Transmasc

I'd be willing to bet your dad and grandpa wouldn't consider me a man either, but they have outdated ideas and would not pull in today's society.

I feel you hard on seeing T as cheating though. As a femboy, I see a lot of femboy influencers taking E as basically a performance enhancer. I think the big difference is that you need that extra boost, because your body isn't naturally making the right amount of hormones for you. That's not cheating, it's correcting a biological flaw. You're not really taking it as a shortcut to your exercise goals, you're taking it to become one of the boys.

With all the love Scott, there is no such thing as "cheating" to get a body that makes you happy. Even if you were a cis man in a competitive sport taking T for an advantage, EVEN THEN taking T would only be cheating at the sport, not yourself.

But internalized transphobia is always the hardest hurdle, I get it. I'm sorry your dad/G-pa are so close minded and adverse to you gender exploration. There is no "agenda" to you happiness, you and you alone decide who you are, I hope the people in your life focus on that instead of their own hangups.

My dude, Larry. There is no such thing as cheating! You're allowed to get your hormones. Also, I'm gonna be honest, your dad and your granddad can go fuck themselves. They don't know shit about you. You know what you are, and what you are is a guy. You are a man, and you are awesome for that. Now go take some testosterone and go lift some weight, brother.

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I'm a cis male and I don't like rough labour or weight lifting. You don't have to be aggressively masculine to be a man, these things are not required!

Also if you don't have enough locally sourced testosterone, store-bought is fine!

If it makes you feel any better, I am very confident in my guess that there are cis men your dad and grandpa would call "not real men" either.

Ultimately, if being a boy makes you feel more like "yourself", that's enough. Sorry you're dealing with unaccepting family.

As a cis guy who also does not like hard labour and never goes to the gym, you can be whatever you want. I also love to pee sitting down, apologies if that's TMI but doesn't make me any less of a man.

We can all be bro's regardless of physical gender. Hit up that T when you're comfortable with it, it's only the same as people who get other gender affirming treatments such as girls who get fillers or guys who get hair transplants. No shame in any of it.

Don't let the bastards grind you down.

As a father of a FtM young boy I'm doing my best to make sure he doesn't need to worry about it as much as I can do that. I'm really sorry your father and grandfather haven't been supportive. But, that's just their ignorance. I've had to do a lot of research into this stuff and I took some time before I fully accepted it. But, now I'm really worried by the idea that ignorant people will tell him he's just a confused girl and likely a lot worse. Those ideas really are just ignorance that isn't aligned with the real world.

I really hope you can feel free to be yourself.

Also T isn't cheating. It's what you give to a boy/man who's body doesn't create enough of it, no matter what gender they're assigned at birth.

You're definitely a guy, don't listen to those people, Scott. You don't have to be all that manly to be a guy, even femboys exist.

You're a guy. I don't even vaguely get tomboy, based on how you're describing your subjective experience.

I don’t believe that being validated would constitute “attention seeking” behavior. You’re obviously going through an existential crisis, and that’s nothing to take lightly (from your and our side).

It sucks that the people who should always have your back (family; especially your dad) don’t. They are the ones who should be fighting like hell to keep you safe; to protect and stand up for you. I do know how bad it feels when you feel alone and abandoned. I’m sorry that they’re failing you.

If you feel like a man, then by all means, you’re a man. This is your life, your feelings, and your very identity. Not mine, and certainly not your family’s.

You’re not cheating by taking hormones to help you realize yourself. You’re cheating (yourself) by thinking you can’t do what you need to do.

If I may leave you with some advice I have always told my children: Bravery isn’t about not being scared. Bravery is doing what needs to be done, in spite of being scared.

You are being brave. And that counts for a lot. 🤜 🤛

I don't like rough labor ... but I do like weight lifting

This is something either of my brothers could have written. Different guys are just into different things, don't let that hold you back from being you, my dude

I'm a man and so are you, you always have been, bro.

I dont like Cars or Sports or Weights, but I love my penis... does that help?

The idea that anyone is pushing people to be trans is essentially a conservative delusion. I’m sure it’s happened somewhere, but that’s not the experience for the vast majority of trans people. And I have to imagine you’d be pretty aware if someone was actually pressuring you to transition. The opposite is true for most trans people: society and family members barrage us with demands, pleas, and coercion to express only a cis gender expression and identity.

You can be trans and a feminine man, or a guy that’s just not that masc or fem, or your definition of masculinity doesn’t necessarily need to include hard labor. Men who exert their minds in their work are no less masculine than men who work with their bodies; think lawyers, scientists, doctors, etc.

If you think T would make you more comfortable in your own body, take it. A cis man with low T would have easy access to a T prescription if his hormones were in typical female ranges. In no sense is it cheating at anything, you’ll still have to work at building muscle and stamina.

Fist bump/hugs, man. Dealing with unsupportive family is rough.

you're a dude. we are both dudes. i've been comfortable as a dude for a long time even when being misgendered, especially by my own family and school who wants me to come out to family before being gendered correctly but you will soon become comfortable with manliness too :)