It's not "gone", but the notion of it being "acceptable" is gone:
Using 'retard' as a slur, not only for people with intellectual disabilities but also just for people or things you think were stupid.
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CRT screens and incandescent lamp.
Having recently played some retro games on era appropriate hardware, I'm actually a little sad CRTs are gone.
Obviously they were heavy, hard to manufactur safely, and were filled with toxic materials, but man are they like the perfect anti-aliasing tool for retro games. I'm sure some good filters exist to replicating it on newer monitors tho.
Overall tho I am glad both of these things are no longer the defacto used tech.
Smoking sections
As long as the law is properly enforced. It's worse to have smokers just all over the place
George W. Bush's presidency. I don't know what the kids are smoking when they say current republicans make him look "classy" or that Trump's first term was worse than his. He bred a constant state of paranoia and xenophobia and used it to justify killing countless people in the middle east. The damage done to that part of the world is staggering and everyone just treats it like background noise.
Also that decade post-SpongeBob where every kid's cartoon was about a loud, annoying, dumb guy.
Smoking everywhere. For anyone who wasn't around for the 70s/80s/90s, everything was tinged yellow and smelled of smoke. Car/plane/train seats had built-in ashtrays. Restaurants had smoking sections separated from the non-smoking sections by waist-high walls.
I have asthma and it sucked. Not sure if I grew out of it as I got older or if there's just not a miasma of smoke around everywhere, but it rarely bothers me anymore.
Pagers. Having to find a pay phone. Looking through newspapers for jobs. Absolutely gutless emissions- strangled malaise era cars with horrible brakes and numb steering.
Looking through the paper for a job was in some ways better. Now it's so hard to even get past the initial filters to an actual human because job postings get spammed with hundreds of applications, many from people who are underqualified and/or straight up lying on their resume. For remote jobs, you're competing against the whole country whereas with jobs in the paper you were mostly competing against those in your local area.
Is funny how we have all this tech for it and they’ve only managed to enshittify the process. Some sites are going back to the original purpose like indeed but it’s still like tossing your resume into space.
Women having to get husband’s permission to open a bank account (speaking of the US).
Medicine in general has gotten a lot better. I'm also able to buy stuff like silken tofu without having to drive quite far to find a specialty store that sells it.
The lack of privacy, independence, and freedom that generally comes with childhood.
Not 100% gone yet, but gas powered yard tools are dying. Battery powered tools are just better in 99% of use cases.
Two stroke engines do seem dead though which is awesome, because mixed gas was a massive pain in the ass.
Even better: tools on a wire
Wired tools are also a pain unless you have a limited scope for movement.
I make sure to have plenty of extension cords, and sockets hanging from most ceilings (with a place to tuck them away).
I don't know hoe relevant this is, but I am in a 240 volt country. So extension cords don't really run hot or poorly even with quite a bit of distance and high loads
I remember fighting with gas weed whackers endlessly as a teen trying to do chores… having to dick with the choke for a cold start, having to pump prime them (and it being possible to over prime and lock them out), then you had to carry them around and use them with the exhaust at steak searing temperature… and if you didn’t know how to tune an idle they’d just die in your hands if you didn’t goose the throttle occasionally
This is a great one - don’t miss small gas engines even a little bit lol
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CRT displays.
I like to have one around 😅. I like the look and it'll probably survive me
Survive you or outlive you?
Dial-up internet. I would open a website and go do something else for a minute until it loads, then fight with my parents when they pick up the phone when I've been downloading something for 3 hours.
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I'm glad that Furbys, inflatable furniture, and disposable cameras are no longer mainstream. And may they never return.
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At the risk of becoming too anti-casual, anti-gay slurs were so common in the US up until the mid/late 90s, if you weren't there for it you just have no idea. One of the Bill and Ted movies (I think the first one?) just randomly dropping it in there as a joke, where the slur is the joke, is a good example of just how it was then. There's still bigotry but it's not as casual and pervasive.
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Henry Kissinger
May he rot into nothing and be forgotten
Hair bands.
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