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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Christians (esp. fundies) really don't work with the same concepts as everyone else

for example, homosexuality is now known to be mostly a matter of biology (of course, a repressive environment might lead people to suppress, but I'm doubtful that is relevant to the underlying question of their innate sexual orientation, which remains unchanged)

but for science-denying Christians who are taught that homosexuality is "sin", they are mostly taught that sexuality is not anything innate or natural but entirely a matter of behavioral choices (similar to how shame about masturbation frames sexuality and sexual desire as wrong and a matter of self control and making "good choices").

So, in that context something like "I don't agree with homosexuality" really just means they see homosexual "acts" as wrong, and so they don't endorse people who indulge in those behaviors; they aren't really thinking about sexuality in the same way.

[–] sveltecider@lemmy.ca 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Hot take: I really don’t care if it’s a choice or biology, I’m fine with it either way.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

it really does matter, though - the fact that it's not a choice is an important fact in arguments supporting legislation banning conversion therapy, for example - if it were a choice, conversion therapy would at least be plausible for people who didn't want to be gay, for example. If it weren't a choice, legislation banning conversion therapy would have less justification as it would be a valid choice for some people to not be gay and to use therapy to change. Conversion therapy doesn't work because it's not a choice, and that makes it a dangerous and pseudo-scientific practice, which justifies banning it.

[–] HrabiaVulpes@europe.pub 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"If not for christian missionaries you would still be worshiping sun!" "Sun is real, bro..."

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'd rather worship something real and responsible for life as we know it than a fictional petty tyrant who used his underdog creds to justify being the oppressor.

[–] flying_sheep@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] Zink@programming.dev 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My experience being born into religious conservative white america is that phrases like "I don't believe in" or "I don't agree with" are just the politically correct language and/or dog whistle for "I hate that shit but I need to act polite."

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I have (RCWA) family members who, in their words, "don't believe in Halloween". Halloween being a holiday celebrated in many countries and one that happens every year, which is all over the media, with products in nearly every store, and even shows up on most typical calendars in this country.

[–] NecroParagon@midwest.social 4 points 1 day ago

I think it might have to do with their Rigorous Coupled-Wave Analysis selves.

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[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 82 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Long time ago, group of friends and I were eating late night food at a diner. Talking about lots of stuff and one of them turned to the topic of homosexuality as one of our friends just came out.

Only other customer in the room was a lady reading a book. When we spoke of homosexuality she simply mumbled, "I don't believe in that." and we said, "... What?" she says, "I don't believe that homosexuality is a real thing."

Gay bro pipes up and says he's a living breathing example. They got into it for a bit and it was so long ago that I don't remember how it went. I think she left out of frustration.

Weird times.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 3 points 18 hours ago

Lol. What is it about diners? I was having breakfast with a group of friends, after a night of drinking, and we had a conversation about an April fools joke one of the people's sister pulled. It was something about needing an abortion, I don't remember what. This woman sitting near us with her kids says we need to stop talking because she doesn't want her kids to hear about it. Eventually she ends up leaving, after the staff spoke with her, and we thought it was over. Turns out, she went to her car and waited for us to leave, she drove very close to us at high speed in the parking lot to yell "losers" at us. It gave us the name of our group chat for years after.

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 39 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Even just the notion of butting into a conversation with that, wtf. Must've felt it was her chance to proselytise.

[–] PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The People who "don't believe in homosexuality" are usually the same type of entitled assholes to insert themselves into other people's conversations.

Excellent point

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

As an aside, there is really something magical about late night diners. Something timeless and almost invigorating about how mundane and dreamlike those experiences always are.

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[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I hear you but like -- fuck mountains.

[–] I_am_10_squirrels@beehaw.org 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

No kink shaming here, as long as the mountain consents

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 45 points 1 day ago (4 children)

When the people who disagree with mountains turn out to be mountains themselves it becomes downright hilarious.

[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This half assed analogy is cracking me up

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That’s actually my personal theory on why they think it’s a choice. For them, it IS a conscious choice, because they’re gay and making an active choice to suppress it. They think everyone has gay urges, because they’re incapable of imagining a world where they aren’t their lived experience isn’t the default.

[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 day ago

These gay mountains are so gay.

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[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 48 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Yeah, me and my wife are still married. No amount of random bystander disagreement will change that.

Partnership is a very grassroots thing. It predates modern humans, and it will persist long after. An organization that fails to recognize self-defined partnerships is self defeating. I might as well argue that my own feet don't exist.

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[–] jeanofthedead@sh.itjust.works 2 points 20 hours ago

I don’t believe in fire.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 day ago (8 children)

One time, my dad, fully serious, said to me that homosexuality didn't exist in nature outside of humans.

It was like finding out that you have a below average penis.

My stomach dropped in shame when I was so starkly faced with the mental faculties of one of my biological guardians I had been raised by. Was I staring at my limit?

What about those other kids, whose parents are educated and empathetic and who will ask real probing questions and can answer them? Will my facilities slow to a crawl soon, to keep pace with my genetic fate?

Are these fears so average that I should bow my head in the river, afraid to even express them, lest I be confronted by the entire history of humanity?

Maybe biological nature isn't everything, maybe fate isn't real and change is truly in our hands, ready to be molded, potentially even into chaos.

"Better stupid than dead", huh? It's staring right back at me, blankly, waiting for me.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago

Fortunately for you, while there's definitely some genetic component to it, it's definitely not the only factor by any means. I've known some very intelligent people who believe some very dumb shit.

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[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 day ago (4 children)

You think there's always been gay people? Even in ancient Greece? Sure, let's just pretend all those hairy daddy bears weren't wrestling each other for totally heterosexual reasons.

[–] desertdruid@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 23 hours ago

or the totally not homo ancient romans grooming twinks

[–] rockerface@lemmy.cafe 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

When everyone was gay... noone was

[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

Hey conservatives, I’ve got an idea on how to get rid of all the homosexuals in modern society, now hear me out on this…

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[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I don't agree with the sun. That bitch can fuck right off.

Friggin’ hot tho 🥵 🥵 🥵

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[–] merc@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's fun whacking a straw man, but "I don't agree with X" doesn't mean "X doesn't exist", it means "I don't believe people should engage in X".

If someone says "I don't agree with pushing your religious beliefs on others", would you reply the same way?

[–] CXORA@aussie.zone 7 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

You understand that's different right?

How are you going to complain about a strawman and then use one of your own?

Homosexuality isnt an action its a characteristic. "I dont agree with recycling" is different than "i dont agree with being left handed".

[–] RagingRobot@lemmy.world 1 points 18 hours ago

I'm ok with being gay and I'm ok with being left-handed but I don't believe anyone could be left-handed and gay. They absolutely should not be recycling in that condition. We need to draw the line somewhere

[–] Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

The "I don't agree with" people are also the believers that homosexuality is a choice. (It's not....every sane person knows that it's not.)

So when they're saying "I dont agree with" what they mean is "I don't agree with the choice a person makes to be gay"

[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago (4 children)

People are stupid

Now, religious people are a special breed of stupid.

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Make mountains gay again.

(I’m loving this post/comment section too much)

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