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Not my nails, obvs.

Some (beginner-focused) tips for painting your nails:

Lighter colors and solid colors are easier to work with. Pick a good color or few, you don't need to start too fancy.

Don't shake nail polish, that can mess it up. Roll it slowly if you ever need to mix.

Don't just do the coloration and call it a day, put clear nail polish on first, and put it over the color. That will protect your nails.

Consider getting nail polish remover when you get your nail polish, mistakes are easy.

Put your nails down on a flat surface, clean your nails (maybe with that nail polish remover?), and apply the clear base coat (doesn't need to be perfect). Stroke from the base of the nail to the top, until the nail is covered. It might get on your skin, that's normal, anything on your skin can be dealt with at the end. Let it dry, like you would any other kind of base coat.

Now that it's dry, do like what you did with your clear polish for colors. Base to tip, going from the center outwards. If you can still see through after it's covered, wait for it to dry a little, then do another layer.

Then apply your top coat to make smooth, shiny, and somewhat protected painted nails. Wait for it all to dry (very important), which could as long as normal working hours + commute. Don't mess it up. If you do, you might have to restart on some nails.

Now that it's dry the polish on your skin should act sorta like glue, where you can just peel it off, but if it's stubborn you could use a cotton swab with nail polish remover to carefully remove it (don't let it touch your nails!).

Now you should have nice smooth nails.


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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I used to be scared getting next to the mirror for fear of mirror me pulling me in and replacing me and now there is no used to I'm still a bit weary scared

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I swear there was a goosebumps book about that, freaked me out too

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago

Only 90s kids remember goosebumps, I remember a couple of them so this might be where the idea was implanted in me

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago

ǫniʜƚynɒ ɿo bɘɔɒlqɘɿ ɘd ƚ'now uoy ,ɿoɿɿim ɒ oƚ ɘƨolɔ ooƚ ƚɘǫ oƚ biɒɿʇɒ ɘd bluoʜƨ ɘno on ylliƨ yllɒɘɿ ǫniɘd ƨɒw I ylƚƨɘnoH

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 17 points 5 days ago

Last night, we had a patient who is a woman and her nurse was a dude. She wanted to be placed on a bedpan. She didnt want the guy to do it, so he came and got me 🥹. And then she said "oh Terminal! Im glad youre here, Ill need help wiping after" (gross but Im glad I passed!)

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago

My thighs might be too thunderous for these high socks

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm gonna keep posting about taiwan for a while.

I am currently listening to a white guy yap about how "stinky tofu" affected all his 5 sense and going through the entire story of how he found it.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 5 days ago

It's a group presentation and the only topic is a deep dive into the group's only white guy's experience with tofu.

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Where the fuck did this ass come from all of a sudden? I grabbed the back of my thigh and it felt WAY different than last time I did that. Like I was having to reach further. And all of a sudden it hit me. What is all of that cushion I'm reaching around?? Omg your girl has a butt

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I do remember sitting on a curb once and realizing it didn't hurt my ass bones anymore once lol

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago

lmao, i realized it when i took a look in the mirror and thought "oh damn 👄"

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago

having a girl butt was the #1 thing i was wanting out of HRT and is still my favorite part of HRT. It's fucking great, isn't it? sicko-fem

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

congrats!!!!! I love it sooo much i'm doing squats and leg lifts to assmaxx i want to crack doorways when i stride through them

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago

Shit what even is time, in that weird state rn where the present is being stretched out to a wild degree. Think I'm just hangry but like maybe I can use this to my advantage soviet-hmm

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago

Things that happened in my dream last night:

I got on a boat which was a weird hybrid of a kayak and a rowboat and rowed out to a rocky island.

I took my clothes off

I realized I didn't tether the boat and had to jump in the water to get back in

I rowed from the island into a river which was packed with people

I almost hit a very angry woman wearing a life vest

I got out and started walking home

I got a short from somewhere, but no bottoms

I walked through like three towns bottomless

I walked around a headway bottomless

This is the most plausible dream I've ever had. I would do all of these things

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago

Been watching a review for RWBY Arrowfell and it looks bad, kinda of a shame since I guess it has WayForward's logo slapped on it and I love the Shantae games. Game play looks mid, story weak characters feel flat and an opportunity to flesh out Solitas more just kinda wasted. Does have an anti-union message and knowing rooster teeth I'm not the least bit surprised. I really don't think I'll ever play it and even before this review I was questioning it based off the trailer alone.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 6 points 5 days ago

Keep being recommend more no-copyright content and streamers on yt it's nice but I do eventually worry about the algo thinking I'm a child. Remember hearing and I can fully see yt flagging me as a minor thru ai and how I'd might have to verify my age

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

idk how doxxable this is but i got bored and wrote my own disco elysium character sheet for myself IRL and what I think my stats would be

spoilernah, my logic should be a lot higher than that, actually. I'd have at least a 10 in it

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I always try to rp myself but then I hit so many roadblocks because I can't do much, I'd be on the streets if it wasn't for this beautiful man kitsupogi

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

it's probably because you're not a cop. i hope you're not a cop, anyway

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago

Very much not one though god damn indeed keeps sending me shit for secret service and fbi fedposting little do they know I can't keep a secret nor investigate without giving away what I'm doing

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 25 points 6 days ago (1 children)

guy who is trying desperately to convince his trans son not to get his legal gender marker changed to M while making it abundantly clear that while he does support his son's transition and views him as a man, they need to keep his legal gender as "F" in order to keep the car insurance payments down

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[–] musicenjoyer@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

much I want to talk about but using words is hard. I'm somewhat interested in trying pogo stick riding but also interested in tying skateboarding and weightlifting more. Idk what to pick

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago

My city has rec centers and gyms where you pay a nominal fee (and people who are disabled, students, etc either get reduced or free) and you can weightlift. Skateboarding, I guess you could ask a stranger to let you borrow theirs if youre particularly bold - otherwise I think its something you have to buy to try, right? Pogo sticks... I dunno but you might be able to at least try that in a store before you buy.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

My Taiwanese professor just said that my group's presentation was the best.

I will work 16 hour shifts for this man

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 6 points 5 days ago

It really do be like that, back when I was doing presentations I'd always get high praise for being through so headpat good job you've earned it.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Well chat, I did it. Told my irl friends my name and asked them to use my pronouns, told them my old ones upset me, etc. One friend has been trying, correcting himself or just outright using the right ones.

She has not however :/ has not gendered or named me correctly, maybe half the time she's kinda muttered off like, oh yea.. Sorry.. After dead naming me or smth. But doesn't use the right ones after. Obviously today was only day one but idk. That's where we're at.

To make things a bit more awkward, I ha e the same name as one of her old friends, idk if that's why she doesn't want to use it or what. She's generally not super woke either. Idk.

spoilergod fucking damn it I hate this ts. Need to fucking shave too. If only I'd just been born... you know...

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[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 14 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

Taking my trans woman friend shopping today. It's her first time potentially wearing/buying women's clothes. What type of store should we go to? First thought was the pro-trans vintage clothing store I like and letting her raid my male/androgynous closet (have some women's shirts in her size, as a baby step). Also the local trans org has a community closet, I thought that would be more chill than being in a public store.

Pre hormones, pre everything. She's black if it matters for recommendations, around age 30. She has not tried cosmetics yet, either.

Additional info: In men's sizes she wears large T-shirts. Approx 6 ft tall.

As far as style, she has said her eventual goal is to look/dress as feminine as possible. I haven't gotten much more info.

[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Definitely do the vintage and org, those two are great environments to start acclimating yourself in. I'd probably do a check-in after those two to ask if she'd like to try going to any actual stores in person or if she's content and then follow her lead and bring her to a mall or smth

Regarding sizing, general rule of thumb is a women's size is a men's size +1, so she's probably extra large or in the plus sizes depending on her exact measurements, so anything in those sections ought to be okay I think. Admittedly I am tiny (women's small) so I have little experience with the higher end of women's sizes so ymmv.

General unedited recommendations for clothing: if she gets any skirts make sure she tries them on high waisted (at the thinnest part of her waist, a bit above the bellybutton usually) since that helps with making a femme figure and also just looks good imo, neutral colours are a good starting place but she can do whatever she likes, avoiding 90° angles in sleeves is helpful to make shoulders appear less broad, and I'd recommend pushing her to pici up some accessories along with the clothing, I neglected them for a while but they also really help with feeling euphoric.

Can't help with makeup I only just started doing mine literally last week and I started with goth makeup lol.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 9 points 6 days ago (1 children)

omori-miserable nope. we're just friends. still single. i've lost track how many failed romantic attempts i've had years ago and i want to die

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago

*hugggggies*

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago (2 children)

yearning so hard I'm seeing yuri in the wood patterning on my door like what the actual fuck

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Years ago an electrician advised me to change a breaker from a 20 Amp to a 30 Amp and I did but it's not like I upgraded whatever wiring was there from 12 gauge to 10 and now I'm just left wondering when my house is gonna burn down. I wish I paid better attention to which one it was and right now I'm feeling too silly catgirl-happy and tired to think more of it catgirl-flop

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

After checking a gague chart it kinda seems like you are fine. Maximum current also depends on a lot of factors, especially how well you can cool the wire in its environment.

It also depends on what kind of loads you are running. Inductive loads like motors (fans and fridges and ACs) have more risk (per watt) than resistive loads like heating and lighting. On a per watt basis, active loads like electronics and digital devices are the worst, but usually they have low wattage.

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[–] Grace@hexbear.net 12 points 6 days ago

This has been probably one of my most depressing summers in living memory tbh. 4 years anniversary of HRT is creeping up soon, and I have barely any satisfaction with its results. My boobs are too small, despite proper dosaging. They don't look right, and may never will. Ex broke up with me in June, and I've just been stumbling through life since, I feel like I am becoming naturally less sober and I might be having developing delusions. I saw a notification on my phone a couple days ago where someone messaged me "leave her be". But I have no proof that message exists. I feel like everything is crumbling around me. But das life baby.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (3 children)

cw: SIi feel so numb i barely want to move and type this. i have to leave for work in an hour and i can't stop thinking about putting a gun in my mouth and giving it a big sloppy blowjob just to feel something. not even pulling the trigger or even loading it, just sticking a firearm into my mouth and giving it oral sex as if it were a phallus just to fucking feel something. why the fuck am i still single. why the fuck does every attempt at romance fail. i can't keep track of the number of people i've fallen for romantically and literally no one has ever reciprocated. there are poly trans women my age who have more partners than fingers and i can't find one single person who would ever think to themselves "wow EstraDoll is pretty cute I'd date him" so i might as well give oral sex to a firearm and fantasize about ending my miserable fucking existence because no one else is desperate enough to touch me with a 10 foot pole

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago

Mood, I think my main thing is I've just been attracted to unavailable people hence why I've been alone so long. It does sour my mood sometimes being around happy couples and third wheeling if I'm being real or being an even wheel because poly friends. I try not to think about it since I'm prone to spiraling and this isn't something I can think my way out of so i-love-not-thinking

[–] gayspacemarxist@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago

That's rough. I hope things change for you. I'm poly also and I've not had a lot of luck/success with dating in my life. It can be really demoralizing.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 5 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

spoilerMaybe the reason why I like kicking knives and using them to eat food is because I too think of ending myself thonk-cri

[–] Mari@hexbear.net 6 points 5 days ago

::: spoiler pointless gay ramblings I really really want to tell my friend how much i love her but I'm really scared that she will reject me and me ruining our friendship. I'm also really worried that i might be overstepping her boundaries by asking.

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