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I feel like a girl masquerading as a guy, can someone affirm me please? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I'm sorry if this is attention seeking, I'm trying not to be...

Ever since I was a kid, I was different from other girls. I wanted to be a boy. Since I knew boys had penises, I wanted a penis too. I wanted to be like my dad. Though he turned out to be not a good person, I didn't know that at my young age.

I wanted to hang out with boys and do "what the boys did", not what the girls did.

I didn't like makeup or dresses, but I just thought I was a tomboy or a boyish girl. But do boyish girls want penises? Do girls who want to be like their fathers feel the way I do? Well, I guess some of them do.

But my grandpa and dad have convinced me that all I will ever be is a girl. Just a confused girl masquerading as a guy. Just a confused girl who society has "pushed an agenda on".

I don't like rough labor either which I see stereotypically with guys and stuff, but I do like weight lifting and that gives me gender euphoria. I would take T to help me get stronger but to my internalized transphobic brain (I'm working on that), it's cheating.

If you want to use my name(s) in your reply, by the way, I'm Larry or Scott. Alex or Mikey is fine too.

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[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago

The idea that anyone is pushing people to be trans is essentially a conservative delusion. I’m sure it’s happened somewhere, but that’s not the experience for the vast majority of trans people. And I have to imagine you’d be pretty aware if someone was actually pressuring you to transition. The opposite is true for most trans people: society and family members barrage us with demands, pleas, and coercion to express only a cis gender expression and identity.

You can be trans and a feminine man, or a guy that’s just not that masc or fem, or your definition of masculinity doesn’t necessarily need to include hard labor. Men who exert their minds in their work are no less masculine than men who work with their bodies; think lawyers, scientists, doctors, etc.

If you think T would make you more comfortable in your own body, take it. A cis man with low T would have easy access to a T prescription if his hormones were in typical female ranges. In no sense is it cheating at anything, you’ll still have to work at building muscle and stamina.

Fist bump/hugs, man. Dealing with unsupportive family is rough.