Men's Liberation

I think a large part of the very real issues in hetero relationships do come from patriarchy. But there is now a life-style genre of gender grievance and content. Heteropessimism sells and there is engagement from women who are tired of men, men who are tired of women, and either who is tired of the discussion.

But it generates ad revenue.

The issues are very real, and we benefit from learning more and engaging with feminist theory and praxis. But at some point we have to stop engaging and meet people where they're at.

Like even if you engage with a lot of theory sharing a great deal of what you learned could be called "performative." Get out of the doom scrolling cycles and engage with women in your community.

From the article:

Not the feminism aimed at merely—in the words of psychology professor Darby Saxbe—"emulating men and outcompeting them on the terrain they have constructed.” Not the feminism the late bell hooks called “trickle-down theory: the [flawed] assumption that having more women at the top of corporate hierarchies would make the work world better for all women, including women on the bottom.”

No, the feminism that fights for a society where everyone of all genders has more time and energy to care about people outside of work.

Cut away the fluff of the article, and what they're actually saying is: interact with your community and help out your friends more. I think this is good advice for women too, it would probably be good for me.

I'm not sure if this is intended as ragebait or you wanted to pull readers in but please for the love of god stop saying the cure for men's problems is feminism. Its the most performative male thing ever.

This guy does not get it. He will never reach the average man with his message. It is a similar to the redpill message but worded in a worse way and has tons of political baggage shoved in.

Its so reductive to say "just care" as if lonely men are going around having all these social interactions but the problem is that they aren't caring hard enough. Bro the problem is they are NOT having social interactions. Saying "you just need to talk with your partner about the division of house hold labour" or "have you considered watching over your friends children?" they dont have a partner, they dont have friends thats why they are lonely. "You just need more free time" free time won't do shit they have enough free time thats not the issue.

We’ve been told that anything outside of going to work or optimizing ourselves by lifting weights, sitting in ice baths, and pounding creatine isn’t worth much. That caring for others isn’t a “productive” or “efficient” use of our time. That someone else will always end up doing it. That we’re not supposed to do it because women are naturally, biologically designed for it and we’re not (which is untrue). That if we do it, we’re less valuable, like a woman, less of a man.

No we havent. No one has ever said this. I hate this stupid meme that men are raised as souless golems. Every man enjoys being around people and laughing. Everyman enjoys having a relationship. The problem isnt that they dont value it or "society has told them they can't". The problem is they not comfortable enough to put themselves out there and expose themselves to the social risk that comes with making friends or dating.

It's a struggle. I try to do this with my union hall. Try and get out there and make connections with people. It comes a little easier when you're thrusted into social interactions ,because of your children, as a parent.

It's so much easier to just disassociate.

You gotta find ways of disguising it though. Fuckers get allergic reactions to words that sound all pink coded and woke

Using no true Scotsman type arguments to define gender equality is distractingly bonkers. Otherwise, well written and interesting read.

The cure for male loneliness is a better economy, as in improving their material conditions. not ideology.

It would be nice if we could set aside our petty differences to build towards a sustainable future for all. I believe that would fix most of our current problems. But that gets in the way of profits or whatever.