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In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there's often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there's no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.

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[โ€“] HeroHelck@lemmy.dbzer0.com 70 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Horny brain can override a lot of better judgement.

[โ€“] slickgoat@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

That's why post-nut clarity is a thing.

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[โ€“] mech@feddit.org 49 points 1 month ago (2 children)

If your or your partner's genitals are vomit-inducing half a day after your last shower and putting on fresh underwear in the morning, you might have a medical issue that needs checking out.

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[โ€“] PragmaticOne@lemmy.world 38 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Lol how to show your inexperience.

When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and thereโ€™s no issue.

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[โ€“] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 38 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Some people actually like the smells. I even think most people don't prefer clinically clean bodies.

[โ€“] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Where's violet when you need her. I remember her posting about telling her boyfriend to not shower.

[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago

Busy being an underage thirst trap talking about fucking a guy as old as her dad.

Sheโ€™s back again btw.

As another incredibly horny Violet out in the world, itโ€™s always odd to read comments like this. Straight up had the thought โ€œ but I never posted that meme on Lemmyโ€ ๐Ÿ’€

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[โ€“] whiskers165@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 month ago (4 children)

This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don't wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.

Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There's unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who's junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower

Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you're not comfortable with other people's taint you're just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it's all taint

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[โ€“] SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 27 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I ate out a woman whoโ€™d been dancing all night in pleather pants.

Sometimes you just do it.

[โ€“] slickgoat@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

I heard a guy call it 'Disco Moot', and he was in favour of it.

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[โ€“] did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago (3 children)

jokes on you, i'm into that shit.

manstink drives me absolutely crazy.๐Ÿฅด

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[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 month ago (2 children)

If a penis is too dirty to go in my mouth, itโ€™s too dirty to go in my pussy. I strongly believe everyone should live by that rule!

To echo others here - if everyone involved showered that morning and otherwise wasnโ€™t sweating a lot during the day, itโ€™s fine.

[โ€“] Parvus@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

But even after peeing once there's some urine left. Is it okay for you?

[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah as long as theyโ€™re wiping after pissing and keeping it relatively clean, Iโ€™m ok with a little bit of body funk.

[โ€“] Parvus@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 month ago

It's nice people can be so accepting. Thanks for sharing your experience!

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[โ€“] jet@hackertalks.com 21 points 1 month ago

We exist because of a unbroken chain of horny humans existed in all types of conditions, only recently have showers been readily available. The human spirit will make due!

[โ€“] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you're way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.

The typical person that's bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn't going to smell that bad.

Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they'll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.

For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn't stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.

Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It's far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.

Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn't have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.

But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It's not the default at all. A person's diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.

For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it's not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it's less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn't really unpleasant tbh, just intense).

And it's not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.

Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?

[โ€“] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I bet you have some interesting stories.

[โ€“] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I used to be banned from dinner tables because of that lol.

[โ€“] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

My initial thought was what you were like camping, sitting around a campfire, just chatting.

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[โ€“] Scrogu@lemmy.zip 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.

Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.

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[โ€“] Float@startrek.website 14 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I mean if both of you are daily bathers and not sweating all day, there is no issue. If anything a tiny bit of smell can be nice, really let's the pheromones do their work.

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[โ€“] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago (4 children)

This is such a bizarre postโ€ฆ OP you sound terrified of other people and intimacy, therapy would probably be a huge help

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[โ€“] Today@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

In movies people are always doing in on the beach all covered in sand. ๐Ÿคฎ

[โ€“] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Textured for nobodies pleasure.

[โ€“] helix@feddit.org 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I for one love using rugburn blood as lubricant. ๐Ÿ™ƒ

[โ€“] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

Sex on the beach is the worst, but sex in the water is dangerous. Moving parts can create a vacuum which is very painful to break.

[โ€“] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

its dat good stank

[โ€“] vapor_body@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

My ex-gf (RIP) (she's not dead she just doesn't like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea

CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this

Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that's been caused? How do we know this isn't hell? Maybe it doesn't have to be for too much longer.

If you can't say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It's so dark in here. We need your help still

[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while theyโ€™re still in hospital.

[โ€“] vapor_body@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 month ago

STILL IN HOSPITAL

my fucking eyes

[โ€“] lambipapp@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What the fuck. I've never heard this, and I wished it stayed that way

[โ€“] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago

I wish i could say the same, but Iโ€™m a woman who has given birth before.

[โ€“] setfacl@beehaw.org 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I think you will find that people vary widely on their personal taste and tolerance in these matters.

Just as some love foods that others find completely offputting.

edit: typo

[โ€“] ZWQbpkzl@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

The odor of the partner is apart of the attraction. Not being able to shower afterwards is more of an issue, IMO.

Pheromones have a big role in sex and pairing. Sex only after shower should be a definite no-no. You should have at least half a days skin excretion on. Otherwise from your bodys perspective you might as well be fucking a silicone doll and subconscious processes for pairing are left out.

[โ€“] plutopos@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 month ago

I don't know you, but for me, pussy doesn't start tasting too bad until like 2-3 days without a wash

[โ€“] lorty@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 month ago

People didn't even shower daily a few hundred years ago. Hornyness makes anything possible.

That said healthy people don't get that bad usually.

[โ€“] Leviathan@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

I'm honestly confused by this. People smell nice when they smell like people, it takes a couple days for people to start smelling bad.

[โ€“] Ildsaye@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

Humans were having a lot of sex in historical situations where soap and daily bathing weren't typical. We're animals, you know.

But it's also normal for people to have varied levels of drive and personal thresholds below which it is no longer worth it. I was demisexual most of my life, and I'm functionally asexual now that the mass consensus is that it's okay to expose each other to sars-cov-2.

[โ€“] axont@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

The only people I've known to have sex in public places have all been caught, so anecdotally it seems like it doesn't work out.

[โ€“] kibiz0r@midwest.social 4 points 1 month ago

Maybe you only know about the ones who got caught?

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[โ€“] helix@feddit.org 3 points 1 month ago

If you have a condom, penetration might be less icky.

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