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Yeah, you kinda have to say it. Some of us are old and out of touch...
Huh and here I just did it cause my house was creaky and my step-dad was a light sleeper. If we woke him we would get screamed at or worse. Walking toe/heel made me quieter in the dark.
Toe walking is a fairly common childhood autistic trait and one of the main things researchers associated with it early on.
I even ran on my toes, never was diagnosed. It's funny (not actually) reaching adulthood and everything start making sense.
Running on the balls of your feet is a sprinting technique. It’s what a lot of people do. So not a definitive trait of autism.
Zero technique, I just liked the dinosaur walk. And actual (extinct) dinosaurs, btw.
i wonder if it’s why i am suffering from near crippling mortons neroma now. basically did the dinosaur walk for a long time, played DDR like that. still have short ligaments in my legs.
Also good for distance running ... Or just all running. The impacts absorb in soft tissue when the knee is bent instead of in the knee joint.
Autism
How come?
A common quirk of autism is putting pressure on the fronts of your feet (though rarely as high as this) while walking.
I do it a bit, but the only sign that I am is that my shoes wear down on the front faster than other people, while the heel generally stays intact.
I do this but only when I'm wearing sandals or am barefoot, if I'm in my boots I walking notably more on my heel. Seriously I have to swap the padding on them every once in awhile because I bore a hole in the damned things. I think it's a balance thing.
I really need Lemmy to stop pointing out things I didn’t notice I have been doing forever and then telling me it’s an autism thing.
I'm enjoying it, I feel like I've finally found my people
Do you eat food... Cause its a known fact that 100 % of autistic people eat food!
Depends. How are you eating? Are you meticulously separating your food and eating it in a particular order? Do you break apart your tator tots into tiny bits, or do you pull the chocolate chips out of your muffins to eat them separately? Maybe you eat all the green veggie straws, then all the yellows, then all the orange ones, never deviating from that pattern?
It’s fascinating looking around the lunch room in a school for autistic children.
I know some who forget to do that
Eat? Autism.
Forget to eat? Also autism.
No forgetting to eat is ADHD
There are autists who don’t feel hunger
There's been information coming out that indicates having autism is quite common among ADHD people, and is significantly under-diagnosed, especially for people who got their ADHD diagnosis a long time ago.
No no, nonononono... They meant "eat autism". Like, the slang.
Hey! :(
I think it is more common among autists
I think people like to take any symptom related to autism and just claim that anything similar is also a symptom. Like, "autistic people do X a lot so if you ever did X you're probably autistic". Not how it works.
every once in a while I finally see a post that I don't relate to, and I cling to those hard
that explains why I keep getting wear on the fronts of my shoes holy shit
And why is that?
There can be a few reasons. Sensory, coordination, neurological... Usually it simply feels more natural.
…pretending to have digitigrade legs…
to walk like animals who walk on their toes
I do not believe that is as relevant as you think it is.
There is a certain overlap between autistic people and furries/therians, but that is very much not usually the reason for this behaviour.
EDIT: usually
I'm not really a furry, but this is still part of it for me
Man, even that was a sign!? Is everything I've ever done just textbook autism?
If you're as old as me the only thing books ever mentioned on [behavior now correlated with autism] is that some kids do it but they'll "grow out of it."
I "grew out of it" when I got too fat to stay on the balls of my feet all the time. However I still do every so often; and when I sit, I often tuck my feet under the chair so that I'm resting on them.. so maybe not entirely grown out of it..
I do that, too, when I'm in a shared chair. I think it's because my feet don't reach the floor in chairs that aren't adjusted for my height. Also, I'm autistic, hyper flexible, and have poor proprioception, so sitting on my legs gives me good feedback on where my limbs are.
My office chair is a kneeling chair, and I tend to sit with my feet where the knees should go. (I swap into office slippers, so it's not outside shoes on my chair.)
Not necessarily a sign; just a common quirk to have with the condition.
Not all toe-walking is related to autism: it can also be musculoskeletal or related to other psychological conditions; and at the same time, not all autistic people walk like this.
Do you have a source/name for that? I would love to read up on this
Just "autistic toe walking". I myself have no sources, sadly, but it's widely reported and documented.
My shoes get worn down similarly because I have high arches and long ass toes, "tingers". The middle arch never touches the ground.
Finding the right shoes suck ass. I'll get holes in the top and bottom of the front unless I have proper arch support.
Plus side I'm very silent when I walk because there is less contact. So I've spent a lifetime scaring the shit out of people on accident.
Depending on where you live, your insurance might cover (semi) orthopedic insoles.
Basically anything someone divergent does is instantly unique to them and needs to be screamed all over Lemmy as their personality.
In reality, people walk on their toes, heels or the balls of their feet. They often switch depending on context (walk on your heels in a hurry, in the balls of your feet rather than stomping etc.) No one really cares or feels special about it.