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Title. Obviously youtube is out. Google results have been unhelpful. I tried Pornhub, but no dice. I wanna learn how to shave my twig and berries nice and smooth, because I'm a considerate partner - but I'm tired of trial and error and nicking myself on the nuts.

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[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 2 points 8 minutes ago

Don't shave! You are much more likely to get an infection down there where it's moist and there's minimal air flow. Use a set of trimmers with a #1 guard.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 points 9 minutes ago

No one can really answer this for you because everyone's skin and hair growth pattern are different. You have to try stuff until you find something that works.

For me, the process is this:

  1. After showering I use a dermaplaner that takes half of a safety razor blade to scrape my pubic (not my scrotum) area against the grain. The blade edge is almost perpendicular to the surface of the skin. This exfoliates the skin, lifts up any hairs that might be starting to get ingrown, and most importantly makes my skin very dry.

  2. I then use a Panasonic arc 5 to shave everything. Doesn't take very long if I do it once a day. I'm waiting for the Arc 3 to go on sale, because the head on the 5 is just too big for the area. My skin basically needs to be ashy for it to glide smoothly (wet shaving with it didn't get a close shave)

  3. Back to the dermaplaner to first shave with the grain at a 45° angle to smooth things out, then against the grain with the blade perpendicular again to lift the end of the hairs a bit.

  4. Spray it with an ingrown hair alcohol spray meant for waxing.

  5. Apply unrefined shae butter to the skin to moisturize and protect the skin.

[–] whotookkarl@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Just go slow and pay attention, if you're really nervous trim first then use a chemical hair remover just try it on a spot first as some can be sensitive or allergic to it

[–] Quexotic@infosec.pub 11 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

But for the love of God, don't try it on your junk first. Try it pretty much anywhere else, like on your thigh or something. Oh my god, just not on your junk, please!

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 points 2 minutes ago

You actually should spot test it on your junk, because the skin is more sensitive than other areas.

[–] leftzero@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 4 hours ago

Yeah, try it on someone else's junk.

[–] jobbies@lemmy.zip 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

If you're going for smooth just use Veet (hair removal cream) instead. Make sure you get the SENSITIVE kind though.

If you're really hairy trim first - leave about 1cm length.

Wash thorough and moisturise after. Smooth as a baby in 15 mins.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

Thanks for the rec!

[–] AverageEarthling@feddit.online 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Norelco makes a body shaver that is pretty great. The Body Groomer. It's a little pricey but it works well.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Oh man, will def need to check it out. Thanks!

[–] 666dollarfootlong@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

Electric shavers in general tend to leave the cut ends of hairs less sharp and thus more comfortable and less likely to ingrow. I used a razor once and will never use one again.

[–] BrianTheeBiscuiteer@lemmy.world 13 points 10 hours ago (3 children)

A few tips. No scissors or electric shavers. Pull areas to be tight and flat. Go slow at first. Use a razor you've used a couple times so it's not at it's sharpest, it'll still get the job done but be less likely to cause major cuts.

Also general advice, if your partner doesn't fully appreciate the results or effort then stop trying. I've never gotten criticized about a "full bush" or specifically complemented on a "smooth finish" so I stopped trying. Not worth the hassle if your partner thinks you're already sexy. More sit-ups or push ups might be more appreciated.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 points 20 minutes ago

Foil shavers work perfectly fine. I use a Panasonic arc 5 for it daily.

[–] 666dollarfootlong@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Why not electric shavers? I used a razor once, but in 1 or 2 days the hairs became terribly itchy, sharp and uncomfortable.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Thanks!

As for my partner's appreciation - I pretty frequently seek out new partners, so I like to make a good first impression. So even if a current partner doesn't mind, I want to be able to be ready to make that good first impression whenever the opportunity presents itself.

And yeah, lol, I actually did a core + push up + OHP workout yesterday. Goal is press BW and dead 2x BW! Mirror check today showed some okay ab and oblique pop despite being more than 5lbs over my goal weight

[–] HMWYSPlease@lemmy.org 65 points 18 hours ago (12 children)

Huh I've thought about making one and putting it up on porn hub but figured someone already had.

I've been shaving for decades thought. I use a Harry's razor (way cheaper than "premo" bs brands and works just as well) Don't use shitty disposable razors.

Use a CREAM shaving cream like "Cremo" not the foam crap. In a pinch hair conditioner can work but it's not good either.

If it's your first time trim it as short as you can before shaving. But never use an electric trimmer near and loose skin.

Rinse the blades often build up means they aren't working.

The more times you pass over the same patch of skin the more irritated it will get.

Do not rush.

It's easiest in the shower.

The main way to cut youself will be pressing to hard on the blade. But the way that will always cut you is letting the blade slide sideways. To avoid this alway lift your blade off your skin once done with a stroke or if you have to stop a stroke.

Shave regularly. It's easier to keep it up rather than redo it. I find every other day or every 3rd day works for me. If you put it off more than 5 days you're in regrowth danger zone. It will get itchy and if you scratch it you will end up with a sort of rash from irritation. If that happens it's probably the worst time to shave because your skin will be bumpy. If you do shave it will relieve the irritation but you need to be extra careful.

Also as much as you want to be smoooooth it ain't going to happen. Petting with the grain will be smooth but full prickle removal is basically impossible. I can get mely nuts fairly smooth with much effort and practice but the pubic patch is a no go. Maybe it's just me but the one time I did try to go against the grain in my pubic area it was smooth for a day and then irritated to hell and I ended up with bad ingrown hairs. Not worth it.

This part is main for males everything above applies to anyone I would assume.

Cold water = Shrinkage but can also make shaving easier for someone new. However because your sack is all scrunched up you're much more likely to have a patchy shave.

Warm water = Loose skin. This can make shaving trickier but is easier to get all the areas.

Don't be afraid to stretch that shit out like a paint canvas just make sure you have a firm grip before shaving a stroke.

Anyway hope this helps kinda just info dumped while laying in bed so might forgot something. feel free to ask questions.

[–] Akasazh@lemmy.world 20 points 15 hours ago (1 children)
[–] HMWYSPlease@lemmy.org 5 points 7 hours ago

Sure do, love giving oral but hate hair in/near my mouth. Since I would request a partner shave for me I figured I would return the favor without being asked since I love receiving just as much.

[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 hours ago

I would only add that if YMMV with Cremo try baby oil, also works as a moisturizer after as well.

Source: dated a stripper who shaved daily.

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[–] Lj404333@lemmy.world 8 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Get on Grindr, I'm sure a gay guy would offer to wax you for free. You do get random offers

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

Legit suggestion, but I don't think I'd take it. I'm terrible about setting boundaries with gay guys because I don't want them to feel bad that I'm not attracted to them.

[–] Janx@piefed.social 9 points 5 hours ago

Same. I'm still trying to work up the courage to tell my husband that I'm not gay. I'm hoping to do it before our 10 year anniversary...

[–] Lj404333@lemmy.world 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

You don't have to fancy them for a service, Some are happy to do so. They are not asking for you to bend over yet

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 points 19 minutes ago

Shit, some might even pay you to do it.

[–] hexagonwin@lemmy.today 5 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Lj404333@lemmy.world 4 points 11 hours ago

It happens, you feel a dick instead of a wax strip on your cheeks

[–] RustyShackleford@piefed.social 11 points 14 hours ago

My advice, is go to an hair removal place. Pay extra to take care of yourself, because avoiding those cuts early is worth it.

Unless you have a friend who doesn’t mind getting up close and personal with your boys.

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