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Today I have selected a little thing I did a while back to share with everyone, Cats of Ulthar a horror story by H. P. Lovecraft. It might look a little weird because I adapted it from an accordion book format, but I think I did a decent job of adapting it.
And also, remember my last mega? Well, I did manage to finish the book, so I'm putting it here for you to download. I made a version for reading digitally, but the main purpose would be for printing, that's why I stuck with A4 size. I can try to make instructions on how to make the printed pages into a neat book in the future if anyone wants it.
Well, if anyone has any suggestions on other short stories, specially horror stories, I'd love to make them into illustrated books, I love doing this and it's super fun for me, so I'd like to keep going.
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I said something along these lines earlier but figured I'd make a comment here too, maybe someone will have something to say
Several cis women I know have offered to help however they can, if I have questions, etc. But I do not know how to have them help or what to ask them to explain. I feel like I've seen people in these megas wishing they has a cis woman to take them under their wing and show them things, explain things, but I guess I don't know what they could really do or explain for me... if that makes sense.
I guess taking me to get makeup or clothes... but idk if I'm comfortable enough to do that/girlmode in public.
When it comes to makeup shopping and clothes shopping, I can say that you'll be fine in both accounts.
When it comes to clothes, people shop for friends and family all the time, so picking out things shouldn't be an issue. Now, trying on clothes could be an issue: I generally shop at thrift stores where if it doesn't fit it's not a big deal, or at stores with generous return policies so I can try it on at home and return it if it doesn't fit.
When it comes to makeup, chain beauty retailers like Uta or Sephora generally have trans/LGBT-affirming policies, and you can have staff color-match products for you without issue.
As for what questions to ask, I don't think you need to present a big list. If a question pops up, just write it down somewhere and ask when you feel apropos.
Thats good to know, glad most places are good about it.
Okay but I feel like I don't understand anything but still can't come up with questions, idk how to explain it :kitty-cri:
Its one of those things that can't necessarily have words put to it. Think of it like this:
The people we are, and become, is hugely influenced by those we surround ourselves with. Our relationships with each other are dialectical. I, as a trans woman, have found it enormously affirming/helpful/wonderful/etc. to have cis women as friends. Because its not "just" about things like clothes and makeup, in fact I am basically the most femme of my female friends so those things sort of fall on me funnily enough. There are sooo many other aspects to it. From emotional support, to finding out how similar many of your experiences are, and bonding. The number of times I have been told and experienced "we girls look out for eachother" makes me emotional just thinking about it.
What can a cis woman help you learn? Idk. Depends on who she is. But I would highly recommend befriending a cis woman. Because you like spending time with her (just like everyone else you befriend) and both of you will become better versions of yourself, and in the case of being a trans woman, you'll learn how to be a woman through basically osmosis.
I know its easier said than done. But finding female friends through people you already know is key. And it is scary. But everyone on this sub belongs to a group of some of the most courageous people I know. So you can do it. You will have to be uncomfortable. But take time to be gentle with yourself, and things will get better.
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I have cis women friends, I'd say most of my friends are cis women actually. I know its helpful in a lot of complex ways and aspects, I guess I still don't really feel like I act like women do, or understand like nuance type stuff, idk.
I still don't really feel like I have that... closest would be emotional support but I'm still not really sure how to ask for it or what to expect. But bonding etc not too much.
Too much faith in me :/
Yeah thats true for me too. I love my cis women bestie โก
I relate so much to everything, particularly on what to ask. The few times I've been in a situation and mindset where I could potentially ask, all I get from my brain is TV static. I don't know if I'm underthinking or overthinking anymore lol
Yeah maybe having them do your makeup somewhere safe? Going clothes shopping with them would be a good idea and pretending its "for them" instead of you if anyone asks. You know little stuff. As you start being out more youll probably have more questions, I remember telling people "they never gave me the how to be a girl book" when I said something faux pas like "oh wow you look tired" lol