Probably a question that should be discussed with a therapist. I dont think people here can give a good answer as we lack to much context.
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yes, but this is also a straight up troll.
legit narcissists don't think they are manipulating people, or being narcissists. they see their behavior as 'natural'. they also don't talk about their trauma.
There’s plenty of narcissists that know they’re narcissists, and there’s therapy tools to help them participate in the world in a more healthy manner, but as you sorta indicated, it’s very rare any want to, and even more rare than any actively go down that path, so seeing someone speaking as if they’re struggling with it internally without seeing any sign of having already developed those tools makes it highly unlikely they’re legit. Probably just regular old mental illness of some sort, maybe attention seeking coupled with drug use and emotional instability. Wonder if they’re single, that’s right up my alley.
Weird how often I see this take. Narcissism is really Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change. Not super common, but it is possible.
is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change.
at this point they are ceased being a narcissist.
Yeah your sentence has two verbs in the same sentence. You should say "they are being" or "they ceased being".
Buuuuut I don't use basic communication errors to find mentally ill people
Yep, although it'd be pretty surprising if it went like this. OP is straight up worried they're being bad to others, and willing to invite embarrassment by announcing it. (Unless they never really meant it)
Like, amateur over-the-internet diagnosis is worthless, but BPD would fit the almost no information we have better.
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Yes.
that's noted. but i need reasons, i have to process the logic behind the answer
I mean, the logic behind the answer is right there in the question itself. If you’re trying to be honest person because you respect this place, and it’s people, which it seems you are-
Telling them it’s in your nature to deceive is definitely a way to protect them. Even if it’s from you yourself.
okay, okay, i get it. thanks for sharing ill reread it when I sober up.
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If you wish to address these behaviors you need to speak with a therapist. It's nothing to be ashamed of. It's like a workout for your brain. We really can't help you. I wish you well. It's possible to change and better yourself, but only if you truly wish to.
You might have mental health issues, but I kind of doubt you have those ones just from the basic context.
I got a keep it simple and do the right thing mindset.
Have you been diagnosed as such by a psychiatrist?
Yeah, something else seems to be going on. A narcissist doesn't consider warning people about themselves.
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well a guy claiming to by a psychiatrist said i wasnt a psychopath but instead a sadist and dipped. and i think i got diagnosed as that kind of depression where you don't feel as high of swings
What do you mean by them claiming to be a psychiatrist? If you saw them in a professional capacity (i.e. office visit, whether in person or virtual, that insurance paid for, at least in part) then yes, they were a licensed psychiatrist. If it was some random person online, then it's doubtful
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Do you mean bipolar 2? Depression isn't really known for having highs at all.
oh no you can feel different levels of shit for sure, you can have suicidal thoughts then it stops... I don't know psychology all that well. manipulation is more intuitive for me. i mean that as more context for what i actually mean
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I assume you're asking this because you'd like to reduce the impact of that kind of behaviour.
If that is your goal, then it would be best attained by going to psychotherapy. NCD/ASPD cannot be healed, but it can be treated and its effects greatly reduced, assuming you're willing to put in the work.
Are you manipulating us right now in order to get some answer you want?
As people said, talk to a therapist. Is this normal behavior or thought patterns? Maybe you’re going through some sort of crisis or psychosis.
Reach out to a professional for help. Good luck!
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That seems kind of antisocial and would get a lot of attention, so yeah, win-win!
Are you really narcissistic or did someone just say you are (rhetorical question for yourself, not the internet)?
If you really are, congratulations, knowing and admitting is a huge thing!
Listen to the other advice, ask a professional.
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There is no point in telling them. They either already know or will find out once they meet you.
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No one is perfect. You are not alone or uniquely problematic in struggling with certain behaviors you don't like about yourself. We don't generally need to publicize our flaws up front. Rather than just telling them you are X negative trait, I think asking for specific safeguards that can help would be appropriate. Like, let's say you often lie to get out of aspects of work you don't like- be upfront with your limits on what you are able to tolerate and where you may not be able to.
if i can get it right sounds like this is a way to broach the subject. my reaction is that i can tolerate a lot, generally I can manipute people without lying and my simply moving erratically, talking about all the acts of charity I do. i do meal shares, i go to city council meeting out of blind faith in class solidarity, and I contribute to the members of the organization without asking anything in return. i can make myself look super freaking awesome and rub it in peoples face. also i set up all those things as trap for anyone that wants to attack me to get utterly humiliated.
best way for me to articulate that in my state
That's really a question you need to answer for yourself but everyone has issues. The fact that you are self aware of them means you know when they happen and can do things to control it better.
I don't think you need to introduce yourself with a warning, you deserve to have privacy and boundaries while you deal with your issues and heal, but if you feel safe enough with someone to open up to them, you can explain what you're struggling with, and in normal casual relationships, you can use that self awareness to control your issues.
Nobody's perfect, everyone has flaws, you're clearly not a malicious person if you're here asking this, you're someone who is struggling with some issues. But you recognize those issues and want to deal with them, that's a huge step a lot of people don't even get to.
im malicious to people i think deserve it. I dont have to pegged as a gennerally malitious (was gonna say narcissist, but your no where close to that), id say you're a generally mentally healthy person, few flaws I can tug at (it would be petty to tug at them). I tell IDF solider that I hate them that they're awful human beings and i hope that i hurt them emotionally, i love making people that advocate war crimes realize theyre the villian and crash out, and i openly told my maga neighbor that zohran mamdani is doing a good job to mess with him an hour ago.
the issue is I'm basically predatory against societies worst.
if you truly are a narcissist, they will know after 2-3 talks with you. no worries.
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What a deeply worrying post.
Yeah from my end there's no one who can relate to me.
I'm exercising and gonna try to eat vitamins and unprocessed foods.
I'm also telling another person that Im concerned for them.
I'm not gonna give into toxic behavior
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