Also shout-out to those that do this who are actually cis, I'll still be waiting with your hormones of choice and other gender affirming care because everyone deserves to express and live their gender the way they feel fit.

how about if it's...hard?

Being a functional person feels like it should be so easy, but I'm so bad at it.

Get used to the feeling. It's wonderful

Ooooo, yay!

Sad. Tragic even.

Yeah fat redistribution happens by itself, no needs to lose or gain weight. You´re more likely to gain visceral fat from the stress of yo-yoing your body fat percentage

Thank you for posting about the risks, I vaguely knew there were some (why I said to do more research) but couldn't remember off hand in the couple minutes I had to make those comments. I'm personally not that worried about the health risks so that's part of why I didn't remember (although I am going to look at them again more closely when/if the time comes)

I feel pretty confident I’m not a woman. But I could be non-binary. I guess I worry about taking on a label without “doing the work”... It feels like stolen valor if I don’t actively make a point to stand out (and I don’t always care to), but that’s probably just brainworms?

5 years ago, I avoided using they/them as my pronouns cause I had similar concerns. Now I have a hard time understanding what you mean even though I used to think the same (tbf, I probably never knew what I meant either; it was more of a feeling than a rational thought).

Like I’d probably even just stick to my current pronouns. I don’t even mind being called a man, but what does that mean if I’m rocking a skirt, purse, lipstick, jewelry and looking fierce? Could I say I’m non-binary if someone asked? Do I have to change my name?

I haven't changed my name, despite it being a masc name and I don't really mind that most people use masc pronouns. If you rather call yourself an NB than a man, do it. Whether its just something you keep to yourself or if you tell others doesn't make any difference in whether you are an NB or not. Plenty of trans people rather not stand out either (even some NBs, despite there not really being any realistic way to be perceived as a cis NB). Being trans doesn't obligate you to want to be a gender activist.

You can do whatever you want! Seriously, there's not rules here (lots of people think there are, but fuck those people!).

You can use whatever name you want, pronouns you want, id as whatever gender you want, dress how you want, whatever. You can be a cis man who just likes to wear skirts sometimes or you could be non-binary (or maybe gender fluid or something else). There's no correct answer in any absolute sense, there's just what makes you feel right. All these terms just help us make sense of our experience, communicate that to others, and find community. That's it. There's not some magic essence inside you that must be properly named or anything.

And you can change your mind! Like maybe right now you decide not to change your name, but later you want to. That's okay! And it's okay if you never change it. And it's okay if you change it, then end up not liking it and you change it again.

sounds pretty enby to me fam