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In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").β€Š Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful


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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (2 children)
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[–] ZoomeristLeninist@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (8 children)

having nail polish on all week has made me feel great! gonna do this all the time!!

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 17 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Public Universal Friend Megathread! lea-manic

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 17 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

@EstraDoll@hexbear.net sorry I missed the lego’s gathering at your place! When’s the next one? screm-pretty

[–] naom3@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (8 children)

So I’m starting to wonder if I’m getting delusional about whether I’m still boymoding. The other day I was talking with an instructor who I had met before but hadn’t really talked with and out of the blue he was like β€œoh before I forget, pronouns. They/them right?” And I straight up replied with β€œsure” madeline-scared He also said that he was reminded because he was talking to [other instructor] earlier and apparently that instructor mentioned me and then corrected his pronoun usage and then he wrapped up this story with β€œhe is getting better at this”.

I have never told anyone irl to use anything other than he/him, they just assumed I didn’t use them. Apparently it’s becoming common knowledge or something that I’m not cis, which is, uh, bocchi-head-shake like I don’t even present any differently (aside from that week I wore nail polish) I literally wear the same clothes I always have. The first week of class an instructor was doing attendance and called my (very masc) first name and I raised my hand and he just looked at me like blocky-wat

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Oh no the cis are getting better at clocking our precious boymoders

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (5 children)

I don't know why this is the case, but I hate how hard calling myself a woman is. Maybe with time/transition progress it will be more natural feeling? I definitely want to be, so I guess I am, idk it still feels wrong.

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (2 children)

HASAN SHAVED boohoo noooooooooooooooooooooooo~oooooooooooooooooooo...~

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[–] TheChemist@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

The State of Kansas has just become the Sixth US State to officially recognize Asexual Awareness Week, which starts today, on the 20th. I am happy this happened, as an Asexual Man.

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (4 children)

PFLAG and WPATH sound like environment variables

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Bought a lesbian bracelet but I'm too anxious to wear it outside :/

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Being a blue whale seems like a sweet gig (other than the noise pollution) just swim around with your mouth open, visit the carribean laze your way to the Indian ocean, visit by the antarctic

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Is it toxic that I like when people I date are a little bit annoyed with me?

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[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (4 children)

Wore a skirt in front of my mother in law for the first time today and I could see her see it and then pointedly not acknowledge it. Why is this the most common reaction that I get? It’s maddening

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Transphobia, misgenderingCissies will hear me say I'm a woman, I go by she/her, and will correctly gender me once then never again. Unlimited forced transition on the cis

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (3 children)

i was going to type more about possibly thinking about dating a poly person and how i feel about that but fuck me i got to shower and head out to work too soon to write that essay today. gay thoughts later

i like girls :)

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (10 children)

So I'm trying to apply myself to some theory in earnest, now that I've had the funny book as a little treat, and

We must also stop pretending that there are essential differences between women and men. This begins with the acknowledgement that there are exceptions to every gender rule and stereotype, and this simply stated fact disproves all gender theories that purport that female and male are mutually exclusive categories.

kel-bliss Thank fuck, holy shit. On some level I know this is probably the most basic tenet of feminism and gender theory proper, but it's still gratifying to see it reproduced in such an oldass text, especially because I came to just this conclusion entirely independently. This shit rules.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The negotiating committee says: "this is probably the best deal we're going to get, it's up to membership to decide if this deal is acceptable but we recommend ratification"

The general membership seems to be saying: "we can get better."

And I can sympathize, I do think we can get better. But I don't really have faith that my fellow union members are actually willing to go to the mat to get better, or if they're financially able to. Cause I don't think this government is going to give and I think if we strike, strike pay is SHIT in the first place, they'll legislate back to work - and I don't know about the wherewithal in membership to put up an illegal strike. Cause they will fine us as a unikn, some members (mostly in leadership) will be threatened with fines and even jail time, but it's definitely a struggle we can win to get better pay which is one of the big disappointments from membership. So many of us are living paycheck to paycheck and are single parents and can't afford strike pay for months.

I hope, should we ratify, they keep that anger for the length of the contract, they build up their coffers and solidarity funds and communal stuff, so that the NEXT contract if we don't get a better raise again - then we can go to the mat and wildcat if we need to. But just shouting "fuck you" in general isn't gonna win us much better than the current offer and it could end up worse...

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (2 children)

:arm-L: workout done :arm-R:

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[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (3 children)

getting back in to weird paranormal shit. ghosts, aliens, weird magic stuff all that jazz. and my god none of these people have even just a modicum of critical thought, skepticism about extraordinary claims, or ability to question their own ideas. I want paranormal shit to be real, because it'd be cool and make the world way more interesting, and I know in my heart of hearts I want to believe which is why any time I find myself being swayed I'm like woah ok we gotta touch base here and look critically at this shit. if you want it to be real, you need to be 1000% more skeptical, because your brain is trying to get you to do a dumbass cognative dissonance and look past actual rigorous critical analysis.

why are there so few reasonable 'idk bro, could be somethin, but we'd neeed more evidence. as of right now, this is merely a weird thing that more than likely is nothing' paranormal investigators!

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Initial consult for my therapist went well! We scheduled a follow-up, and I am looking forward to it!

I also got a bra that fits. The cup is a bit big, but I have some sort of mastia due to my weight so I should be able to fill it out with some inserts. Idk how things are going to go as I lose weight/start HRT, but it's affirming for now. With that, I am working on assembling another outfit. I want to try something goth/punk. I will try to figure out some normal femme clothes eventually, but if it's in private for now then I might as well have fun as a baby trans. I also want to go to some metal shows again and it would be nice to not seem like a square.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (10 children)

so i've alluded to this before but i don't really have a ton to really write out about this and I'm like 90% sure I know the right answer here and I hate the answer but i got to vent still

rambling about the girl i'm into being poly but how that kind of puts of me off the idea of dating her. this might come off as kind of shitty towards polyamorous people idk. if it is call me the fuck out pleaseso anyway, this one girl that i've really, really fallen for pretty hard mentioned to me offhand the other day that she is, in fact, polyamorous and i'm really conflicted by that answer because like, yay i guess that means she (might) be open to dating me but the more i think about it, the more i realize that like, i don't think i could be that fulfilled in a relationship where my partner has her attention split between three other people and also me? I really need that one on one connection and yeah, I'm already jumping several steps by assuming she'd be willing to date me just because she's poly, though I still think that there are other signs she might be into me back, I feel like if it actually came down to it, if she asked if she wanted to date, despite the fact that I'm really, really into her, I'd have to just... grit my teeth and say no because I can already see this not working out on my end? I still do really want to at least remain friends and not have this get any more awkward than it has to be with trying to force a romantic connection that I know I won't be completely satisfied with

There is one obviously right answer here, and it's to look the girl I wrote a love letter to with no intention on sending it dead in the eye and saying "I think we should just be friends" and fuck me that fucking hurts to say

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Sometimes in a relationship you have to take a firm hand top-use-words

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (9 children)

Poiting out my current stim phrases to bully myselfSomewhere somehow someway, I picked up saying "it rocks/it rules" or "this rocks/this rules" or similar about fucking EVERYTHING, both ironically as a shitpost and unironically for some reason.

I am not sure where this phrase comes from, I think it is Orange Book. Maybe it's when she says "it's not even ironic: Poison rules" about the big patch of the first Poison album cover on the back of her stupid denim jacket? My brain remembers that she was describing something terrible with "which rules" or something.

Please send help.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Waking up crying, gross, woke up too early now theres not enough time to fall asleep again

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (5 children)

Ahhhhhhhhh, I have a couple days off~ I got violin lessons today, trashy TV to watch with my mom, and a union meeting, but tomorrow... tomorrow is gonna be a total chillax day~

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (2 children)

GAY, UP TOO EARLY AND VERY HUNGRY

doggirl-tears

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

sadposting

yes-honey-left

I'm so fucking tired

I need a fucking break

I need like a week in a nice cabin in the woods to myself miles away from other people with a big warm comfortable bed to hibernate in and try to make up for months of a sleep deficit but that's completely unrealistic

I have a whole thing about gender shit and family shit to vent but now I'm gonna attempt to sleep and kick my own brain's ass if it's uncooperative in doing that because I'm so fucking exhausted that I'm seeing shit in the corner of my vision that isn't there

Goodnight/morning

sleepi

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (2 children)


What do you mean? This is the sole reason I transitioned.

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[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Part of me thinks that Hexbear should take a more active role in brigading and bullying transphobes

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Got my flu and covid shot and now my arms are mad at me about it bleh

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Therapy in 7 mins 😍

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago (1 children)
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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

I have three fashion styles:

-gremlin in big hoodie and tracksuit pants, just wearing the comfiest clothes

-genderless adventurer on some kind of quest

-nude

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[–] Edie@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (6 children)

New mega thread!

Up with trans

Down with cis

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (5 children)

i am in sight of 99 agility in runescape madeline-stare

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