The first seems reasonable, until the reasoning is given, which reveals the whole message is batshit.

Though IMO someone getting upset at being told they are lucky to be with the person they are with is kinda full of themselves and reading way too much into it. It's more of a "I wish I was in your place without stating any intention to usurp it" than a "you don't deserve to be in that place and must be there because things outside of your intent or control got you there". It's more non-threatening flattery towards your partner (as opposed to just flirting with her) than anything else and I'd consider taking offense at someone saying that to be a red flag even before he went off the deep end.

It predicts the fragile ego stuff that follows rather than contrasts IMO.

There are a LOT of people who think this way, so being repulsed is the right response regardless.

Knew who this was before even seeing the username, legend.

Hate it when my girlfriend dresses hot cuz then I'm horny all the time.

JK she's always hot and I'm always horny all the time 🫣

I very often tell people this i thought i was building the couple up its like a shes great therefore you must be great for being able to date her. Didnt think i was questioning thier masculino.

Being told you’re a lucky guy to have the girl you’re with is pretty much the height of cishet male-to-male compliments

I personally would be more likely to interpret that as being told I'm not good enough for her. But that's just me.

About 7 years ago, my now-wife and I had just moved to this city and she was struggling to find work. We attended a few networking events to try to figure out the job market for her field here.

Now, I mean. I know my wife is hot. She was then, she is now. She can and has stopped traffic. People have fallen off bikes to gawp at her. Women have thrown themselves at her. Men act like boys around her.

At this professional networking event, while my wife had stepped away, a man wearing a 3-piece suit and clearly well into his career turned to me and said “I don’t mean to sound disrespectful, but she’s … really … beautiful.” The overall affectation and delivery was fawning, cautious, even. He was kind of moon-eyed. The guys around him all nodded somberly, as if they’d been stricken.
He had been talking with the men around him when we wandered over, and they all went a bit quiet when we came over.

Clearly, I still remember the compliment. It was a great testament to how hot my wife is. She’s a babe. (And like, fun, funny, and sweet and all the other stuff that makes relationships work.)

So the actual text in these posts is probably fake but I'm sad to say I've known two guys who act like this. Its not a ton, its not a majority of the guys I know, but like. Two is a lot for being THIS moronic. And they both seem like nice enough people at first. One of them is married to a pretty nice girl who just didn't see it until it was too late. RIP.

That said, posting this kind of stuff kinda irks me since it can end up making that reality seem more imaginary than it really is. Plus, people like me who have had that experience in real life don't need internet posts to teach them that this is the way it is, and people who haven't had that experience in real life probably aren't going to update their perception of reality based on posts like this. So these posts still kinda end up useless despite being fairly representative of reality.

I've dated many men like this. Insecurity can destroy anyone.

If it makes you feel better, the quality of the people they attract is often on par with their own horrible personality.

I regret to inform you shit like this happens all the time.

People can turn on a dime, I've seen it happen. It's especially infuriating because a lot of these men's friends will only know the good version of them and refuse to believe they're capable of being dicks.

It's not just good acting, it's that some men genuinely aren't capable of treating a partner like a person and not a thing. So they can be nice to people they consider people, or to partners who are behaving they way they deem is correct. But the second you're dating and something doesn't fit their narrative of how things should play out, the claws come out.