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Very similar story for me. I’m at a new place after my last one abruptly laid off thousands. Here I can’t exactly disappear amongst the noise of a massive company. I’m watching the newly hired, younger neurodivergents burn out (one particularly violently) after barely a year. It is frustrating. I mean, what advice can you tell them? Mask less? 😑

Management has surprisingly recognized this for one that had a meltdown right in front of an higher-up, and offloaded their work into a more focused role so they’re less overwhelmed. But I’m seeing them start to spiral again after a personal issue happened… I have a dreadful feeling they will not have their contract renewed. It breaks my heart because they are very talented and I like them. It’s like watching a mirror of my younger self having done the same crap. I try to take the pressure off when they ask for help but it’s affecting my own stress. I can’t save the world. Too old. Too tired.

Part of problem I think is when you excel, they expect that level of performance all the time. I try not to show my whole hand in all things as a result as a sort of defense mechanism. Because I know they’ll just keep piling more work and expectations. It is hard to find a balance. I know I can’t always be full-on. Annnnd I still get bored and have to keep the slop in check.

If this doesn’t work out I’m probably going your route and starting my own thing.

The trick is to do something very hard to master and scratches that incessant need to create and/or fix. I think this is why ADHD and other neurodivergent people gravitate to IT - there is always, always something new. But don’t worry, management or shareholders or the company getting bought will fuck it up eventually. Maybe all three! So, try to have a backup plan and avoid getting attached. Have a hyper focus outside of it, something where you can unmask and relax.

Oh. And learn what burnout is and how to deal with it. We tend to get it extremely quickly. I burn out faster than a 4th of July sparkler. That’s the only sparkly shit I get. Or else you’ll find yourself in this endless cycle wondering why. Vacation isn’t the cure.

It has nothing to do with your issue.

The BBB is a bullshit company just like J. D. Power and Associates.

It felt like that was the intent. In the intro you even see a guy in power armor jump off a building and when you get your first suit there’s a little “I’m here to kick ass and chew bubblegum” sort of intro. Or at least that’s how I remember it.

The dumbing down of character interaction is what made me feel like it wasn’t quite “real Fallout” and trying to break into the mainstream. It worked. People I know that do NOT have the patience for New Vegas or 3 are super into the franchise now. Despite giving up after the “read all these terminals errybody ded lol” launch of 76. (They went back to 4).

Also the burning desire to answer rhetorical questions that I know are rhetorical. Or to point out their sarcasm isn’t as clever as they think and look like a jerk.

Resident Evil after OG RE:2 and Code Veronica. Maybe they set the bar too high for me. Nemesis was frustrating as hell and stressed me out. Plus, the mystery was gone, they just beat you over the head with the storytelling leaving nothing to the imagination. Cautious exploration and wonder turned into a frantic, aggravating hide and seek with a yelling OP monster.

Nearly any game where your weapon breaks. Some handle it well, but most don’t. Feels like crappy, low effort, artificial difficulty to me.

Mortal Kombat. It was interesting at first with the break from sprites but coming from SF:2 and SNK fighters the controls seemed incredibly awkward and the lack of frames for animations felt off.

I also remember trying it for the first time and not understanding the hype or why it was so expensive. When I worked in a restaurant later on it finally made sense. I was on the line then and used it in sandwiches. Their description is dead on… I mostly treat it like plant butter. But I’ll eat it straight up now that I’ve developed a taste for it.

It’s been backdoored for a long while. Epic has a similar issue. Two factor is useless. They don’t change your email because they don’t need to and/or don’t want you to close your account.

Narcissistic personality types gravitate toward this type of thing. Found that out the difficult way.

Yeah that’s a squat pot.