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[–] Evkob@lemmy.ca 50 points 2 months ago (5 children)

I live off espresso, weed and nicotine, and then I wonder why I don't always feel good.

I did just buy some nicotine patches to try and quit the last one. Maybe fourth time's the charm?

[–] Quik@infosec.pub 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] Evkob@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 months ago

Thanks, I appreciate it!

[–] MycelialMass@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I just hit a year, wont lie its pretty tough but it does get easier. Just keep trying until you can kick it.

[–] Evkob@lemmy.ca 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

I managed a bit over 2 months without smoking once, I did cold turkey. Got hooked again after a stressful night in the ER where another patient waiting offered me a smoke.

Thanks for the encouragement! EDIT: And congrats on a year!

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[–] BurntWits@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 months ago (5 children)

My wife was in the same boat as you, but then she found out she was pregnant and that worked for her. Hopefully she stays off it when the baby’s born.

Looks like you need to get pregnant.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

IIRC that's how my parents quit ages ago. I don't recall if they stopped when my mom got pregnant or when they started trying to get pregnant. Either way, my dad also quit out of solidarity/responsibility at the same time, both cold turkey. Probably having someone else there who can empathize and keep you accountable is a good way to do it. Maybe find a friend who wants to quit too and do it together?

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[–] agentshags@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Have you tried the gum yet?

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[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 months ago

I'm cheerin for ya.

[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 47 points 2 months ago (2 children)

My doctor looked at me like I was a lunatic when I said that I eat exclusively out of habit. It’s interesting to find others in a similar boat.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 49 points 2 months ago

Far better than eating out of boredom :/

[–] decipher_jeanne@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 months ago

I eat because my colleagues look at me weird when it's the 5 th time I forget to eat in a week

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 43 points 2 months ago (2 children)
[–] EmptySlime@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 2 months ago

That feel when you go too long without eating so when you do finally realize you're starving you eat way too much and feel miserable after.

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 months ago

Psssh IMO the concept of time itself is far less natural than the ADHD it molests.

[–] FallenGrove@lemmy.world 28 points 2 months ago

I didn't realize this was a thing until a couple of years ago. I thought I was just cold when it turns out it's just my body telling me I'm hungry

[–] megopie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 2 months ago (5 children)

“I stood up from a squat quickly and feel light headed, I should probably eat something.”

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[–] Hobbes_Dent@lemmy.world 27 points 2 months ago

100%

Double-whammy’d my appetite with blowing up my liver and losing my smell.

The only draw to eat is:

- oh shit I’m shaking it’s been days

- weed

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Damn I wish, I'm more like: Body: I'm hungry Brain: but I just ate a child sized burrito Body: don't care, want more Brain: yeah you're right, we should probably eat some more

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I've been more in this camp for most of my life. I have no solutions, the only thing that worked for me was HRT.

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[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 months ago (1 children)

i wish i were dis...

but instead i drink about 6 liters of water but am STILL hungy... grrrr

[–] phuntis@sopuli.xyz 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

well maybe try eating food... water isn't food

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

but i heard some models drink mor water so they cn eat less food n stff- also i doooo eat food!

i jus dun wana eat lots of it... but evil human instincts make me havin to do it... or feel like havin to do it-

[–] phuntis@sopuli.xyz 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

and that's unhealthy when models do that if you're hungry you should probably eat

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[–] callyral@pawb.social 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

my body: hungry, need food

my brain: sorry i am currently doing a task, let's just ignore that for now i'm sure it won't be a problem...

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago

me too. hunger just goes away when you do tasks

[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 18 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What time do you usually eat me

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

when i gain hyena bite strength to crunch at the marrow

[–] Sidhean@lemmy.world 8 points 2 months ago

You're gonna gain hyena bite strength? Aww, I'm still gonna have to crush bones with a rock like a heckin' ape

[–] Beebabe@lemmy.world 15 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Used to be me. I grew up during heroine chic so it was intentional fasting. Gaining even a pound was unacceptable. That behavior stuck around even though nobody cares anymore. These days, I have rice cakes throughout the day, so I don’t get the shakes. And those little power bar gels.

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[–] Sarcasmo220@lemmy.ml 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

When I was younger I had a really fast metabolism, so it was very hard for me to gain weight. People always told me I was lucky, but I would explain that it comes at a price. If I skipped a meal, I would get the shakes and start to get a headache.

[–] seliaste@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I hate it, I can't skip meals because it makes me feel terrible and I can't gain weight to look a bit chubby... I wish i could gain weight ffs

[–] bigbabybilly@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I lost 100lbs living like this. I even passed out once. Good times.

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Holy crap, what weight did you start at?

[–] bigbabybilly@lemmy.world 22 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Start? About 7lbs, 14 oz.

Ended up around 300 when I was 30. Then went back down to 200 at about 34.

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Lol cheeky. Seriously though, that's awesome and actually doesn't sound too unhealthy in the long run. Gratz on the healthier bod!

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 2 months ago

me all the time, i forget to eat and then i wonder why i'm dizzy. "oops, when was the last time i ate? yesterday?"

[–] Deflated0ne@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Snake meal. One meal a day usually. Sometimes I skip it.

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[–] violetpixel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This post is calling me out, HELP

don't worry, embrace the ADHD

[–] HakunaHafada@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

When on vacation with other people and kind of forced to have three meals per day, I quickly feel like I'm spending all of my time eating.

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago

It was real wild to just kinda lose hunger, but it has done wonders for my dieting. It's real easy to lose weight when stuff like shakes are the only way my body tells me I haven't eaten.

[–] quetzaldilla@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

Vyvanse 40MG

[–] HalfSalesman@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I would be if the person I lived with did not constantly remind me to eat by cooking stuff that smells delicious.

I'm torn about it to be honest. I'd be way less fat and more attractive if I was left to "unhealthily" naturally skip meals. That said, home cooked food is tasty.

[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago
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