Evkob

As someone who has also spoken French their entire life; I disagree. Is French orthography messy? Sure, but it's a consistent mess. Like the other commenter said, once you know "eau" is pronounced "o", you know. Un beau bateau sur l'eau.

Contrast with English, where rough & thorough thought is required throughout tough sentences such as this one just to figure out what the Fuck sound "gh" will make.

I really came to appreciate the difference in English and French when I used to work in pharmacies; my first job was in a French place, and I intuitively knew how to pronounce drug names at first encounter.

I later worked in a place with only Anglophones and I never got the prononciation on the first try. It was a guessing game.

A mix of over and under extraction could be a couple of things, but IMO the most likely culprits are either inconsistency in the grind or pouring technique.

If you have a mix of really fine and coarser particles in your grounds, that'll definitely cause these problems. If you're grinding at home, you can try getting some beans ground for pourover from a café to see if your grinder has this issue.

As for ensuring your pour is giving you an even extraction; start from the centre, pouring in a spiral until you reach the edge, making sure to water all the grounds. You can also give your pourover a swirl during the brew, I tend to do one right after pouring the water for the bloom, and one after my last pour.

The mix in over- and underextracted might also come from me not stirring before drinking the coffee.

I honestly prefer not stirring the coffee afterwards. I like the slightly different notes on the first sip vs the last, but maybe I'm a weirdo.

On the off-chance this was a genuine question, boyshorts are a type of panties.

(if you're in dark mode, boyshorts are in the middle row, right-side column)

Pyramide de Sainte-Foy mentionnée!!

You sound like a hoot, what a great resignation!

How often are you fixing your dishwasher??

Honestly, by asking here you're already way ahead of like 99% of people in your situation.

I think openness to learning/listening is key, which you seem to have going for you, but I'd recommend an approach where you state your openness and let them come to you with that information when they're comfortable to. Example; instead of asking "do you have new pronouns?" just say "if you want to try out new pronouns, let me know!", that kind of thing.

I wish I got gendered as a trans woman, it's not what I am but it's a better guess than being assigned male at sight.

The occasional ma'am always quickly gets "corrected".

I guess you just have to sit with that shame, shame which I'm assuming from your post you already feel because of these thoughts, and figure out what it means for you. I hope for the animals' sake that you stay vegan, but for your sake I hope you do whatever you need to have your peace.

I've definitely struggled with these exact thoughts a lot in the past.

As the longer I've been vegan, and as I've gotten older too, my perspective on veganism (and other decisions I've made for the environment, such as being car-free) has shifted.

I used to be really motivated to try and save the world. Surely, by leading by example, and sharing the facts and science, I could inspire the people around me to make more eco-friendly decisions. While a couple people I know have slightly reduced their meat intake, or now opt for a bicycle instead of a car for the occasional commute; most people only offer excuses and refuse to put their money where their mouth is, values-wise.

My perspective is now somewhat egoist; I'm vegan (and car-free, and other things) for myself. It makes me feel better to not participate in systems which actively harm society, our planet, or any living beings. So I do it. I've accepted the futility of trying to keep our planet livable for our species in the face of capitalism, but it still feels better for me to be vegan.

Do you think you'd feel better if you started eating meat again?

That's a health hazard; you'd be stirring up the black mold. Wear a mask!

But I'm from New Brunswick! I've been told that if we don't let the Irvings refine oil and clear-cut our forests, our economy will collapse!