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Finding the right people is even harder than the apps
It wasn't quick but the age old advice of go to hobby/activity groups, get to know people, and keep showing up eventually pays off. Also, go to shows and festivals and chat people up. I met my (one street over) neighbors at a local festival and now we hang out pretty frequently.
I would say it takes longer but isn't harder for most because using the apps harms your psyche.
Edit: I know people who have had success finding a good partner, it can be alright probably, it just isn't for me and most are owned by Match who sell your facial data to Palantir
I'm built different, I get a little dopamine hit from swiping left on rancid profiles