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Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I've gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can't seem to find a care to do it anymore. I'm sure it's tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have to drive to keep doing it.

Pulling out apparently

"unskilled" labor

Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.

Getting adequate mental health treatment

Speling.

Snowboarding, even without any tricks or anything fancy. Just cruising down the snow is also very difficult.

Playing the harmonica.

Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn't squeak - unless you're doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don't get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).

I'm very bad at the harmonica.

Continuing to give a shit as the entire system collapses.

Digital music production. Making a tune is easy, making it sound good and well balanced is a bitch.

It varies from person to person.

I can build a house from start to finish and figure it all out easily. I can rebuild a car pretty easy too. Computer hardware and networking stuff is no problem. I started navigating the us with nothing but maps (pre internet access availability for me) at 16 and have driven all over since. I excel in spatial relations from what I'm told.

I don't understand nouns, verbs, adverbs, or anything that goes along with it but can speak and write clearly. Learning languages is a pita. Same goes for programming. Interacting with people outside of certain things in person makes me cringe. Interacting on the phone is worse unless I know someone, I'm currently still using my wife's debit card to access my bank account 7 years after she passed because I have to call the bank to fix mine and I can't stand the thought.

Going to bed before midnight and actually sleeping

Teaching (elementary school). It's my third career and definitely the hardest of the three.

Starting (anything) Executive function issues people unite!

It's easy to be friendly at work. But turning that "work-friend" relationship into a real friendship, one where you do things outside of work together, is still a mystery to me. I have no idea how people do that. Others make it look so easy. I can't imagine anyone at my job dislikes me, we all compliment each other, laugh at each others' jokes, and hold fun conversations on the clock. Yet when a crowd gets together after work and plans where to go next, I'm baffled. I'm too anxious to invite myself, but nobody ever invites me, so I just try to ignore it so I don't feel hurt. :')

Explaining yourself

Turning when you're riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.

Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn't going to be able to turn much unless you're actually giving it some throttle.

most things. swimming, jogging, balance, juggling, knitting, whittling, lathing, bathing, dogs, pogs, poker, snooker, cooking, docking, greeting, seating, studying, cuddling, fishing, threshing...

Specifying exactly how to make a PB&J sandwich: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cDA3_5982h8

Asking intelligent questions.

Being happy. Living. Staying alive. Also, networking. I'm pretty good at computers, being able to build computers and compiling my own Linux based OS, but networking is witchcraft on another level. Still love it though

Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free

You get into it thinking it's a fun hobby and now it's sunday night, you're on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it's fucking impossible without a garage

Working from home. It sounds like a dream, but it's called a job for a reason.

Playing guitar

Apparently, applying window tint is more difficult than it seems.

I regularly see cars with large bubbles between the tint and the glass. I decided years ago that if I want window tint but can’t afford to have it professionally applied, then I can’t afford tint. Having no tint at all is better than living with poorly applied tint.

Art. Even if you're a natural you're still putting a lot of work into it.

Flying an fpv quadcopter. Actually the whole hobby. Not talking DJI. Building, programming and inevitably fixing them. Flying them in acro mode is not easy. Come to think of it, line of sight is even harder.

For me, making small talk. I don't even try anymore.

Quantum physics.

Satisfying the borrow checker.

Replacing a bath with a shower on concrete slab. That drain is four inches away from where I want it.

Accepting self.