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In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there's often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there's no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.

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[โ€“] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you're way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.

The typical person that's bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn't going to smell that bad.

Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they'll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.

For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn't stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.

Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It's far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.

Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn't have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.

But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It's not the default at all. A person's diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.

For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it's not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it's less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn't really unpleasant tbh, just intense).

And it's not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.

Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?

[โ€“] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I bet you have some interesting stories.

[โ€“] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I used to be banned from dinner tables because of that lol.

[โ€“] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My initial thought was what you were like camping, sitting around a campfire, just chatting.

[โ€“] Breezy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

He could be a bard singing at a camp fire, if you've play RDR2 i imagine a song like that.

I've done that :)

Sometimes I get lucky and a given gathering is up for the really gnarly (but still entertaining rather than maudlin) stories, and I end up going on for quite a while lol.

[โ€“] lorty@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago

People didn't even shower daily a few hundred years ago. Hornyness makes anything possible.

That said healthy people don't get that bad usually.

[โ€“] mech@feddit.org 46 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If your or your partner's genitals are vomit-inducing half a day after your last shower and putting on fresh underwear in the morning, you might have a medical issue that needs checking out.

[โ€“] plutopos@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

Also, condoms help. I've found having raw sex frequently makes the smell and taste a lot worse, a lot faster. I think it's cause you get two very different genital smells mixing?

[โ€“] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

its dat good stank

[โ€“] plutopos@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 day ago

I don't know you, but for me, pussy doesn't start tasting too bad until like 2-3 days without a wash

[โ€“] Leviathan@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

I'm honestly confused by this. People smell nice when they smell like people, it takes a couple days for people to start smelling bad.

[โ€“] Starb3an@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I'm surprised I haven't seen the Napoleon letter telling his wife to not wash.

[โ€“] HeroHelck@lemmy.dbzer0.com 69 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Horny brain can override a lot of better judgement.

[โ€“] eldavi@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

@Parvus@lemmy.ml there is much that needs overriding.

i spend 75-80% of my time; outside of work and sleep; inhabiting establishments where spontaneous/random sex are the primary attraction for people to come and (besides bath houses or some sex clubs) they're the same as any other social gathering spots.

it same social club like setting; same conversations/dancing/etc.; same thing all around except for the only difference being a dramatically more permissive attitude for public displays of sex.

women are extremely rare in the places that i inhabit, but i do know for that fact that both men-only and coed spaces operate by almost identical rules when it comes to the sex hygiene -- show up with in good hygiene and you must be experienced enough with both penetration and fellatio to know how to prepare yourself accordingly if you seek either one. (ie. you're not welcome if you don't know how to clean yourself enough to be public; or to be penetrated; or don't know how to give head without vomiting -- grown and fully functional experienced adults only).

the only thing that's different between these establishments and any other social clubs (again excluding bath houses and some sex clubs) is the entry price tag for most straight men.

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[โ€“] SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 27 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I ate out a woman whoโ€™d been dancing all night in pleather pants.

Sometimes you just do it.

[โ€“] plutopos@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

And the taste gets diluted very quickly with your saliva anyways. The intense flavor only lasts for the first ~half a minute

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[โ€“] PragmaticOne@lemmy.world 37 points 2 days ago

Lol how to show your inexperience.

When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and thereโ€™s no issue.

[โ€“] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This is such a bizarre postโ€ฆ OP you sound terrified of other people and intimacy, therapy would probably be a huge help

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[โ€“] Scrogu@lemmy.zip 14 points 1 day ago

Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.

Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.

[โ€“] whiskers165@lemmy.ml 28 points 2 days ago (4 children)

This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don't wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.

Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There's unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who's junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower

Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you're not comfortable with other people's taint you're just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it's all taint

Absolutely this, there's no way to be with more than one person and not have things end up sweaty and smelly even if you just showered ... and I am so into that.

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[โ€“] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 36 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Some people actually like the smells. I even think most people don't prefer clinically clean bodies.

[โ€“] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Where's violet when you need her. I remember her posting about telling her boyfriend to not shower.

As another incredibly horny Violet out in the world, itโ€™s always odd to read comments like this. Straight up had the thought โ€œ but I never posted that meme on Lemmyโ€ ๐Ÿ’€

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[โ€“] did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 22 points 2 days ago (3 children)

jokes on you, i'm into that shit.

manstink drives me absolutely crazy.๐Ÿฅด

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[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 2 days ago (6 children)

If a penis is too dirty to go in my mouth, itโ€™s too dirty to go in my pussy. I strongly believe everyone should live by that rule!

To echo others here - if everyone involved showered that morning and otherwise wasnโ€™t sweating a lot during the day, itโ€™s fine.

I have ARFID and taste is a huge factor so I can't live by that rule lol. But, normal people without eating issues, absolutely this rule.

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[โ€“] jet@hackertalks.com 20 points 2 days ago

We exist because of a unbroken chain of horny humans existed in all types of conditions, only recently have showers been readily available. The human spirit will make due!

[โ€“] Float@startrek.website 14 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I mean if both of you are daily bathers and not sweating all day, there is no issue. If anything a tiny bit of smell can be nice, really let's the pheromones do their work.

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[โ€“] Today@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (2 children)

In movies people are always doing in on the beach all covered in sand. ๐Ÿคฎ

[โ€“] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Textured for nobodies pleasure.

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[โ€“] vapor_body@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

My ex-gf (RIP) (she's not dead she just doesn't like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea

CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this

Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that's been caused? How do we know this isn't hell? Maybe it doesn't have to be for too much longer.

If you can't say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It's so dark in here. We need your help still

[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while theyโ€™re still in hospital.

[โ€“] vapor_body@lemmy.ml 14 points 2 days ago

STILL IN HOSPITAL

my fucking eyes

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