dawg if you had the energy and interest to get sexy after working 70 hours you'd be a rare bird, that shit drains people. This isn't on you, this is surely on the pressures and effort of 70 miserable hours of labor every week.

It's probably depression I am right there with you. I can't even tell when girls are flirting with me when they spell it out for me.

Love, you aren't broken. The world is broken. You're doing your best to survive in it, and nobody here will fault you for going into survival mode.

You really need a proper rest, which a date would chew up. :/ Like a week of no work, low drugs (I don't count drunk days as rest days personally... they do something but recovery ain't it) (keep taking your meds tho), and low commitments. But that may not be feasible. Your mind is pushing away things that may interrupt sleep and loafing around.

Dude, you are one of the most love-filled people on this site. Everyone here thinks you're great. That said, anxiety is hard to crack through I know because I get it myself.

Seeing a psych is a good idea, as it does sound like depression which can fuck with the things you mentioned. But my advice for what it's worth is that there is nothing wrong with not being sexual all the time. Try to go with the flow and not think too much about what people think of you (easier said than done, I know). You are cool, you are nice, so leave the expectations behind because you are enough and your date probably agrees, otherwise they wouldn't be dating you!

Best of luck, I know you'll get through this.

It seems like a good thing to be open about with your partner (with the explanation that it's probably from work and stress driving you into the ground). You leave it ambiguous, but it might be nice to see them without worrying about the expectations you mention or making a "date" out of it (idk if that factors in for you, it would for me at least).

I have no desire to do anything these days, and everything seems like way more of a chore than it should. By "these days" I mean as far back as my ADHD ass brain can clearly remember. So less than a year but more than 6 months.

This suggests that you’re depressed and/or exhausted. You’d get a more accurate assessment if you somehow reach a non-depressed and/or more free time baseline to see whether you still want to have sex and just exhausted and depressed, or something else.

Depression seems the likely explanation to me. Might need a med adjustment?

My partner and I are both Acespec. I'll be 100% real with you, you sound burnt out or depresso. Not saying that being ace can't be a factor but from your opening paragraph it sounds like burnout. I hope you can feel better soon <3

70 hours a week

And you wonder why your sex drive is low. Overwork will mess with you like that. Not saying you aren't ace, but your body probably wants some rest before it can go fuck.

If not depression, definitely burnout. Maybe a bit of both.

It sounds like you're past the "fuck this I don't want to do it" stage and now you are at the "I don't even care anymore" stage. I think stress and stuff are fucking with you, which could be causing your depressive symptoms. It's normal to lose libido during high stress times. It's also normal to lose libido when you are overworked and overwhelmed. Combine the two? Or even more factors? Pretty normal to have a low drive.

As a high schooler I thought I was ace and even told people I was because I had so little interest and didn't remember ever having any.

It was 100% depression. If a teenage boy can have that complete loss in interest from depression I think it could happen to anyone. Hope everything gets better for you, you deserve better then this shitty system.