I've literally never had a serious partner tell me that me lifting was a reason they wanted to be with me, period. To me this just sounds like a bizarre fanfic scenario you read.

Going to the gym for an hour a few days a week and running a few miles on off days isn't an "obsession", it's just general fitness. I get one go around this rock and one body to do it with. Being fit makes the experience much better, and makes ME feel good about my body and the progress I've made, damned be anyone else's opinion.

Radical concept, but not everyone in the gym is a roided out manosphere moron trying to slay pussy because of brainwashing.

[+] ameancow@lemmy.world -5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

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[–] Tippy@sh.itjust.works 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

King, it is okay. Take a breath. No one here is attacking anyone, just dispelling potentially harmful opinions. I know for a lot of people getting into fitness and going to the gym is intimidating, but it doesn't have to be. I've had quite a few women and LGBT tell me that they read comments like yours online and don't want to try working out, because they think everyone in the gym is Joe Rogan or Andrew Tate, and that they will be mocked or hurt. This is just not even close to reality.

Most people are just there for the love of the game or for the gains, that's it. No one who takes their fitness seriously thinks it is just an easy way to trick women, I promise you.

Fitness is for everyone and should be made more accessible, not more intimidating or off-putting, its great and improves your life. There are plenty of people like me in the gym that would readily and happily help others at the drop of a hat, no strings attached.

[–] CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

100%. I don't work out at the gym, but if there is one thing we don't need in the world, it would be people gatekeeping others on exercise.