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Title says it all. What really irks you that you don't get to complain about much without catching some glances? Seriously, get as passionate as you'd like. I assume you're an expert.

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Advertsing.

Blessed Aiyuna, the stuff is inescapable. Our civilization has somehow decided that, if you have money, you have a goddess-given right to get ALL UP EVERY WHERE IN THE LIFE OF EVERY PERSON AND HEY YOU ARE NOT PAYING ENOUGH ATTENTION LET ME GET EVEN LOUDER SO YOU CAN HEAR ME EVEN IF YOU WALK OUT OF THE ROOM FOR YOUR OWN SANITY SINCE EVERYBODY ELSE IS JUST GOING TO BE LIKE, "WHAT ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT?"

It is not great.

[–] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 48 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Motors. They are everywhere. Big motors, small motors, motors in every vehicle, motors in many home appliances, fans in many of your electronics, on the ceiling, in the walls, standing on the floors, inside, outside, you can hear them in the sky, or running down the tracks. Noisy, noisy motors and somehow it's all background noise to everyone else but me.

Is it summer time? Want to open a window and listen to the birds sing? Nah, fuck you it's the neighbour's air conditioning unit.

Am I crazy or is the rest of world crazy? Who knows. Here's a motor. Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

[–] drkt@scribe.disroot.org 17 points 5 days ago (1 children)

These people pretend they can't hear all the motors but then complain that the city is loud!

No it isn't; cars are loud! Move yours out of my city! I'm trying to live in peace, here!

brrrrrrbrrrrrrrrrrbrrrrrrrpoppoprrrpopr every morning every evening every night

[–] pilferjinx@piefed.social 3 points 4 days ago

I get glances from people when I mention the electricity in my walls are too loud. Every damn thing hums too loudly in the cities and is extremely noticeable when the power goes out.

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[–] chronicledmonocle@lemmy.world 23 points 5 days ago (6 children)

Women's and Children's pants sizes. It's an 11 WHAT? THE FUCK DOES THIS NUMBER MEAN GODDAMMIT?

All pants sizes should be Waist circumference, Hip circumference, and (in the case of pants versus shorts) Length to ankle. Objective and not subjective measurements. Something I can put a measuring tape to and confirm. It's not perfect, as everybody is different, but at least I'm not trying to dress my children and remember "A size 12 in this brand is a size 10 in this brand" bullshit.

I nearly foamed at the mouth ranting about how this shit drives me insane.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Having worn mens clothes for most of my life, I was accustomed to being able to say I wear a 30-30 and get pants that fit every time regardless of brand.

When I started wearing women's clothes (because I like being pretty), WHAT THE FUCK ARE THESE SIZES? the hell even, how can you have a size zero? None of it makes sense!

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[–] Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 41 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (6 children)

People watching shit on their smartphone with the volume full fucking blast. What happened to Airpods and the like? Use them ffs! not a single person wants to hear whatever bullshit is coming out of your phone.

Honorable mention: cars with speakers in the grille. Not one single solitary person wants to hear your stupid playlist either, and your speakers fucking suck anyway. Yes, I'm talking to you, bozo in the donked out Chrysler 300 that drives down my street.

[–] El_Scapacabra@lemmy.zip 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

People have speakers in the grille of their car? To play music on the outside of their car? What the fuck kind of main character psycho bullshit is this?

[–] Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago

It's terminal main character syndrome 😔

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 5 days ago

yes thank you! 100% agree. I should not be the one having to shove my noise cancelling earphones in just so someone else can blast some 10 second instagram short that repeats over and over and over ad nauseam while they, I assume, scroll through mindless bot comments.

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[–] Jojowski@sopuli.xyz 32 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Street lights and cars. We have the technology to adjust street light brightness and color, if we must have them could we at least dim them in the evening and use warmer tones. Helps us, helps the nature.

Ban most of the private car driving and compensate by building tram/train tracks. The noise cars make is just obnoxious.

Also people not caring about the climate change and the environmental impact our culture has. Being comfortable is more important than making the right choices. People are willing to look away from almost anything as long as they don't feel uncomfortable in their private lives.

[–] Th4tGuyII@fedia.io 11 points 5 days ago

As someone with light sensitive eyes, I sympathise with you on street lights and cars.

The pure white LEDs being put into every streetlight and car on the road nowadays are so unnatural and harsh to look at, and (for me at least) way more physically irritating to look at than the same brightness of warm lighting.

I hate them with a passion, and sincerely hope that governmental bodies will look to ban/limit their outdoor use in favour of warmer lighting.

[–] aturtlesdream@lemmy.world 30 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Anything and everything related to noises and sounds being so loud/unnecessary. It feels like the world keeps getting louder and louder for no reason. Speakerphones blasting music and full volume calls on speaker, thudding base/stereo systems, just the volume people seem to talk without any regard for the people around them is ridiculous. That's not to mention any of my misophonia related triggers on top of it all. Some days I really wish I could turn my hearing off for a bit

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[–] Seigest@lemmy.ca 10 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Every choice we make has an impact on the world around us. Sometimes that impact is very small, but it is still real. For example, we live on a planet with a limited amount of clean drinking water. This can make me wonder if using a service like ChatGPT uses resources that contribute, in even a tiny way, to water shortages in the future.

I also think about the things I buy. If I wear a T-shirt made in Malaysia, does that support unsafe working conditions or child labour? If someone is harmed in a factory that makes these clothes, do my purchases make me partly responsible?

These thoughts lead to a difficult question: if I am responsible for even a small part of many harms, such as being 0.001 percent responsible for the deaths of 1000 people through many small everyday actions, does that mean I have caused a death simply by living my life?

I wonder if it's my autism that makes me consider these things because to me it seems no one else does.

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[–] joulethief@discuss.tchncs.de 21 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (3 children)

Consumerism and throwing away easily repairable things. Perceiving some brands as superior for whatever fucking reason even if you explain why that's not the case. Cheap stuff that breaks apart by merely looking at it from the wrong angle. "Cost optimization".

Not really autism-specific things but holy hell does it get me going.

Yeah and literally everything else in this thread.

Edit: The quality of search results. Jeeesus Christ has it become ridiculously hard to find anything human-written beneath all these AI trash sites. Fuck those ad-riddled, information-deprived, time-wasting pieces of shit.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago (2 children)

My autistic partner does the second one. No MATTER how many arguments bring why apple just is objectively a bad choice from the price tag to their products. They still only want apple phones. Instead of breaking out they are going "well i cant get any other phone than apple because of my apple music and apple in-ears."

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[–] beSyl@slrpnk.net 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Oh yes, this one pisses me off also: consumerism. I am anti consumption and when I see the amount of consumption, unneeded, useless, consumption in the world i get.. Mad? Sad? Disappointed? We are in a climate emergency, the main reason being capitalism, which might just be a synonym for "consumption". The marketing that is done for increasing levels of consumption is also pathetic, infuriating and criminal.

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[–] beSyl@slrpnk.net 17 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Dogs that bark at people that are just walking on the sidewalk. It pisses me off to no end.

Cannot people walk freely on public sidewalks without being bothered by a fucking dog barking as if I am committing a robbery? Owners should train their dogs not to bark like that.

It pisses me off. Seriously. Just thinking about that, my blood pressure is already rising. Imagine if every house had one of those dogs. It would be fucking hell to go anywhere by foot.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I think you can learn to not be angry by understanding dogs better. They are protecting their territory and they are the one animal that loves its humans more then anything.

They are actually amazing. So I think if you learn the positive things about them, you may like them more.

[–] beSyl@slrpnk.net 6 points 4 days ago

The dogs piss me off at that moment, sure, but it's the owners I hate..

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago

The forgetfulness of neurotypicals regarding negative memories.

You see, you/they tend to forget all that negative stuff. We don't. We keep it almost forever.

So something political happens, or with a influential person or company, or whatever and we look back and say... It's a trap, did you forget xxx?

Yes, yes you did. And it's very disheartening. Grifters can gift forever, blind the masses etc. We're beginners forever as humanity.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 5 days ago

Smokers that smoke around people in public spaces like in a busy pedestrian zone or at a train station

[–] mech@feddit.org 16 points 5 days ago (2 children)

The fact that the only way for 2 people to move around in public side by side and hold a conversation is usually when you're sitting in a car.
Sidewalks and bike paths are too narrow for it or full of parked cars in cities, and non-existant in rural areas.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago

Holy shit this one is so real. Meanwhile they're adding another 2 lanes to Main Street for the cars....

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[–] Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Inefficient loading of the dishwasher.

You put the same things to the same place! So you can grab them as one when unloading, saving time.

You spread everything out! The more bunched it is, the harder it is for the water jets to hit and clean everything properly.

You put each thing into the most appropriate place! Big spoons go into the bigger bucket, small spoons in the smaller one, big plates into the row with the wider space between plates, smaller plates into the more narrow rows.

It's incredible how most people load their dishwashers, they mostly just put stuff in wherever is closest.

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[–] Worx@lemmynsfw.com 25 points 5 days ago

Cardboard game pieces being placed upside-down. When I've brought this up to other people, they've said they can't even tell there's a difference! You can both see and feel that one side has a rounded edge and one side has a flat edge. Usually the top has a slightly better print quality than the bottom as well. Sometimes I feel like people just float around without gathering any sensory data at all!

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 23 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Feeling/hearing the hum of electricity through the walls, plugs, etc.

It’s not just when things are on, but if they’re plugged in at all that they make even more noise. Drove me to a point I pulled every single electric and electronic object out of my room and brought back in only what I absolutely needed after about a week.

If I could turn off the circuit breaker to just my room for a breather I would in a heartbeat, but I live with other people. Alas.

[–] Gwen@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago

The light fixture in my bathroom wastes energy and annoys people with this humming sound. I think it’s coming from the transformer. Just bleh. It’s a rental apartment but maybe I could get it replaced somehow. The ironic thing is that the new light tubes are powered directly by the mains, they stopped selling fluorescent tubes around here.

[–] Eideen@lemmy.world 21 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (6 children)
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[–] protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 5 days ago

loud noises in general, stuff like applauses annoy me to no end, crowds being overly cheerful for no reason, noisy vehicles

[–] callyral@pawb.social 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Not diagnosed, unsure about autism status so assuming neurotypicality until proven otherwise, answering anyway because I hate buying stuff online:

When searching for a product, whether you're looking for a specific one or just browsing a general category, you will find that all (actually, I meant "most of", using "all" for emphasis) the categories are made up, useless or inconsistent: there are duplicate categories, obviously missing values that should be there - honestly, there's no way a person created those labels. I get it, big online stores have lots of products, and lots of different types, it must be hard organizing all of those into neat digital boxes for a better user experience.

Oh wait! They're huge corporations, they can afford to do that, probably! Just hire someone to categorize the products, or tell the people submitting those products to label them properly or suffer consequences. Provide better labels, I should be able to know exactly, or at least with near certainty, what a product is just from the tags (in my opinion).

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 days ago

Moving things, then not returning it to the place of order. Not holding up order in drawers.

My blood relatives are SO MESSY AND DISGUSTING! The plate and cuplery still has food on it after dishwasher wash? They put it to the clean stuff.

I spend a day making the perfect order and organisation in their kitchen drawers saving lots of space, the next day its all chaos again where you again have to play tetris to fit the tools into the drawers.

Tell me how can 3 people last 3 years without exchanging their toothpaste? Answer they do because they dont brush their teeth!!

Not following the washing instructions! It says to be washed at 30°C NOT 90°C!! It only takes a few minutes to sort those differences too but safes a lot of money from constantly having to throw out shrunken cloths!

I haaaateee how my birthgiver complains i dont show interest in her, bitch your entire life is work, i never see you doing any hobbys. You go to work, get home, work more, then cook for the 28 year old offspring that still lives with you for some reason and that doesnt know how to cook, then work till 8 pm then watch TV and then sleep! Woman where are you hobbys?!? You got none! And the most interest you show in me is ask how the day was but no further engagement. Even if i tell you about the news from my life or my hobbys you dont even react. Ugh (Yes i got parential issues how could you tell?)

I dislike music in stores. Yes i get it "atmosphere" or smth but it would probably all be better for everyone if you shut it off so everyone can better focus!

But my biggest quirrel is how people dont just understand the concept of "disliking something because of texture". I dont really have it, but my partner, and when ever other dont just accept it, but continue questioning it as if it were a debate or something one can just choose not to, ooh that brings me to boiling point of annoyance

[–] antsu@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The smell of the smoke after a match is put out. Everyone else I know seems unbothered by it, meanwhile for me it's extremely revolting, it causes a strong urge to get as far away from it as physically possible.

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 10 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Huh I actually love that smell, and lately prefer it to scented candles which make me feel overwhelmed.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm getting the mental image of you just lighting and putting out matches for 30 minutes any time you want to freshen up the house 🤣

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I mean, kind of! We used to have a candle in the bathroom, but now i just light a match and wave it around a couple times anytime I want it to smell better in there

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[–] Rhoeri@lemmy.world 12 points 5 days ago

The lack of nuanced thought.

[–] biggerbogboy@sh.itjust.works 7 points 5 days ago

getting given advice by another person who you've already told that such advice does not work. Prime example: me telling my mother my sensory issues and triggers, then she tells me to just not think about it, as if that would ever change the fact I can't filter environmental noise from my mind at all...

[–] paultimate14@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Laundry detergent. The detergent instructions, coming from a biased manufacturer, will always tell you to use waaaaay too much in order to encourage consuming more. They stuff them with scents so that you can tell they are working and have a constant reminder with you about your purchasing decision. It's bad for the washing machine- residues stick around and can clog things up and cause moving parts to wear out faster. In fact, washing machine manufacturers often recommend running loads of towels without adding any detergent a few times regularly just to clean out the excess.

I could always feel it on my skin and feel suffocated by it. When I lived in an apartment, most of the rest of the building was from some Caribbean country and used some expticly scented detergent in the shared laundry machines, so unless I wanted to spend time and money to run empty cycles I had to just deal with it. I'm so grateful now to have a house with my own machines that only see my own, unscented, detergent and in reasonable amounts. And it gets cleaning cycles regularly.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago

Omg yes this is the biggest scam.

I'm pretty sure research has indicated that it's actually more effective to use too little detergent than too much detergent... so they're literally stopping their products from working as well as they could.

[–] Affidavit@lemmy.world 8 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Using blank lines to separate paragraphs in a document.

Word is really shit for paragraph spacing, particularly when it comes to text surrounding tables. Instead of manually adding paragraph spacing, people just hit Enter twice.

In Markdown this is fine, as it is smart and properly understands and renders this as paragraph spacing, but in Word, it adds a new line with an empty space. I understand this is not the user's fault, but just Microsoft being shitty and dumb, but still...

I loathe this.

[–] Gwen@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 days ago

Cables on computer mice, or stiff cables in general. The smell of christmas food.

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 5 days ago

Strong smells, especially campfire. Cannot stand the smell of campfire. Gives me headaches and makes me super sneezy.

I don’t have AC, and it’s legal to have campfires in town in private yards, which means I have the joy of being uncomfortable nearly every nice night for half the year. If I open windows for the nice breeze, my house stinks of smoke, if I keep the windows closed, it stays hot. Can’t win because people are selfish af.

People should not be allowed to burn shit in town, regardless of the fire spread risk. It negatively impacts other people who have zero say. I don’t have asthma, but if I did I’d probably just die living here.

And nobody else thinks it’s a problem because they LIKE having fires now and then. It’s the same mentality of not putting limits on rich people because they wouldn’t want limits on themselves if they get rich.

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