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I don't care if girls want to be with me. I want to be as stronger than I was last week. It's something in my life I can work towards that I actually have control over.
Just checking in, you good?
No but I'm strong 💪
That sounds…unsustainable.
I'll worry about that when I get there.
Actually we do it for ourselves and to look cute for each other. Wait... uh-oh.
I've literally never had a serious partner tell me that me lifting was a reason they wanted to be with me, period. To me this just sounds like a bizarre fanfic scenario you read.
Going to the gym for an hour a few days a week and running a few miles on off days isn't an "obsession", it's just general fitness. I get one go around this rock and one body to do it with. Being fit makes the experience much better, and makes ME feel good about my body and the progress I've made, damned be anyone else's opinion.
Radical concept, but not everyone in the gym is a roided out manosphere moron trying to slay pussy because of brainwashing.
King, it is okay. Take a breath. No one here is attacking anyone, just dispelling potentially harmful opinions. I know for a lot of people getting into fitness and going to the gym is intimidating, but it doesn't have to be. I've had quite a few women and LGBT tell me that they read comments like yours online and don't want to try working out, because they think everyone in the gym is Joe Rogan or Andrew Tate, and that they will be mocked or hurt. This is just not even close to reality.
Most people are just there for the love of the game or for the gains, that's it. No one who takes their fitness seriously thinks it is just an easy way to trick women, I promise you.
Fitness is for everyone and should be made more accessible, not more intimidating or off-putting, its great and improves your life. There are plenty of people like me in the gym that would readily and happily help others at the drop of a hat, no strings attached.
100%. I don't work out at the gym, but if there is one thing we don't need in the world, it would be people gatekeeping others on exercise.
Nobody said that was the reason.
I think people who had that reason are the set of people who go for a few weeks in January and then stop lifting.
The ones who lift long term do it for themselves
This is indeed one of the main reasons people start, but it quickly switches over to working out for yourself. So while what you say is true, I don't agree with messages of this nature because it takes away one of the strongest motivators for a lot of people to better themselves.
Yeah but not everyone has the money
Where do you live where peanut butter and jugs of water are expensive?
Some people work out to build muscle, not to make women like them. For that, eating lots of (plant based) protein helps
Found the obese American.