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Made this one somewhat last minute, but here goes- my reccomendations for this week are a yuri "mystery" VN that's near and dear to my heart (that goes into processing grief) though it's been a while since I last played it, and a cute and sloppy (not bad sloppy) manga about crossdressing (and if you ask me is honestly at least kinda genderfuckery).

I figured I'd also add BonnieBugsy's "Ranma Lazuli" fanfic series (available on Ao3) to make it a triple feature because why the hell not. The two fics I can recommend (not having completed the other large fic yet though I'm sure it would deserve equal recommendation) are pretty near and dear to me as well.

CONTENT WARNINGSSeaBed: processing grief Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy: some chapters, particularly the extras, can be particularly suggestive/R18+ Ranma Lazuli: for the two fanfics specifically I'm discussing, "Skies of Blue, Red Roses Too" covers dysphoria and abusive family circumstances, with the premise of the titular Ranma escaping these and finding a place where she can be and grow into herself. "I of the Storm," in contrast, deals with the abusive and unhealthy dynamics of that "place where nothing ever gets better" from the perspective of someone still living within it- Akane- who herself, also has to deal with her anger and the consequences of (being a victim, but also perpetrator of) abuse, apathy, and past mistakes, while moving past that environment herself.

Premise and things I liked about (SeaBed)Sachiko and Takako were childhood friends and lovers, but unknown circumstances tore them apart. Now they have to piece together the puzzle, as Sachiko keeps hallucinating about Takako, and Takako deals with memory issues of her own.

Personally, Seabed can come across as a bit of a slog (but in a good way- and in a way appropriate to the themes of grief, of mental processing and memory issues, etc). And it can be very heavy. I played it during a time when I was dealing with grief among other things myself and I loved it- I intend to play it again someday (ideally soon), but needless to say it won't be for everyone.

Premise and things I liked about (Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy)Admittedly, this is just comfy, queer (IMO), somewhat suggestive (YMMV, if it were just up to me I'd not even consider it NSFW but it's definitely toeing a line and considering cultural and even circumstantial differences of different online spaces- well yea) and sappy light-hearted romance. Iori is a crossdressing boy(? very eggy if you ask me), and Hazuki is a handsome girl. Needless to say gender is a fuck.

The extra chapters (generally noticeable as something like "chapter 23.5" instead of being an outright "chapter 23" for instance) can be even moreso questionably/maybe "NSFW/18+" (though if you ask me that's all "western puritanism and backwardness/regressiveness" which they then infected many other parts of the world with)

Premise and things I liked about (BonnieBugsy's 'Ranma Lazuli' fanfic series)The two "Ranma Lazuli" fics I can recommend (the others I either haven't read yet or are very short) are both what I would describe as "coming of age/graduation(?)" plots, wherein Ranma moves from her abusive, overwhelming, demanding upbringing to the welcoming and progressive Beach City from Steven Universe (no knowledge of either series is necessary IMO to enjoy these fics, that said) and is finally able to develop within such a healthier environment, and Akane comes to terms with and breaks free of the fallout and that unhealthy environment in her own way, in her own separate life.

Both fics, I feel, correlate with my own defining experiences on many levels- whether it be Ranma's growth and the liberating feeling of finding a positive, comfy space and escaping the small, shitty, abusive world she was raised in prior, or in Akane's own growth and rejection of that same small world, as well as the permanence of one's actions having come from and having been a part of what made that world so small and unhealthy to begin with, and growing past that and coming to terms with it.


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[โ€“] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (3 children)

anxiety/worries of transphobiaGoing with my partner to a birthday party for their friend. Kinda nervous. Most of this friend group (of theirs) is cis guys, but some of the friends' girlfriends will also likely come. I don't really care about the opinions of male strangers, but I am kinda freaking out a bit about with a fear of getting excluded/misgendered by the other women. I put together a cute/fun outfit and I know that my partner will support me regardless but I am still nervous.

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[โ€“] SunshineEnema@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I've been lurking for a while and am just now feeling confident enough to start commenting and posting more. Currently feeling embarrassed about not knowing how to use the hexbear emotes, can anyone explain how?!

catgirl-cry :catgirl-cry:

comcatgirl-cry :comcatgirl-cry:

I have no idea what I'm doing T.T

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[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (11 children)

Sometimes it weirds me out that I live in Britain now. doggirl-sweat

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[โ€“] Thallo@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I got my 10th laser session today, and I'm not happy with the results I'm getting :/

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[โ€“] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 2 months ago

(cw parents stuff)Had lunch with my father for the first time in a few months. Normally I'm fine with it, but for some reason today I've just been completely crashed out ever since getting back home. I was kinda tense the whole time expecting him to comment on my haircut since he and mother would always insult my long hair and insist on how it should be shorter. But he just, didn't. Even though my hair is quite a bit shorter now. I wasn't expecting it to be positive since they used to complain about my hair when it was this length too, but I was expecting something. So I still feel tense, like he definitely thought something, but I don't know.

But it also feels so dumb that this of all things made me crash. Like this is such a small thing, it was a 30 minute lunch, the conversation was nice, I was glad to see him since despite everything I do still care for him. Hell it was the first time I spoke with someone in-person outside of a work context in over a month. It should have been okay. But instead of being able to just feel okay about it I've been exhausted and tense about some bullshit that I definitely know the answer to already all day. It just feels discouraging. But discouraging also feels like too strong a word for something so tiny. I should be better than this. I should be past this by now. So why..

I have been able to feel a bit better at least, I put on one of my dresses and it has really helped, as usual. Just wearing something that makes me happy for a bit even if I'm just lying in bed barely able to do anything. Was browsing dresses earlier too, though that ended out making me feel a little worse when I found one that is perfect for me but too far out of my current budget.. But there'll be other dresses. I might wear my first one tomorrow, it usually helps me feel better. Assuming I have time after all the chores I put off today, at least

[โ€“] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago

Boulevard Montmartre at Night - Camille Pissarro, 1897

been growing out my nails for a little while and took my first shot at shaping them on my own last night and I think it went really well! There's some mild symmetry issues on a couple and one I accidentally ended up filing down a little shorter than the rest, but I don't think anyone other than me would really notice and I think it's really good for my first time ever.

hoping to have the time / energy over the next couple of days to paint them - it's maybe a little silly but I have a dr's apt this weekend and I kinda wanna have my nails pretty before then doggirl-sweat

[โ€“] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago

okay I lied one more comment because I must publicly state how amazing that image is

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I love being a queer loser, nothing else I rather be to be honest comfy-cool

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[โ€“] semioticbreakdown@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago (10 children)

i look at everything i read about and see dialectics. evolution? dialectics. semiotics? dialectics. cognitive science? dialectics. cybernetics? dialectics. language? of course thats fucking dialectics. i even thought to myself the other day, "i should read hegel maybe". a statement of the deranged if ever there was one

who told me to read theory. you will pay for this

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

This dude commented finally on my painted nails in class, no judgement from him other than I should probably repaint them soon yea just been so tired these past days that I can't do much. Also pog on no mean comments, think it's just a bit hard being mean to someone face to face. Women usually are nice to me about my presentation so to get encouragement from dudes too feels nice

transphobia(?)walking down the street and as i'm turning a corner I start getting near this old dude coming from the way I'm about to go. As I start moving in his general direction, he looks at me and starts grinning and beckoning, fucking weird already. When I get closer, because i'm moving to go past him on the sidewalk, at some point he gets a close enough look at me (he squinted a bit then his eyes went kinda wide) and he stops and changes to a halting motion and goes "whoa....". Such an uncomfortable interaction, like fuck off buddy

[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

dysphoria, crappy mental healthSpent like an hour and a half shaving and still feel disgusting

It's never gonna be enough to make it okay until I get full laser and that doesn't seem anywhere near obtainable from here and I just feel fucking terrible and despondent

My brain's bad today

I wanna cry and can't

I need to figure out a good hair removal and skincare routine, I feel so gross and dejected by how much effort it takes for such a mediocre outcome

[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

Debating whether I should make a Facebook to keep in touch with my family, but idk if I want to potentially be jumpscared by old pictures of myself. bocchi-glitch

[โ€“] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago

Starry Night Over the Rhone - Van Gogh, 1888

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I filled out a rental application yesterday and one of the questions was "if you came under financial difficulty, do you know someone who would be willing to loan you the money so you can still pay rent?" My jaw hit the floor. Is this a common question? I've only ever rented once.

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[โ€“] Mallow@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Does anyone have advice or resources for an androgynous/mixed sex characteristics looking nonbinary person with autism and other disabilities in finding work ? I'm trying to leave a bad living situation so I can make more progress on my transition goals and become more independent. I can move in with my partner very soon but I have to contribute to the household expenses. I have some skills from my undergrad degree and also art hobbies but I've struggled to thrive anywhere for long...

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[โ€“] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Just had a date with a really hot trans woman and im-fuckin-gay hexbear-non-binary leslie-shining

[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago

very late Dorley SpoilersI would have never at the start thought Diana would be one of my favourite characters.

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (3 children)

sick animal, possibility of euthanasiaFamily cat has got terminal kidney disease, she's pretty old just under 20. It's technically my brothers cat, he got it when he was a teenager so as you might imagine it actually became my mom's cat cause he did about the level of care expected of a teenager thar demands a pet but is quite bad at keeping up chores. Then she became my sisters cat when she was grown up - and then back to my mom when sister went abroad to study. Now I'm watching this cat.

The cats feeling better after being pretty badly dehydrated. Ive just been giving some oral rehydration solution that's more or less the same as people get. But there will likely be no longer term recovery and we've got to talk tonight about options.

The vet (me too) think a short course of IV rehydration would be best along with a low protein diet and a special med that helps out kidneys in this kind of damage - but it's expensive, like >$1K which no one in the family has to drop on a cat this old. Another option is SQ hydration which will likely not be nearly as effective, but I'm comfortable doing, along with a little PO rehydration which I'm doing right now anyway - it's significantly cheaper, just $50 for the supplies. Third option is euthanasia soon - this is a terminal condition and it will be the thing that kills her one way or another, what we'd like is quality life until sis is back from abroad but none of us have a spare $1K around and it's hard to say if she'll live that long even with the "premium" IV rehydration. Fourth option isn't really a choice but I guess we could gamble on PO rehydration until she gets sicker and sicker and then someone decides it's enough and we euthanize or she passes on her own.

Shes also pretty constipated (due to the dehydration), vet thinks lactulose/bisacodyl/?PEG or whatever could help but the degree of firmness suggests she may need an enema and then removal for which she'd have to be put under anesthesia - which she may not survive given her state of health and age. I think we're good trying some lactulose at home and seeing what happens after a day or two.

I paid for the bloodwork, pretty expensive. $400 yeesh.

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[โ€“] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I love getting specific lines from songs stuck in my head. It's like artsy stimming.

Does anyone have any lyrics floating around their head right now?

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[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 8 points 3 months ago
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