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i more or less managed to kill the concept in my head by doing the litany against passing or something. im not sure how. i first want to acknowledge it was easier for me than its gonna be for many binary trans folks cause im very content looking like a kinda androgynous gremlin and fine with normies seeing me as a confusing queer or whatever. i kinda relish those reactions. back when i cared more, realising a whole lot of cis women wouldn't "pass" if i applied the scrutiny i was applying to myself earlier in transition helped. also talked about this on here a tiny bit before but getting the fuck off twitter so i'm not allowed look at timelines posted by beautiful onlyfans models who look good for a living has like, all but cured my body dysmorphia. it's just a negative behaviour that i had to cut out. i still get dysphoria days but am wildly more comfortable in my own skin now on average.
sorry if it doesn't really answer your question, for something like that you need to try to practice radical acceptance and understand it's an ongoing process that needs active renewal not a binary switch. there is no silver bullet and it is really hard. but also some of your comments on here have indicated you do pass at least now and then. and you are tiny which is a huge boon if you want to pass. so you may be framing it in a bit of an overly negative way to start with.
powerful. Thank you for sharing, comrade. Haven’t had the spoons of late for strong radical acceptance posting.
glad i could share comrade. it's something i'd be happy to potentially effortpost more about, it's one of the things that really stuck with me from my one round of DBT (therapy that actually works for people like me? :o) and i think even a passing understanding of it can rly benefit a lot of folks
Wholeheartedly agree. Would love to see an effortpost if you feel the call. I do emdr, and that has really helped me with a positive sense of self in many ways. Still have a long way to go though. Might just be my neurodivergence, but passing never made any sense to me.
Yes, I experience dysphoria, not that this is a part of what makes me trans. This dysphoria is not due to any conception of comparing myself to cisfolk, really.
thank you for sharing:) radical acceptance is wild lol I remember straight up hating the concept when it was first introduced but now i rly see how valuable it is. it's hard as shit though.
Likewise! And as you said, the work is never done. It is a continuous process of renewal.