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I feel like my parents will. They have keen observations when it comes to changes to my body and always comment on my weight/figure/hair/etc
I don't know your parents but girl, that seems like an unlikely thing to get noticed. Cis people are simply not looking for it!
These cis people in question I came out to before. And they've got a history of body shaming and intrusiveness. I'm probably being paranoid, but am I? I didn't become paranoid out if nowhere, I've been fighting against these people my whole life.
Yes you're being paranoid. Odds are nobody notices, and if they do? Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss. If you wait until you're not scared you're never going to do it!
Honestly even if they're slow to notice individual details, wouldn't they eventually notice if there's enough changes that others around start gendering Na3N differently? Not that I can say that from experience; they/them can fly under the radar without anyone noticing.
I do similar worry about how not having a beard/beard shadow will affect how people gender me at work. Not necessarily the people who've known me for years directly, but the people who are just meeting me. At the very least, I'd feel like I'd actually need to put more effort into hiding the boobs. Still plan to do it anyways, but I worry about it.
This is exactly what I'm worried about since my parents have kept a keen eye on my body changes, commented on some of them, pestered me to cut my hair (calling it girly), and I came out to them. The only defense I have against them is that I pretended to not be trans (and they think I haven't started any procedures, although they do have a suspicion).
See? I'm right and you know it. If somebody doesn't want to see a change, they won't!
If you keep a masculine hairstyle and voice, people will gender you as male - especially if your boobs aren't noticeable. Lots of men don't have much facial hair. Not to mention that facial hair removal is a slow, mostly gradual process that usually takes 2+ years.
Be honest with me: is there a part of you that is scared of making changes and looking for an excuse not to do it?
I have long hair that I either keep down or tie up in a floofy scrunchy, I wear a combination of men and women's clothes, my voice varies (also people at least have an initial guess of your gender before you've even said anything usually, so a mismatch is gonna get more attention, not less and I'd like to work on that too), and I have obvious boobs. The fact that the only person at my work who has said anything so far is a chaser delivery driver (9 months ago when my boobs actually could pass reasonably as moobs and I was still slightly more masc presenting) is a testament to the fact that people are oblivious. Anyways, I still need a job in 2 years and I'd like to not have to flee the state to find a job in my field.
I've already had an initial consultation to get it done. I certainly plan to do it. I delayed on trying out HRT (which I actually wasn't sure I wanted) because of this concern and regret that. I don't wanna do the same with this.
@sodium_nitride@hexbear.net That goes for you too.
This only worked for the past. It's not going to work anymore since I've already had close calls and it's really an open secret at this point.
Can't speak for walrus, but for me, I am fully aware that I'm afraid to make changes and making excuses. I could be doing a lot more but I don't.
But like, if I was in the business of making good choices I wouldn't be so fucked up.