The point is that women can set any standard they want, but if a man sets a standard then people call it misogyny.

This just isn't true. People set standards all the time. And plenty of people set unreasonable standards that leave them unable to find matches, at least for periods of time. Men and women.

People get angry when they disagree with the standards, but nobody disagrees with the concept of having standards.

For an example of someone complaining when they don't agree with a standard, see here:

If a high salary is a must-have for your dating standards, then that's honestly pretty shallow.

Sure, you can complain about the standard. But it's still one I always had, indirectly: I only dated women with university degrees (and more education past that was a plus), and liked people who were well traveled, who had stable careers and just generally had their shit together, who liked food, who have hobbies. That all pretty heavily skews towards the rich, who can afford to travel and dine out and maybe pursue expensive hobbies.

Your focus seems to be on the up-front early dates, which was always kinda a short phase. Long term, you want to be with someone who has similar attitudes towards money as you do, and sometimes that's easier to filter when they already have similar money as you.

I have single friends of pretty much every gender and orientation/preference. I don't agree with your view that the world is harsher towards men with standards than women with standards.

It's not that I'm trying to be dismissive of the dissatisfaction of being single while wanting to be in relationships. I'm just deeply skeptical of your explanation of how hetero dating works in the modern world, because it most definitely doesn't match my experience or the observed experiences of my friends/family.

And I feel like having close friendships with women is an easy way to see how dating goes for other people, too. None of my women friends seemed to have an issue with my standards for women, even the more superficial things I preferred. I for sure was never labeled misogynistic by my women friends/cousins/coworkers for having my standards.