It's the power dynamic. A person in his position is only going to behave like everyone else thinks is OK because of social norms, but at some point those norms don't apply. Just like no one's surprised that Peter thiel is a suspect for his boyfriend's death. Rich person does rich person thing and people are surprised? I just don't get the surprise part. Grohl has probably had ridiculous amount of people throwing themselves at him his entire life, and we're surprised that at some point he's caved in?