sounds tough to get someone to agree to that, if you can even find a person among the bots or someone worth your time in the flood of garbage, depending on who you're trying to date.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Are you trying to find a compatible person for lifelong companionship, or are you trying to find a shallow materialistic person to fuck, where you set a precedent of a transactional relationship?

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

the former, but neither is readily available. nobody else masks.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Anyone who sticks up their nose specifically at the cheapness of something is not worth dating for very long. The perception that "all prospective dates are looking for an expensive arrangement that the other person pays for" is defeatist and can easily lend itself to confirmation bias.

I have a friend who's a trans man, and he started dating another trans man (baby leftist) a handful of months ago, and was telling me about all these dates they did that were just anarchist calisthenics, i.e. exploring how they could break rules and taboos and social conventions. It sounded fantastic, bro is doing it absolutely right.

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 2 points 17 hours ago

if they're not masking around other people it isn't safe to be around them privately. you don't magically stop being a disease vector when you catch feelings. the bar is under ground and the overwhelming majority of americans dig under it rather than protect themselves and their community.

in five years i've seen three other masks, including a hospital visit.

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

You just gotta hang out with the right people and flirt with all of them until something clicks. I don't fuck with the apps.

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

ok zero people within 100 miles besides me will wear a mask. i did have a weekly thing before covid but either nobody was interested or they were too coy for me to pick up on it.

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 13 points 2 days ago

nobody to meet on apps, nowhere safe to be around people in person

die

[–] alexandra_kollontai@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Would you take the mask off to kiss them?

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

not in a public place

[–] Florn@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Finding the right people is even harder than the apps

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 12 points 2 days ago

It wasn't quick but the age old advice of go to hobby/activity groups, get to know people, and keep showing up eventually pays off. Also, go to shows and festivals and chat people up. I met my (one street over) neighbors at a local festival and now we hang out pretty frequently.

[–] tocopherol@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I would say it takes longer but isn't harder for most because using the apps harms your psyche.

Edit: I know people who have had success finding a good partner, it can be alright probably, it just isn't for me and most are owned by Match who sell your facial data to Palantir

[–] Florn@hexbear.net 1 points 2 days ago

I'm built different, I get a little dopamine hit from swiping left on rancid profiles

[–] MrSelfDestruct@piefed.zip 10 points 2 days ago

Gotta find a person who is into corn dogs and sex.