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Yeah going to have to call bullshit here. First of all a retroactive no is not something that is a chargeable offense. Most SA goes unreported and only a small fraction of what is reported is ever investigated and even a smaller amount is ever successfully prosecuted.
She said he said is usually ignored by the police so it never reaches anywhere close to what you seem concerned about. Not only is this backed up by statistical evidence, as a social worker and a person whose had the privilege to talk to many women about this I can attest that only a couple out of hundreds ever got any justice.
The whole lives ruined thing is a misnomer that is born out with tons of men in power who never get in trouble. You hear about a few cases of men being held accountable and somehow extrapolate that into a common occurrence. It isn't.
You can even look to POTUS who is an epic rapist still walking free after thousands of SAs in his lifetime. The Metoo movement turned out to be a sad joke with only a small handful of men in power successfully prosecuted. The backlash against the Metoo movement has been epic though with police, prosecutors, and judges all ensuring that justice will never be served.
If you don't feel that any women would ever consent to have sex with you without changing her mind later, you are welcome to that opinion. Considering your mindset I would actually agree with you here as consent is less about yes and more about caring for another person.
On the other hand, if you get to know someone and build trust over time and they like you in that way things will happen naturally. I am hoping that you experience this if you are open to it. As you said it, it really is that simple.
Here, people, is an absolutely exquisite example of the Apex Fallacy in action: using the 1% to 0.1% of men that fit the conditions and applying that case to the other 99% who don’t have these characteristics and could never achieve the same prosecutorial immunity.
For the vast majority of men, even the insinuation of sexual malfeasance is enough to destroy careers and marriages.
Hell, even good samaritans lose everything, and they did absolutely nothing wrong.
Out of every 1,000 sexual assaults that occur, only about 310 are reported. Of those, approximately 50 lead to an arrest, 28 cases result in a felony conviction, and only 25 perpetrators end up incarcerated.
These stats do not show an epidemic of men getting convicted and actually show the polar opposite. A society that is indifferent to SA.
Up to 30% of men in college will admit to committing a SA. Those are the ones willing to admit. How many men get kicked out of college for SA?
Meanwhile large universities found that, on average, colleges suspend only 1 in every 12,400 students and expel only 1 in every 22,900 students annually for sexual misconduct.
Woah sounds like no one is doing shit. This is the reality that dwarfs you fantasy about men losing everything.
The few that do generally deserve it, but I am sure you can drum up some questionable cases. These pale in comparison to reality and trying to consider an outlier as what is common is just pure ignorance on anyone's part that does.
So no, the reality is almost no one faces any consequences at all.
Let me put something else in your pipe to smoke:
Women rape men as frequently as men rape women.
And yet, where are the convictions of female rapists??
crickets
If you want to clean house, start with your own.
And the real kicker comes down to these three points:
And the disparity of how society treats male rapists vs female rapists gets horrifically misandrist once you truly examine the rape of minors.
Because many male children raped by adult women get traumatized by the legal system as it extracts child support from them to pay their rapist for her crimes. And society celebrates and trivializes these rapes, with the media calling them “trysts” and “romps” and doing everything in its power to absolve the rapists of responsibility by making it look like the child was the aggressor.
Is that your coup de grâce?
Let me tell you a story about my daughter when she was a teenager. She had a guy friend and one time they were playing around trying to one up each other and he said he lost his virginity to his babysitter when has was thirteen. My daughter immediately apologized and said she was sorry that happened to him. He was confused because no one had ever explained to him that he was raped. He had a realization that day.
I was very proud of my daughter. I am not sure what part of social worker you don't understand.
At any rate, in this study you neglect to realize that man on man rape far exceeds woman on man rape unless you are counting molestation. Read that again, the majority of rapes are from other men.
I have worked closely with crisis shelters and I have seen all walks of life. That is how I see through the bullshit.