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It's really hot - Trans Megathread for the week 2025-06-30 to 2025-07-06 (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by Eco@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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it's hot. also i'm growing cacti from seed which is new to me and i'm excited, a few of them are sprouting now. how are you?

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Working with dudes in construction really just breaks whatever crushes I have on them, I said it before but guys getting angry and shouty when the heat gets turned up is ugh. I get being frustrated but like chill or at minimum don't lash out, hoping this puts a stop to my gay dreams towards them I really don't wanna be a therapist or something.

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

men is too headache

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (7 children)

Pro tip if your car ever starts smoking do your best to not let it, it's a bad habit to start and even harder to quit.

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[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

CW for Government Transphbia

Apparently the state department is intentionally defying the court order to let trans people have correct gender markers. Past few weeks have been pretty tough and I keep catching L's. I can't wait until I get that shit in the mail and have yet another emotional episode about it. Im mostly angry at myself because none of the bad stuff would be happening if I just stopped fucking up all the time.

The new blue sugar free monster tastes fucking amazing and I can't get enough of it.

[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Also I'm pretty sure I'm some flavor of asexual and some variety of aromantic. That was a nifty discovery.

where do i sign up to do a megathread?

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Male tomboy with a little bit of E busts it down agender style, are they goated with the sauce?

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

We had two guys from warring gangs sat next to each other lol, I had to convince them the hospital is a truce zone and to leave the fights and taunts for when theyre patched up

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

fireworks are the worst

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

I've been passing at work and wirh all my patients, weird feeling. Besides a little voice work all I did was move to a city.

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 1 month ago (4 children)

One of my nipples grew bigger than the other since starting MTF HRT half a year ago. How long until they become the same size again? The areolas are the same size.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

My right got bigger than left but evened out over about a year. They aren't matchy-matchy, but close to the same size.

As someone who has seen a lot of boobs (I helped breast feeding mothers you sicko) some boobs have different nipple sizes and its really not a big deal. As someone who's loved people with boobs, you dont really care about aereola being exactly the same when it comes time to paw at em and lick em and bite (gently)

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

Catastrophic news. The Mao Mao cosplay I ordered only came with the wig. I checked the order I made. I accidentally selected the wig only option (actually, that was the default option for some reason). Now I'll have to wait till the end of summer till I can dress like Mao Mao (the shipping won't come before I'm off to my parents).

Unless ... I order the Mao Mao cosplay at my parents house, then cosplay in secret?! I make a secret identity?! Fight ~~crime~~ diseases?!

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

dysphoria

My dysphoria is so bad. It might be the worst dysphoria I've ever had. I want FFS so bad. Maybe I should do FFS first instead of an orchiectomy. But the waiting lists are so long and I'm not hopeful it will happen soon.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Been spending most our lives
Living in a gooner paradise
Been stroked now once or twice
Living in a gooner paradise

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

I used extra chili sauce in today’s Friday Rice doggirl-smug

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

everything sucks and we are tired doggirl-cry

that is all

[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Scrutinizing this pic my sister sent of me as a very young kid to see what kind of doll I was playing with

It looks like a girls doll! This is very important for my gender narrative!

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

friday? rice? friday. rice.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (7 children)

I had two drinks over the course of several hours, how am i somehow drunkish? Like, im not drunk drunk, but im more than tipsy??? Granted, i havent had alcohol in weeks, but still two drinks (not even super heavy pours either, like an extra 20% cause the bartender likes meeee) shouldnt hit me like this???? New calibration point for alcohol ig?

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[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (8 children)

ChatGPT, give me a girl name!

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[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

boyshorts r great.... how come i never heard about how great boyshorts r before....

[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Is there a way to buy estrogen online (in the US) that doesn't involve having to use crypto?

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

prescription, or get a friend to buy it with crypto, and reimburse them with cash

but seriously, dragon ordnance (ships from china) accepts bank transfers from a service called wise, I've never used it so I don't know if it's a good option but if you really don't want to go through crypto, look into that

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

My partner had used wise to buy reproduction goods from China. Worked and got the stuff but our bank kept trying to block it early on.

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[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (8 children)

Yesterday

Yesterday was upsetting. I'm done spending 2+ hours typing comments. It's literally not good for my psyche to spend this much time focusing on this site, this problem. It's amounting to its own internal issue for me.

Right now this site is acting like a Demon Pit for my Gender Thoughts that spits them back out as terrible monsters meant to horrify me.

I thought talking would make it better. It has not. I thought I could make friends by being genuine. I have not. I'm surprised that you all are so comfortable with someone getting worked up this often, if I'm being honest.

There's probably some other thread where you all exchange Cool Trans Secrets anyway. It is what it is. I'm not worthy.

As someone early in their transition, I am filled to the brim with questions and concerns and thoughts about gender and sexuality. I don't know if this is normal. I've been single for years, no sex life to speak of. I'm a blank slate, I am so eager to learn.

But you all make me feel like I should keep these things to myself. There's no discussion to be had, I guess. I should just read old Reddit threads where someone else describes what I'm talking about.

I'm putting a few ventilations in one comment. I literally have to limit my screen time or else I'll post all day until I get a response. This isn't how I wanted to be. People can stop this by helping.

gender envy

It's frustrating dealing with gender envy with one of my friends' girlfriend. Her fashion, the stuff she posts is very much my vibe.

So it's weird because she graduated, I don't see her anymore, but the connections are mutual enough that I'm just aware of this person and have no idea how to have friendship, or even a conversation with her.

I think I'd faint if she talked to me. I know that's pathetic. I feel this way about a percentage of the women I go to school with. It's envy, attraction, then shame, then I am invisible. Like a woman would laugh me out of the room for thinking I could ever look like her, be like her.

It's hard. I shut down because I'm like, "well she sees me as a guy, and she has a boyfriend, so she probably isn't going to want to talk to me because she sees me as a guy so she assumes I'm a horndog because straight men only reallybefriend women for sex and I'm not a man so I don't know how to befriend women"

I think we could've been friends. Unless she's still in town it's probably too late.

couples

I just want for a woman or someone to teach me how to be more feminine. I'd be so willing to learn. I'm like a blank slate. I can barely function as a guy. I don't know if anyone has ever been as ready as I am.

I'm also jealous of literally every couple I see. Any time I see two women especially I'm like "WHAT DO THEY KNOW THAT I DO NOT" and I think this comes from the fact that I think people who are able to have friends and keep people around do know something that I don't.

Like you, reading this, if you have someone you just casually text and don't ever really wonder about the consistency of the back and forth, congrats, I'm jealous of your ability to keep people around. You are a social Adonis as far as I'm concerned.

If I'm out and I see two people, my mind is immediatelywondering how they know each other, how long they've been together, how much fun it must be to be together.

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

Grrr I didn't really want to post about this but I'm dornk enough to rn

I'm helping my sister move in a few weeks and I'm going to take the opportunity to also come out as trans to her. We haven't been close since she moved away a little over 10 years ago. I wanted to do this last Christmas but it felt weird since I was still pre-everything at the time, plus we were with our parents as a mini-family gathering, which made it all weird. But this time I'll be going on my own at around 6 months on HRT and with some fem clothing. I know she's somewhat accepting of queer people, but idk how she'll react to her lil "bro" being a trans girl.

Idk I'm not looking for advice or whatever, just wanted to vent my anxieties about something coming up 🤷‍♀️

[–] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 1 month ago (19 children)

I hope I'm doing this right, sorry if I'm not

spoiler

So my egg cracked about a week ago, my partner has been really supportive and I am so much more emotionally available, which is obviously great. Though 20 years of pent-up stuff has me crying every time I think of how greatful I am. I'm posting because I want to get used to talking about being trans since I definitely have a bunch of internalised transphobia (yay...) and I think talking about it will help normalize it for me.

I do have a few supportive friends that I want to tell, but it still feels kind of cringe..... So if anyone could, I would be so happy to have someone ask a few questions.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

dysphoria/euphoria posting?

really dysphoric about my tits, feel like they're still tiny compared to cis girl tits

all the other trans girlies in the discord are swapping tit pics

figure i might as well throw mine into the pile

they look bigger in the pics than i'd thought they'd look

one of them straight up says they thought I had a BA already (14 months HRT, + 8 months prog, zero surgeries)

actually measure them

C cups

okay holy shit never mind uh... i guess i got some real fuckin boobs now, don't i?

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[–] other_platypus@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (14 children)

watching my gf play persona 5 for the first time and I'm just wondering if I could become the kind of person who drinks coffee in the evening, it sounds nice

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

The other day had my hard hat on, my safety glasses kinda low, hair little messed up and the top buttons of my shirt were undone because of heat. Went to the bathroom to wash my hands then pee and wash hands again and I looked real damn slutty in that look shocked-pikachu I don't understand it but it's fine maybe it was the ppe soviet-hmm

[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (4 children)

CW: cigs

Shout-out Doctor Girlfriend for making me comfortable with having a pack a day smoking voice

Also talking to this goth girl right now that thinks it's super hot that I smoke and requests videos of me smoking all day. God bless goth girls

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[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Just get over your rejection sensitivity you dumb stupid bitch

Edit: Just.. press! the happy override button that all humans have! Get the fuck over it!

Edit 2: Why you having problems tho? Don't tell us! Don't worry, just calm down, right?

Edit 3: undeleted for full transparency to those concerned.

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