Y'know, when I signed up for this back in June I had grand plans for some grand writeup on the domestically produced unmagnified gunsights of Cuba. I had collected images and info and sources but I lost sight of it as life stuff happened and my time for the trans mega snuck up on me.
Que sera sera.
Anyways, today felt like the first whisper (you have no idea how hard I just thought about the ideal word for this metaphor) of autumn and that put me in the mood for one of my favorite autumnal albums. More Constant Than the Gods by SubRosa is a really lovely doom? sludge? metal album. I like how big it sounds. The lead vocalist is a really talented lady, and its got violins, also the lyrics talk about dying and stuff and I'm into that. Its very fall-y to me, as is Standard Time Volume 1 by Wynton Marsalis, but for extremely different reasons.
The funny thing is that, like the poster of the previous mega it is also my 5th transiversary, I started HRT half a decade ago today (ok technically it was the 17th but I'm gonna count it since thats when I started writing this). Now, I don't think that taking HRT was what made me "officially trans", rather it was the degree of self acceptance required to get to that point. It's a long story, and one I prefer to share privately, but it took a very, very long time before my fear and desperation gave me the strength to allow myself to have this. I think it all turned out pretty well, I experience existence in much higher fidelity, I'm this whole person, along with everything that entails.
I feel very blessed to be transgender.
I hope you all stay safe and have a good, or atleast tolerable week.
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I may have found a cheapish supplier of rattan.... Hmmmmmm... I mayyyy need to buy some and make some right propper canes for all the dommes i play with, as a thank you for treating me so ~~poorly~~ well... Last cane i made was from scrapwood and it broke the first time i used it. I want to find something a bit more reliable
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i've always been a wimp for impact play. like i can be tied into a pretzel or cocooned or something but even little spanks are too owie. where would you rate it compared to a crop/spank/etc?
::: spoiler spoiler Well, canes are... Canes. Idk how to describe it. They can be firm taps when used softly, but can be the stingiest mfers in the world when someone really opens up. Certainly more intense than a crop imo, unless youre getting hit with the stick of the crop in which case theyre similar. Do you like impact thats more stingy or thuddy? Cause thuddy canes arent really a thing (i guess you could use a baseball bat sized cane?).
Also ime spanking intensity realllly varies depending on person and technique. The power put into it, as well as how they hold their hand (fingers spread being stingier, closed fist spanking/palmstriking being thuddier) all changes how it feels, so idk how to describe a cane in terms of spanking. Generally a thinner cane will be whippier and stingier, and a thicker cane will be thuddier (but still firmly in the sting end of the spectrum). But it feels different to a hand...
If youre wanting to try being caned, it can be very fun even at lower intensities. Also the bottoms of the feet are a spot that can be fun to have caned!
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interesting. stingy has always been better for me. it sucks because when my partner and i disengaged from the scene years ago i was starting to experiment with mild impact stuff. and electro stim. i watched some cane play and thought it looked tolerable to me. but thuddy slaps and open hand stuff was fun only once and then just numbed me in that spot all night i think a partner even gave us a tiny cane but it got lost. maybe one day, will probably be old lady then because it's hard for us to do any play these days because of time and work uggh. thank u for info!!
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If stingy is better for you then i highly recommend trying a cane! Idk where youre at but if a cane is too spendy (they can be like 75 USD sometimes
) then maybe theres a supplier for rattan in your country? Where im at they sell lengths of rattan for like 5USD per meter (plus shipping). Also you can get some paracord fairly cheap, or some precut leather lace, or any other material really, and plait a handle fairly easy. Its a nice activity to do while e.g. watching tv, gives you something to do with your hands. It wont be the prettiest but itll do the job of thickening the handle to make it easier to wield. And if slaps/spanks just made you numb, a cane has much less area of impact so even if one hit leaves its impact area numb, well, theres lots of other area!
And even with time and work struggles, maybe there can be a weekend where you play at home or a partners apartment? I dont really go out to dungeons (despite there being a couple popular ones near me), but tend to find time with someone for a scene every month or so in our apartments. It takes some planning ahead of time cause everyones schedules are fucked (well, one playpartner was laid off recently so we have some more flexibility while she hunts for work). And tbh setting the time and negotiating a week or two beforehand is some of the best foreplay for me (well, theres no sex involved so idk if you can call it foreplay?), so less frequency of play, while frustrating sometimes (gosh i wish i could get beat every weekend), does serve to get me very worked up and into it when it does happen.
You mentioned electrostim, which is something ive been thinking about exploring. How would you describe it?
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ugh it's been so hard to do scenes at home because my partner drives for a living and is gone all week (and we've lost contact with all our play partners of the past and i feel too old and publicly boymode for munches).
the few we've been able to do in the last month were just a whirlwind of rushed stuff mostly just bondage/edging/teasing/nippleplay and break out the vibes and wham bang done.
You've reminded me i really, really need to see if they are willing to set up beforehand. My partner used to be very against planning, wanted spontaneity, but since realizing they are autistic i think there's been a 180 on that (it was something socially conditioned). If we can ever get something consistent before we become old crones I'll try to find a cheap basic cane.
so electrostim is interesting because it causes tiny muscle contractions if it's a TENS type unit or more of a static shock if a wand. i love the wands! it's like a burst of prickly "cold heat" (don't know how else to describe that). like a little spikey ball but the pricks go through your skin
it also feels really, really good. like my nerves must detect it as a perfect 50/50 of pleasure and pain. the TENS stuff i haven't tried but seems best for breastplay
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That sounds really frustrating with them being gone all week and the losing contact with other partners. Hopefully you and your partner can plan some stuff out with their 180 on planning. I (kinda) feel you on munches; im an audhd ball of social anxiety so i havent even gone to a munch, they seem so intimidating and i dont want to end up performing the social butterfly persona i take on when im under high social stress and panicking.
Also a whirlwind of rushed stuff sounds fun but still frustrating. Dont get me wrong shorter scenes can be fun, but i crave those hour plus long impact scenes that really drop me down and hold me down.
Ooooh ok big endorsement on electrostim, spikey ball under the skin sounds really fun! Tiny muscle contractions sound interesting too but idk how much i would like that... Muscle contractions feel nice and i sometimes make my muscles sieze for fun but its also scary cause sometimes i cant un-sieze them... But maybe on the breasts would be nice...