Right. They're just into something weird. No big deal, lots of us are into weird things. The weird stuff I'm into doesn't involve spending lots of money or wearing a costume that must be very hot after a short period of time, but if that's what does it for you, cool. I'll be over here watching hours of old public domain movies and industrial films.

There's a loud subculture of furries who insist sex is shameful and something to apologize for.

It certainly feels that way sometimes. "I can't say the other F-word, so I'll call you a furry."

phobia of neurodivergent people as well, I think. A lot of the things people find weird and offputting are just like... autism or something.

For me, I think it’s the sexualizing animals that gets me. I’m not saying furries do anything bad to real animals

if it makes you feel any better, it's not animals directly, it's animal attributes. There is a very very specific dividing line between "furry" and "animal"

That means that if you’re in the fandom of Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Sonic the Hedgehog, etc. You. Are. A. Furry.

technically, this isn't exclusively true since most of the time the specific fandom actually supersedes the anthro aspect of it. For example if ur a sonic fandom nerd, you're a sonic fandom nerd, but you may not have a general interest in anthropomorphic characters more broadly, in which case you wouldn't be a furry. These things are not directly related.

The more correct definition here would be "a fan of anthropomorphic characters more broadly, specifically those within the furry community, and the furry community itself more broadly" It's also worth noting that most of the time it's actually done via self admittance. There are fursuit makers who do not consider themselves to be furries. It's odd, but it's how works.

Otherwise we start to define people who drive cars as "car people" and that's just, wrong.

For example a lot of people have pets, dog/cat whatever, they talk to their pets, that's literally anthropomorphizing an animal. Or personification, it's the same shit at the end of the day though. Does that make those people furries? Because they speak to their dog in a language it doesn't understand? Or apply human concepts to their pets that don't really exist?

I think the kink and fursuit parts are what most people understand about furries because that's the most signal boosted and bizarre parts about it. However, furries often have other things that really attach them to it, and the kink is a further expression of that.

For a lot of people, neurodivergence is a core feature. I struggle with speech a lot. I'm learning ASL but few people speak it. The flexibility to communicate in howls, barks and yips on occasion is extremely helpful. The furry community is full of people who just get this and will treat me very normally when I'm nonverbal. The scared kid in me still expects to be hit for disobedience, so it's incredibly healing.

Some folks who like fursuits like them because they present a barrier and literal mask that helps them feel safe and protected from bad sensory experiences in public. Some attach themselves into a fursona character and find a way to express parts of themselves they couldn't elsewhere. My sister describes her fursona as a manifestation of her inner child unburdened by abuse, and made the character female years before she worked out she was trans.

When you consider how much kink and trauma go hand in hand, how much furries lean on their identity as a way to feel safe engaging with others, and how much genuine joy people find in their fursona, the kink makes a whole lot more sense. It's less about being attracted to "rejected Disney mascots" specifically as it is about the comfort and safety a rejected Disney mascot persona can bring to people who need it. For as much as it's helpful in the outside world, it would in fact be weirder for none of that to come into the bedroom too.

It's okay to not understand something someone else is super into. The issue comes when you judge them to be lesser than you for it. And when you use them as an object of derision.

There are plenty of people out there who will never understand homosexuality. Even find it disgusting. And if they just kept their mouths shut about it and treated gay people the same as they did anyone else, the world would be a better place.