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So what did you "do" to get disowned by your parent(s)? (lemmy.ml)
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[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 80 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I called out my dad for his hateful views on social media. Really hateful. Like calling Michelle Obama a monkey and calling for the extermination of lgbtq+. I told him I've had more people in those groups help me in my life than he ever has, and by being passive towards his hate I was dishonoring them and the work they did for me.

He wrote me out of his will. (I didn't lose much, he made near minimum wage his whole life, but it's all he had left to do). He hasn't spoken to me in 9 years now since then. Don't care. Much better people have filled the role.

[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 24 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Life is so much better when you cut shitty people out of your life, even if they are family.

[–] seraphine@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

"you only got one family"

"yeah you only have one appendix too but when that starts screwing with your health you cut it out of your life too"

[–] Sequentialsilence@lemmy.world 50 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

I played D&D.

Apparently I’m a satan worshiper now.

[–] halcyoncmdr@lemmy.world 17 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Lucifer dared to question his father and was cast out for eternity and demonized for not blindly obeying. Not surprising he'd be a bit salty about that.

IIRC in the Bible Lucifer only kills one person, versus the millions God kills at a whim, usually for disobeying some bullshit he came up with that he never told anyone about.

Satan really just runs the place for God's undesirables. Why would you want to worship the largest mass murderer in history in the first place though?

Assuming the stories and parables are true, or even based on any sort of reality, which of course they aren't.

[–] seraphine@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

pls elaborate

[–] Ziggurat@jlai.lu 15 points 4 weeks ago

In the 80's/90's there was a huge satanic panic and RPG player were part of it. At the time the hobby was mysterious, many players are neurodivergent, and seen as socially awkward or edgy and as soon as a RPG player committed suicide, it was because of D&D. Not the other way around (depressed kid plays RPG to be with similar people, but still ends up dying from the depression).

To be fair, at the time the hobby also played on this image with games like In nomine Satanis or simply Vampire and it's only recently that the community add a huge focus on emotional safety and inclusions.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 38 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I came out of the closet.

No seriously; that's all it took. Lol

[–] fckreddit@lemmy.ml 9 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Why were you in the closet though?? /s

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

They were in there with Tom Cruise

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 weeks ago

tom cruise is still in there. lol

[–] TheFeatureCreature@lemmy.ca 37 points 4 weeks ago

My mother abandoned her kids shortly after birth. I haven’t had contact with her for 20ish years. My sibling has kept loose contact and my mother has treated them like garbage and even robbed them on one occasion.

So I guess the answer is: nothing.

[–] modular950@lemmy.zip 34 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Nose piercing... I'd been a legal adult for 12 years at the time I got the piercing.

[–] zakobjoa@lemmy.world 20 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

This would be hilarious if it wasn't so sad.

[–] modular950@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 weeks ago

pretty bizzarro! I laugh about it myself honestly.

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 6 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Wtf

Disowned for that ?!

[–] modular950@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 weeks ago

I've yet to get to the bottom of it. We were fortunately fairly close beforehand. I even have a few tattoos. But the nose ring... that's what snapped it somehow.

[–] compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone 30 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

It hasn't happened yet, but I'm pretty sure they'll disown me whenever I tell them I'm trans.

[–] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml 16 points 4 weeks ago

My parents had a negative reaction when I came out to them in my late 20s, a decade on theyre mostly over it, I hope it workouts for you. People are complex and take time to understand things, you just have to keep showing up.

I found it helped to remind myself how long I struggled with these ideas internally. My family isnt' perfect, but as the ending from Some Like it Hot says: nobody's perfect

[–] Drewmeister@lemmy.world 25 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

That's really hard to narrow down; I suspect that she didn't really want me from some point in childhood onward. When I was a teen she said that her duty to God was completed once I turned 18, and she'd be rid of me. When I turned 17, she developed short-timers syndrome, if you'll pardon the slang, and I was kicked out. God's gonna be so maaaaaaaddd!

It was hard going for 10 or so years, but I'm 38 now and doing just fine.

[–] neon_nova@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Huh? Short-timers?

[–] Drewmeister@lemmy.world 22 points 4 weeks ago

When you see your role in something coming to an end and you lose motivation and desire to continue. A similar slang word is senioritis, when you're ending your secondary school education.

[–] Zaxo23@lemmy.ml 24 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Grew my hair into dreadlocks…. Got kicked Out of a will.

[–] Aralakh@lemmy.ca 19 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

My siblings and I are living life on our own terms rather than be what our emotionally immature parents wanted us to be; follow the culture, religion, and their ideal success virtues. They're still in my life, but at a distance and limit, as I ain't got time for conditional love and endless comparisons.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm glad you found your own way and your own... Company, Aralakh

[–] Aralakh@lemmy.ca 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Thanks scrubbles! I appreciate it, take it day by day as it was definitely scary to make that choice. Also, I'm glad you recognize my username hehe, clever.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 3 points 4 weeks ago

I recognized it immediately lol. Make sure you're on !masseffect@lemmy.world , we're getting it going

[–] EtnaAtsume@lemmy.world 11 points 4 weeks ago

It is not what I did, but who I am.

[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.ml 5 points 4 weeks ago

Quit school at 16 to join the workforce

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 weeks ago

I kicked the toxic one out of my life. Who disowned who?