I'm all ears for recommendations. I've wasted money on pillows that were great for one night and then started causing problems. =(

I'm on the buckwheat train. Tried different pillows and ended up with buckwheat. The pillow allows you to mold the shape to an extent which makes it extremely flexible. They also come in different sizes and good pillow sellers will either overstuff them or give you a bag with extra stuffing. You can open the pillow up (via zipper usually) to remove and add more buckwheat for even more customization. It's just extremely flexible overall.

What’s a fuck feather

I feel this. I just moved and a certain family member 'helped' me move by throwing away stuff that I'd already dropped off at my new place that didn't meet their arbitrary standards including, yes, almost all the bedding. So now I'm sleeping through the hottest part of the year with the most unforgivingly thick pillows and the winter duvet.

And wake up in the morning with a headache and can't move your neck.

So... Do you just use the pillow case? 🤔 That would be quite thin.

I have the purple pillow. It's great! Both sides are "the cold side" and, if needed, you could kill a man with it!

I bring a couple of pillows from home whenever I can. Doesn't work for flights, of course, but on shorter trips it's a godsend.

I have the posture of an ice age caveman huddled for warmth.

Side sleeper here. I put one thin one between my legs so they are parallel and the joints don't press against each other. I have a thick "hugger" so my top arm doesn't just hang unsupported and pull on my back muscles all night. The problem is my lower arm gets pressed on all night or I have to find the magic position for it that is comfortable.

Back sleeping means I have to get the neck just right but then I usually snore and I get wacked by my wife.

I can't handle that kind of pressure

Tempted to buy a message table and sleep on it. Sleeping face down seems like the real solution here.

Wait are you being for real? That can't be good for your neck. I've fallen asleep like that 1 time when i got way too high on the zaza and i had the worst neck pain ever.

My pillow is so thin my wife is like "well just put a towel in the pillowcase"

I had a buckwheat pillow but the zipper broke six months in.

It's not fun cleaning up all the little shells at three in the morning.