southsamurai

It's the flannel, it serves as camouflage for the ants, making people think they're either lesbians or hipsters. Unfortunately, nobody wants their neighborhood flooded by hipsters, so they just assume lesbians and hope for the best

You don't cure shy. You can't.

Only thing you can do is offer support and give them the freedom to explore with the safety that good support can bring.

She's not going to have trouble making friends. She'll be selective about who she considers a friend. That's not a bad thing. We all have to surround ourselves with people that match us and/or balance us.

That balance is what you encourage. Finding her own path to friends she, she feels connected to and safe with. Once she finds them in her own way, in her own time, you provide the opportunities for them to spend time together so that those friendships grow and develop.

Being slow to warm up, being shy, it's not a bad thing. It's just one way of experiencing life.

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hype? Pretty much any because hype is almost always artificial.

But fans? I can't say any band/performers don't deserve their fan base. You pull the crowds that need what you're making, so you inherently deserve them.

I can say that some fans do over hype the talents of what they like. It's perfectly okay to be a middle range musician, and it's perfectly fine to like them and recommend them exactly as they are.

Like, backstreet boys. Solid pop boy band. Had some great songs, but most were just okay pop. None of the members can really be compared to someone like Freddy Mercury, or Pavarotti, or Marvin Gaye, but they all had good voices to some degree or another and used them well. But their fan base back in the day was all about the hype, the fannishness of it. So they got hyped way beyond what they were.

That's the curse of a lot of pop performers, and it is the curse of teen/tween targeted pop for sure.

A lot of that kind of performer has to totally undo their family friendly (which is a bullshit term to begin with) focus to ever really grow musically. Look at pretty much every Disney escapee for examples. Timberlake, arguably the best example of someone escaping that trap without having to piss off the original fan base, still drags some of that curse with him while producing some very good pop music.

Now, KISS? Since that's the example in the post, I think you run into the trouble of hindsight. At the time they gained their initial popularity and success, they were a damn great live band. A KISS show back then was something most people had never seen, and the hype was justified

But they suffer from the success curse. Other people took what they did and did it better. So now the hype is essentially all nostalgia, so it feels out of place. Legit, go back and check out footage of their live shows and compare it to the standard rock bands of the same eras. It wasn't until they went full idiot and tried to abandon the makeup (and all that went with it) that they lost the thread. At that point, they kept trying to summon up what they'd lost and never regained their mojo. At this point, a KISS show just doesn't do justice to what the hype says. It can't, because it isn't the same band despite being mostly the same people.

But they were always mid tier songwriters (even the ones I fucking love were mid tier compared to a band like The Band that I tend to enjoy less).

So, that kind of thing is why I don't jump on hype or shit on hype. It's usually artificial, and it's also usually generated by dint of numbers. So hype never carries well.

But it's also why I never object or care about someone like Taylor Swift having a massive fan base either. She writes and performs for her target audience. She does that very well, no matter what else anyone thinks about her. Any pop performer is trying to do exactly that. Even niche subgenre performers that are actually trying to sell their music try to find a way to target a fan base (even if it's only people that would object to being called a fan base).

I would, at this point in my life, also say that at least checking out hype can be worth it. Even if you don't like whatever it is, you've shared something with other people, and that's a net positive. Plus, you might run into a few songs you do like from someone you don't otherwise enjoy (like shake it off from Swift for me)

For anyone curious

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Redantman

A reddit user that frequented the subs dedicated to the kind of things you couldn't ask in askreddit.

He was full of truly unusual questions, some of which barely parsed well enough to try and answer. But he wasn't boring!

Legit, this isn't that shitty a question.

However!

I met your dad at the glory hole, and he was pretty good on his knees

Wait, that's bullshit.

He knows shit about fuck. Get it right next time

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The anus

No. It happens often.

The very contractions that are part of orgasm make it easy, not difficult.

Eh, it's definitely not power tripping. They explained their reasoning, gave a limited ban, and did so politely.

Whether or not the comment violated rules could be debated, but they erred on the side of caution. Since we live in a world where even a meme community can be a target for hatred and nastiness, the mods erring on the side of caution is necessary. That isn't something I'd be willing to debate at all. Some communities just need extra vigilance. That's one of them.

I think you'd be well served by taking this chance to reexamine what you said and how you said it. The same basic idea could have been expressed in a way that didn't even get close to the rule, plus ways that didn't get as close much less be so close as to be indistinguishable from breaking the rule about targeting validity of terminology.

Maybe you didn't intend your comment to be taken as it was. I'm willing to believe that. But you do need to be aware that it sure looks like someone trying to dance around a bad faith argument in hopes of trying to play a semantics game to bypass a rule. Loopholes don't actually exist for this kind of thing, and shouldn't. You abide by the spirit of the rules, or gtfo. So, if you weren't doing that, then you gotta recognize the dubiousness of the comment and accept that future participation in that or similar communities requires an extra level of thoughtfulness in constructing comments.

Edit: the title of your post here is at the least misleading, and at worst an outright lie. The screen shot included in the post shows it as originally a temp ban ,as does the mod log. The perma ban seems to have happened based on your behavior after the temp ban, which is fully on you