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should i include that i'm applying to colleges/unis to transition in a safer place?
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Depends if you want to filter out phobic institutions
this post was submitted on 18 Jun 2026
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Don't give anyone more information about yourself than you are willing to have potentially used against you if the wrong person manages to get their hands on your application.
i wouldn't tell them that no. no matter where you go there will be a population of transphobes, and you dont want your application to be rejected because you got unlucky to have one of them in the process. it can happen even in the best places sadly.
I'm not trans, but I'm in Waterloo, Ontario, Canada and know a few trans people peripherally, and see more I don't know around town. So at the very least it's safe enough for people to be out and about just casually hanging with friends. We have the University of Waterloo (UW, but not University of Washington), and it has well-regarded math, CS, software engineering programs, at least around here.
Just an option I figured I'd mention.
how's Ontario when it comes to LGBTQ rights? is informed consent a thing there?
It partly depends on where you are. Much like the US, there's a split between urban and rural.
I can only really speak for Toronto. We have a center-left mayor, fly the progress flag at municipal buildings, have strong LGBTQ protections, and have a generally welcoming population. The biggest issues with trans health care are due to the systematic destruction of our health system by a conservative grifter with a personal vendetta against us, and the federal government (useless libs) is just letting him do his thing. Mind you, that's a problem province-wide. But otherwise, I feel very safe here
Ottawa seems quite queer friendly from the times I've visited. The rainbow flag is flown loud and proud. I used to work in Kitchener/Waterloo but rarely left the office (I'm a big city girl so it's not my vibe), but my friends out there seem to like it. I also have trans friends in Guelph. Hamilton recently struck down a transphobic train ad, which is a good sign.
Doug Ford can go fuck himself with a rusty tailpipe
For outsiders: Doug Ford is the Premier of Ontario, vaguely like a governor I think, and is Conservative. From Toronto, Ottawa is about 3ish hours North East by car, and Kitchener-Waterloo (KW) is about 1hr South West of Toronto. Hamilton is perhaps the next major city after Toronto and is around 30 minutes South (ish) of Toronto. Guelph is a smaller city 30ish minutes North of KW.
This is why these various places were all brought up in relation to a comment about KW. Besides Ottawa, they're all pretty close to each other.
And yes rusty tailpipe sounds about right 😉
Yeah he's the equivalent of a governor, just for a much larger area. The other significance of Ottawa (for those in the US) is that it's the capital of Canada and the second largest city in Ontario
There are transphobes everywhere and potentially giving one of them power over where you move isn't smart.