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Have you ever experienced sexual anhedonia? (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 days ago by MrOtingocni@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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I just did. It sucked. For the first time in my life I ejaculated without an orgasm. Not a little one or a lousy one. Like, not one- at all. Nothing.

In fact, I am pretty mad about it right now. It feels like jonesing for a candy bar, putting your cash in the vending machine and it just takes your money. WTF?? Now you're still hungry, super irritated, and don't have another dollar.

I pray this is just a one time thing. Please, universe, don't take away ol trusty.

Has anyone else experienced this??

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[–] dingus@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

I've never had the ability to feel sexual pleasure, unfortunately. Was a confusing time growing up. It also sometimes makes me really feel like I'm missing out. When all media revolves around sex and you can't even feel pleasure from masturbation, it feels like you're missing something from the core human experience. Sometimes it has made me feel like a different species.

I guess at least for me, I "don't know what I'm missing" because I've never experienced it. I'm sorry that you know what it feels like so that it's more painful when you can't anymore.

Has anything changed in your life recently?

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

Have I shot a wad and not orgasm? Sure it happens, back off, jack off and try again..

[–] nitroemdash@lemmy.wtf 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Never had an orgasm in my life. Don't even bother to masturbate anymore.

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

Same. I wish I could at least once because people make it sound amazing. But I think my plumbing just isn't built correctly or something.

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Interesting. Why haven't you?

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, antidepressant fun. I'd like to tell you that it passes, but I haven't had an orgasm in years :(

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Can't say I like that.

[–] Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I get that sometimes. It could be related to the antidepressants and other adhd meds I'm on, but I take it as a signal to take a day or two off. Just dial it back a little and then the feelings return.

of course that leaves me with an hour or two of not knowing what to do, but I figure something out. Usually something I forgot to do earlier that day like a craft project I've been putting off

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 days ago

Yeah. It happens on occasion. Nothing to worry about.

[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I was on anti depressants for a while, which not only reduced libido hugely, they removed the ability to orgasm. Like, you'd get to the final crest of the wave but never be able to reach it. Very frustrating and I get why you're angry. Now and then I could climax but it would be pretty much without any satisfaction.

[–] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

This is how most women experience sex when they talk about lack of orgasm in my experience. I would say all or nearly all of my sexual encounters go exactly like this, I’m a woman and I’ve talked about this with my female friends who often or always experience the same thing. For me though there’s no psych meds involved, it’s just what having an unfulfilling partner (someone who might turn you on physically but neglects your mind) is like.

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I have ED and i'm not sure if it's because of my anxiety and depression or the drugs that treat it. I swear my dick used to be bigger. Also could be from cranking my hog twice daily. I haven't experienced loss of libido, if anything it's stronger than ever. Depression is a bitch, I should know.

[–] Nonconfrontational@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago

Oof. Yeah, I found anti depressants to be the culprit in those cases.

[–] frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is called a ruined orgasm, it's a thing

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago

and i LOVE it because it lets me keep going. lol

[–] CaptainMan251@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are you in anti-depressants at all? If so, there are others available that do not do that

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No, try to stay off that stuff

[–] CaptainMan251@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Eek, I am sorry to hear that. Not good for our mental health when we nut without nutting.

A urologist may be helpful. I can't say I've ever busted without having an orgasm

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Once or twice, It came from 3 hours of tugging my flacid dick. Wasn't worth the effort.

[–] datavoid@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Incredible story

[–] Ulvain@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Kinda.. i was on tamsulosin for a while, and had retrograde ejaculation, which was very unsatisfying and felt a bit like ejaculating without climaxing, basically. Not really the same thing, but close enough for me to empathize, brother, i hope you get through this.. are you on anything that might explain it? Or was there a specific circumstance?

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

That sounds terrible. I was prescribed something for an enlarged prostate a few years ago but after it ran out I just quit drinking so much water before bed and it resolved the frequent trips in the night

No, nothing drug related it's just circumstantial. 11 days straight so far working out of state. Exhausted and missing a few hours of sleep. Cranky and want to be home.

Wanted to knock one out before going to bed as a little stress reliever. Even scrounged through some videos but nothing was really keeping my interest. Then my body was like 'surprises! alright, you're done, wrap it up'. And there was no rush or even like that little internal sigh you get. Just a blank space where the orgasm usually goes.

And a really weird, persistent feeling of uncomfortableness inside.

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

Definitely talk to your doctor

[–] Cypher@aussie.zone 3 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Go to a doctor. Get yourself checked.

Prostate cancer kills and you’re high risk.

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Great, I'll just add that to the list of other potentially lethal conditions I've been avoiding the doctor about.

[–] Cypher@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh. American huh?

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I got a bankruptcy amount of issues to see the doc about. Trying to put it off until I am out of debt (so I can accrue fresh debt).

[–] Ulvain@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

What makes you worry about prostate cancer for op, in his post(s)? Curious to see the worrying clues...

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

Happened to my father in law and two years later he was dead. If I had just gone at the first sign, instead he waited a year. It's better to be safe than sorry.

[–] Cypher@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago

History of frequent urination, enlarged prostate and unusual ejaculation. Likely higher risk age as well but not confirmed.

[–] BeUnique@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, usually during very early morning sex. Like that your eyes are barely open and you don't even know how you started having sex or who started it but it's in full swing by the time you come to. Sometimes during that time, I feel nothing when I cum. It's not fun but rolling over and going back to bed surely is!

Anyway, if you're experiencing this on your own, try not spanking the ham for a bit and you'll get back to normal.

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Yeah. With morning buzz it's guaranteed to suck.

[–] CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Oh is that the term for it? It’s happened once when I was trying to edge for longer but then it happened and it was horrible. I don’t try that anymore.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago

Whenever my testosterone drops too low (which it was for years) I get it. It's pretty miserable. I'm on monotherapy now and it keeps my testosterone in a good range.