problem, so they're not gonna move, even if the people who own those platforms are straight up fascists. I couldn't do it.

[–] danciestlobster@lemmy.zip 25 points 1 week ago

Yep. My partner is basically the same as yours here. Too many niche communities on other social media and unwilling to give it up in spite of the ideological issues.

I think it's just harder for some than others. I was never THAT attached to social media anyway so...this is fine for me. If I run out of content on my feed for the day its probably time to log off anyway

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 27 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago

We run quite a few fediverse instances together, so yes :)

[–] PieInTheSky@feddit.online 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

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[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] PieInTheSky@feddit.online 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

(sorry, replied to the wrong comment)

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

wife followed me to signal, reddit -> lemmy, and linux.

She got there on linux before me when her win 7 computer broke down and I reanimated her old laptop with linux (although a light version of ubuntu) I'll be joining her soon; if you want me to use something debian based that isn't Ubuntu studio, hit me up with recs in this thread : https://lemmy.world/post/35450797?scrollToComments=true

[–] xpey@piefed.social 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

He got an account just to spy me on here from time to time (I mean it in a cute way), but I don't think he has any interest of actually using it, for now at least. He's not really a "social media" person, Instagram is like his "main platform" but only because all his friends are there lol

He has shown interest in my "decentralization journey" (for lack of a better term, I guess) because we share similar values and he recognizes that moving traffic to popular social media websites like Instagram or Twitter is harmful because the parent companies are awful (less focus on privacy, more focus on environmental impact and political issues). Got him to use Bluesky instead of Twitter because of this.

[–] appropriateghost@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago

keep being a good influence; get anyone and all that you can in the good fight against centralized corporate control.

[–] balsoft@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 week ago

Yes, she actually joined recently - I hope she starts posting too, her art is great and more people should see it. Not giving a handle for now because she's shy.

No, but she "stalks" me here sometimes to see what I'm up to and I appreciate it, lol.

[–] TORFdot0@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No, the fedi is still mostly tech/privacy enthusiasts which doesn’t really describe her.

[–] crmsnbleyd@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Is it though? I see a lot more non-tech people there day by day. Lemmy might be more niche cause of network effects

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago

You're right. They forgot (US-)politics

[–] 0x01@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago

Nah our ideals are very different

[–] mesamunefire@piefed.social 4 points 1 week ago
[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

How do you guys manage to make a relationship work on different instances?

Everyone that isn’t on piefed.world is a fascist commie far-right tankie heathen.

[–] BlueEther@no.lastname.nz 4 points 1 week ago

Just reading your comments I know what the user name will be, keep it up my good fellow

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

What?
Can't say my instance is any of that.
Honestly I rarely found any fellow instance user to be pretty logical

[–] Flamekebab@piefed.social 4 points 1 week ago

Yep, but not on Lemmy. She uses Mastodon.

No, she doesn't use any kind of social media anymore, which is kinda ironic considering we met on Twitter.

[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

my wife doesn't have any questions about my behavior on the internet unfortunately

[–] AnnaFrankfurter@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago

Maybe she should. Does she know about your username.

[–] UniversalMonk@anarchist.nexus 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I tried to get mine to join, but my girlfriend spent a few hours here on a Saturday morning. She looked up my username, saw how much grief I got just for advocating third-party voting, and decided everyone here is way too extreme and hateful.

Which might be true, but she also played Grow a Garden on roblox while we watched the super awesome Charlie Sheen documentary on Netflix last night, so I can’t take her judgment too seriously.

[–] Sal@mander.xyz 3 points 1 week ago

Lemmy, but very rarely

[–] DJDarren@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 week ago

My partner uses Mastodon, but not Lemmy.

No. Wife and kids only use the Big tech apps. I think ads and tracking don't bother them as much as they do me.

Cries in doesn't have a significant other

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I got her on Reddit ages ago but I think she stopped using it because the official app sucks so much. I don't think she's interested anymore though. Instagram mostly.

[–] Twakyr@feddit.org 3 points 1 week ago

They totally do, that’s how I became a user :3

[–] RoquetteQueen@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My husband is the PC gamer and I am the Nintendo lady but I am the only one here. I am also his tech support somehow.

[–] cheloxin@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

somehow.

The barrier for entry between consoles and PC is basically identical at this point, and they're both easy enough that anyone but infants and late stage dementia sufferers can access these days. I imagine only those with an interest in the actual hardware would be relegated to family tech support

[–] pineapple@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago

Not sure if I agree with you. consol os's are so much more simple than full a full desktop os, everything makes much more intuative sense and there are less complications you need to worry about. And of course you don't need to spend any time learning about the different types of hardware and all the compatibility issues or if your buying prebuilt it can be overwhelming with all the different companies and selections. In the consol market there are 4 options really: ps5, ps5 pro, xbox s and xbox x.

[–] Yeahigotskills2@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago

My wife still uses reddit now and then, but I can't because I'm banned :-/

[–] moopet@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago

No. Doesn't use any social media really, but did make a little-used account on bluesky after closing their twitter down.

[–] BlueEther@no.lastname.nz 2 points 1 week ago

Not on lemmy, but she has moved to BlueSky

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Nope, she tunes out when I start talking about federated services. Just not something that captures her interest/she gives any real thought about.

Spouse is on Linux, but because one by one her devices started to switch. Setting up a new gaming pc, oh that's weird it has Linux. Setting up the new gaming console, and it has bazzite. Suddenly they're only using linux

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 1 week ago

Nope. I can't even get her off windows although the steamdeck did impress her.