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What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner's attention?

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[-] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 108 points 1 year ago

Shaka, when the walls fell

[-] evatronic@lemm.ee 52 points 1 year ago

Mirab, with sails unfurled.

[-] getseclectic@sh.itjust.works 42 points 1 year ago

Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra

[-] SzethFriendOfNimi@lemmy.world 33 points 1 year ago

Darmok! And Jalad! At TANAGRA!!!!

[-] LeftHandedWave@lemm.ee 32 points 1 year ago

Sokath. His Eyes Uncovered!

[-] BumpingFuglies@lemmy.zip 26 points 1 year ago
[-] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 22 points 1 year ago

The Star Trek community on Lemmy is what got me to start watching Star Trek. I'm starting on TNG and literally just finished this episode last night. Very happy that I understood this reference.

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[-] Greenknight777@lemmy.ca 23 points 1 year ago

Riker, his face bearded.

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[-] Windex007@lemmy.world 85 points 1 year ago

My wife knows that if I say "Honey, I need to do that thing with my butt" she knows I have to poop, with everyone else listening blissfully unaware.

[-] BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee 33 points 1 year ago

That's pretty slick, might have to steal it

[-] Windex007@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago

Ok but don't use it in Canada I can't risk people learning what it means around here

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[-] DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com 77 points 1 year ago

When my wife can't remember someone's name, she'll grab my hand and squeeze it with two quick squeezes "Help. Me.".

That's my cue to either work their name into a comment/question or, if I don't know them, introduce myself followed by a "And you are..?". Works pretty well all of the time.

Of course, being together so long, and loving to fuck with each other's heads when we can, sometimes I'll just stand there and give them my best Aussie "owzitgoin?", and watch my wife squirm. That's usually when the nails dig into my hand, hoping to draw blood.

Worth it.

[-] redeyejedi@lemmy.world 64 points 1 year ago

If we are together one of us will use the phrase "Is there Lemon in this?" And hold up our drink which is code for get me out if this conversation/situation.

If we aren't in the same room. We pull out our phone and text Save Me. Then the other person comes and finds you to say that So and So needs them immediately. Yadda, yadda.

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[-] LrdThndr@lemmy.world 64 points 1 year ago

Both my wife and my friends know this one.

If you ever see me drinking a Bud Light Lime, talking about Bud Light Lime, or requesting a Bud Light Lime, that means I’m likely being held against my will. Come back with the police.

[-] sara@lemmy.today 56 points 1 year ago

“Do we have any pineapple at home?” is our safe word for social situations when one of us needs a reason to leave a situation or change the conversation because they’re uncomfortable. I detest pineapple.

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[-] 1bluepixel@lemmy.world 55 points 1 year ago

My spouse and I lived in a bunch of countries over the years. We speak Quebec French, English, and Spanish, as well as a smattering of Chinese, Bulgarian, Korean, and a few odds and ends here and there.

We basically speak whatever we think people around us won't understand. Very colloquial Quebec French in non-French-speaking countries, Chinese around white people, Bulgarian around non-white people, or even a cryptic mix of everything when we're not completely sure.

We figure anyone who understands is probably someone we want to know... Hasn't happened very often, but it does happen. So far we weren't saying anything overly embarrassing when we got caught, but we sure as hell have no filter between us because of this!

[-] Drusas@kbin.social 62 points 1 year ago

I've taught my husband to speak a bit of Japanese, but we don't use it this way because that's extremely rude.

[-] 1bluepixel@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I wouldn't say we speak in people's faces, but we make comments to each other about random stuff. I would never say something rude about somebody in their faces, but my spouse might go, "Can we go back to the hotel, I really need to take a shit" or something silly and unfiltered like that.

[-] Drusas@kbin.social 13 points 1 year ago

I get it, I just still think it's rude and avoid doing so myself.

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[-] radix@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago

That's probably a cultural thing, isn't it? In diverse areas, people don't expect to understand what they hear others say, so there's no "Speak ___; we're in ___" culture.

[-] AstridWipenaugh@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago

I'd say it's more of a context thing. If you're hanging out in a group of people chatting together and you code switch to speak to someone so nobody else can understand, that's rude. If you're just speaking to someone in another language on your own, nobody cares (except xenophobic bigots).

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[-] digitalgadget@kbin.social 18 points 1 year ago

I love those videos where people are caught trying to have a private conversation by someone who speaks an unexpected language! Also it's shocking to me how many people loudly speak common dialects of Chinese and don't expect anyone to follow... literally over a billion humans can understand Mandarin, someone is listening.

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[-] Subverb@lemmy.world 54 points 1 year ago

The last time we were in Paris my wife and I came down with a stomach bug that gave us explosive diarrhea. Now, rather than say we have diarrhea and need to rush home we say we're "feeling rather Parisian".

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[-] Dylan 49 points 1 year ago

Sign Language works pretty well.

We picked it up when my daughter was younger and we just kept going. Now we use it to speak to each other from across the room during loud events.

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[-] CraigeryTheKid@lemm.ee 44 points 1 year ago

Ha! Our trick is that we're never with company. We are very boring homebodies.

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[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 43 points 1 year ago

"Paying bills" == having sex

[-] indigomirage@lemmy.ca 37 points 1 year ago

For us, it's "Paying bills" == "Paying bills"...

[-] Decoy321@lemmy.world 31 points 1 year ago
[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago

Uh, different bills have different due dates, yeah that's it

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[-] dandroid@dandroid.app 17 points 1 year ago

I have mine on "autopay".

[-] CoconutGirl@lemm.ee 39 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If I tell my partner that something drains the color out of a room, she knows that whomever I'm talking to is a bigot/phobe and we leave. More often than not though, she'll ask me who it is and tell them off.

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[-] owenfromcanada@lemmy.world 36 points 1 year ago

Dinosaur noises, typically when we're trying to find each other.

[-] davidgro@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago

My dad would meow loudly when him and my mom got separated while shopping. Mom would rush over as fast as possible to shut him up.

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[-] Wojwo@lemmy.ml 36 points 1 year ago

Instead of spelling it out or code, my wife and I will use increasingly obscure synonyms to hide our conversations from the kids.

They figured out "frozen confection" meant ice cream, so I need a new one.

[-] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago

I do this as well. I can't say I've kept a lot of secrets, but at least the kids have a large vocabulary.

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[-] jarredpickles87@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago

Hypercooled dairy sugar blend

[-] scutiger@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

Lacto-saccharine sounds better

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[-] BigNote@lemm.ee 34 points 1 year ago

None. My wife doesn't know about tact, or the polite white lie or anything like that. She doesn't have time for that bullshit. It's one of her endearing qualities.

[-] skybreaker@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago

Movie quotes. It's amazing how many questioning looks we get from other people when quoting movies to each other.

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[-] jasondj@ttrpg.network 32 points 1 year ago

Pig Latin. Kids haven’t figured it out yet. One can spell so that went out the window.

Next stop is probably Morse code.

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During the pandemic, my wife and I became more expressive with our eyes, because of our masks.

If I notice her going neutral face with her eyes, I know she's about to get upset. Where if my eyebrows pretty clearly tell my mood to her.

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[-] Tutunkommon@beehaw.org 19 points 1 year ago

Married 30 years. Eyebrow position and, "eh?"

"Eh."

And we are pretty much on the same page.

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[-] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 19 points 1 year ago
[-] Blackmist@feddit.uk 18 points 1 year ago

Any fizzy lemon & lime drink is now Sauvignon.

This stems from a meal nearly 20 years ago where she asked for "Sprite or 7-Up" and was given a large glass of Sauvignon Blanc by a slightly hard of hearing waitress.

[-] ForestOrca@kbin.social 18 points 1 year ago

Nice try. It's secret.

[-] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 year ago

A “look” is usually enough to let each other know something is up.
We haven’t really figured out how to communicate what that “something” is though and always end up more confused than informed.

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