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I have an acquaintance ( he would call me friend I never corrected him on that so I guess thats my fault) Anyways....this "Friend" is American. We talk mostly about gaming and anime. Anyways all of this is besides the point.

He has a steamdeck that has been acting up. Its slowly dying and only a matter of time till its dead I assume. Now I suggested he sends it in to get it repaired. Am I being naiive or is the US postal system so bad that it will get stolen immediately ? As he seems to assume ?

In my country I would just send it in and get it repaired if it was dying but I admit I dont know thaaat much about the state of the US postal system. To me and I dont want to accuse my friend this reeks of conservative brainworms that you cant trust the postal service and your package will get stolen...which doesnt really happen in my country.

He is in a northern state if that matters.

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[–] DogThatWentGorp@hexbear.net 33 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Stolen? I wouldn't worry about that.

Smashed to shit because it got mishandled? Definitely a valid concern.

[–] Doubledee@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah if you can get them to pack it well it's probably safe, I'd be more worried about damage than someone stealing it.

[–] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I have an acquaintance ( he would call me friend I never corrected him on that so I guess thats my fault) Anyways....this "Friend" is American.

sorry to use anime terms but look at you being all tsundere though, you're out here asking near strangers for advice to help this person, they're your friend 🙄stop trying to play it cool, you won't impress me 🙄

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

B-baka. Maybe I am a tsundere but my friend doesnt need to know that shy

[–] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)
[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA screm

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

He calls me dear friend. Who the fuck does that.

Aww you've got an engles

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

It'll be daijobu

[–] Wisp@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago

USPS is not nearly as bad as a lot of people seem to think in my experience

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago

The USPS is by far the most reliable carrier in the US

[–] Assian_Candor@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

Brainworms for sure, if he just packs it properly nothing to worry about

[–] Carl@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I've never had any problems with USPS, and from what I can see online Valve sends a return label with insurance for RMA requests, so if it did "get lost" then they'll be covered either way.

[–] tocopherol@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The postal service is the only public service that people generally trust in the US, mailing something in it's not likely to get stolen. Private companies like UPS are fine here too. The main risk of shipping is packages being stolen from your door when they are delivered, but you can pick it up at the post office or a UPS pick-up location usually.

[–] buckykat@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

Even packages being stolen from your door is like 90% Amazon Ring marketing, 10% reality

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 15 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I've never had a package stolen. Most of the drugs I did as a teen was delivered by USPS. He'll be fine if I can get fucking LSD and mushrooms delivered by mail lmao

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 15 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Homie, USPS delivers most of the drugs in the USA. I've seen drug packs get stolen by postal workers, but it is 99% at the point of origin, in an area known for shipping contraband, and another red flag or two besides (fake return address, overnight shipping, etc).

All that to say: USPS is pretty great, generally. Pack it up tight and tidy. Pay for insurance if you're super paranoid about your steam deck.

[–] hotcouchguy@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

People also ship gold bars/coins through the postal system, and those are even more identifiable once you know

[–] sleeplessone@lemmy.ml 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Some burgers are unduly paranoid about "porch pirates", but that wouldn't be affected using USPS vs Fedex/UPS. Especially if the destination is some commercial facility.

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

For a moment, I got legitimately angry, but then I decided to calm down and ask Hexbear whether my righteous fury at this nonsense was justified and now Im smiling smugly. smuglord

[–] NegativeLookAhead@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes. Immigrant space Jews from Mexico will steal it and use it to sacrifice an innocent republican house wife at the altar of the democratic demon-god, Lucifer.

Bill Clinton will also be there.

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago

Thanks for confirming my fears omori-afraid

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

it’s unlikely for usps workers to even know what’s inside

[–] TrippyFocus@lemmy.ml 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

He can pay a bit extra on the shipping to get it insured and get tracking with it that way in the unlikely case that it does get stolen he should get reimbursed.

I don’t ship much so don’t know all the details but did it once in a while for eBay stuff I sold back in the day.

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago

I wrote my friend about the option to insure it. He is worried since its his only gaming pc ( he does have multiple consoles as well though) . At the current rate it will probably just die but at least I offered advice.

[–] FuckyWucky@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Im not American but I've used USPS for forwarding stuff from US from/to my own country, never had any issue. I've found the tracking to be reliable.

I think half of porch pirate bullshit Americans face could be fixed if they didn't place boxes outside and required signatures.

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago

you can get verified delivery or whatever it's called but it costs extra and for most stuff it's not worth the extra cost

[–] Philosoraptor@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago

Mail carriers do not give a fuck. They're just as overworked as anyone, and mostly just want to get though their shift, which means busting out all the deliveries. The only time I've ever had a package stolen, it was from my porch by random people. It'll be fine.

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Stolen, naw. Lost in the maze of the repair company, maybe.

[–] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

i wouldn't worry, but there's a "hold for pickup" option where they'll keep the package at the post office and tell the recipient to come get it (instead of delivering it to your mailbox/doorstep, which is the only leg of the trip where i'd be even a little bit concerned about theft)

afaik it's something the sender requests though, so idk how you'd set it up for something you send out and then have returned to you

[–] D61@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

(Spent a few years working in a small rural post office)

Two point five options:

  1. Talk with the mail carrier that physically comes to your mail box and let them know what's up. If its a smaller area with a regular carrier (few to no regular subs working the route) they might be super cool about making a note and leaving that particular package at the office for pickup. Might be a bit more resistance if its a much larger town/city with multiple post offices servicing the same zip code.

  2. Finding the actual post office where your mail is sent out from and chatting them up about the issue can also have them try to hold the package.

2 1/2) Honorable mention option: "Temporary Vacation Hold." Find the post office where your mail is sent out from and fill out a yellow card where all of your mail will be held at that post office for a few weeks. Just remember to go pick things up or after a month things might get dumped in one huge pile at your mailbox or "Returned to Sender"

[–] Rod_Blagojevic@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago

The US postal service is extremely reliable and secure.

[–] Athena5898@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago

The mail system is one of the only things we have left. Why the Republicans are gunning for it so hard.

[–] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

yeah I agree with @DogThatWentGorp@hexbear.net, I think thefts in the postal system are fairly rare and he could also pay for insurance if he were really worried

but, as Doggo Gorpo said, mishandling is the default for shipments in America. Everything gets put into boxes and then packed into semi trucks and every step of loading and unloading is basically someone paid 70% of a living wage to throw boxes into or out of, and i literally mean throw

I think as long as it's packaged in a box with VOID FILLING (packing peanuts, air packs, whatever) so that it CAN'T MOVE and then packed into another, larger box around it, with similar void filling, it would 100% be fine

you could probably pack it less securely but then it wouldn't be 100% fine

[–] DogThatWentGorp@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Also they could turn their steam deck into a flea, then put that flea in a box, THEN put THAT box into another box! They mail that box to themselves and when it shows up at their doorstep? AHAAAAA it'll already be smashed by a depressed chain-smoker from a Cincinnati mail center!!!!

[–] Beaver@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago

The USPS is good, actually

I’ve only ever had two packages disappear in my life: one was coffee, and the other was a not insignificant amount of methylone (prior to US analogue act).

Homies steam deck will be fine as long as they package it well.

[–] bobs_guns@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 3 weeks ago

If anything happened to it he might be fucked since it's out of stock on Steam here. Maybe they keep a bunch of them around in case something doesn't work out but it would be hard to say for sure. Valve isn't the most communicative company out there.

[–] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago

I've never had a package stolen by the postal service. Once in a while shit gets misdelivered but even then usually it turns up because whoever got it saw that it was not for them and brings it back

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

Probably not. However if anything bad happens you would expect to not get any help about it. I don't know if that is true, in fact I think it isn't. However, vibes wise, it feels like the odds of never seeing it again are high.

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

if he lives in an apartment and they just leave it by the external door it's pretty high-risk, but whatever the risk is it works out that the cable company mailing you a modem just rolls the dice.

presumably he had it mailed to him, i don't see why this would be different.

[–] reader@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

yeah. USPS almost always has access to apartment buildings to leave packages inside. other carriers are more spotty

[–] tombruzzo@hexbear.net 2 points 3 weeks ago

Not from the US but as long as he doesn't put it in a suspiciously Steam Deck shaped box with "STEAM DECK: DO NOT NICK!!!" written on it, he should be fine.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

People say "don't send money through the mail" but I'm not even sure how true it is that anyone can feel the texture of money through an envelope. Any more elaborate allegation than that is total bullshit.

The Steam Deck should be just fine in the USPS's handling. What's more of a concern is whether your friend trusts his neighbors.

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I agree. I would assume the majority of money you would send via post is gonna arrive just fine. Mind you its just more practical to send the money via a bank or online but in theory using the post seems pretty safe.

[–] SocialistVibes01@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 weeks ago

Bubble wrap that shit