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I was on anti depressants for a while, which not only reduced libido hugely, they removed the ability to orgasm. Like, you'd get to the final crest of the wave but never be able to reach it. Very frustrating and I get why you're angry. Now and then I could climax but it would be pretty much without any satisfaction.
I had that same experience, too, many years ago doing the anti-depressant circuit.
This is how most women experience sex when they talk about lack of orgasm in my experience. I would say all or nearly all of my sexual encounters go exactly like this, I’m a woman and I’ve talked about this with my female friends who often or always experience the same thing. For me though there’s no psych meds involved, it’s just what having an unfulfilling partner (someone who might turn you on physically but neglects your mind) is like.
Yeah, your experience more accurately reflects the term. I should have used the term 'ejaculatory anhedonia' or maybe a more generalized 'orgasmic anhedonia' but I couldn't find a consensus on the terms online.
Of course, there's probably a big difference between a pathological condition of being aroused, performing the sex acts in earnest, but not receiving pleasure from it and just having lousy sex you're not into with partners who aren't good at it. Or, like you said, you just can't get there because the mental aspect is lacking.
Though I did note that, like men, there is evidence of women experiencing orgasms without pleasure, but it's harder to observe. Sounds like a cop out to me. Sure it's easy to spot some dude's dribble, but you could easily measure vaginal contractions with a device.
I have ED and i'm not sure if it's because of my anxiety and depression or the drugs that treat it. I swear my dick used to be bigger. Also could be from cranking my hog twice daily. I haven't experienced loss of libido, if anything it's stronger than ever. Depression is a bitch, I should know.