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[–] magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago

Don't mind it when its dudes openly looking for porn following very obvious porn accounts.

Following random young women's personal accounts that aren't for hornyposting seems weird.

[–] razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de 84 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Not that it affects me in any way, but I cannot understand why anyone would choose to do that when there are ways of looking at even more boobs (uncensored ones at that) without having your face, legal name, and marital status publicized along with it. 🤯

[–] nagaram@startrek.website 4 points 1 day ago

For me it was that I have a very open and casual relationship with enjoying human bodies. Yeah I think its beautiful, yeah it makes me a little horny, no I'm not ashamed that I'm attracted to and supportive of tasteful nudity on the internet.

But the honest answer is that most men are lazy and a bit crass.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m not really the demographic (30s married bi lady who’s never followed someone for boobs), but I think I get it.

All boobs are great, but being able to interact with the owner of the boobs can make them even better, even if it’s only a theoretical interaction like when following someone on social media

[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel like parasocial relationships are like lead: there is no healthy minimum level of exposure, only steadily increasing and accumulating toxic effects.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

That’s probably also true. Plus, it’s more dangerous if you’re younger.

my guess has that random faceless porn doesn't build parasocial relationships. OF is made exactly for that. but they are cheapskates

[–] garth@sh.itjust.works 86 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago

A modern Diogenes

[–] Damage@feddit.it 51 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Farts must age you badly, dude looks rough for 40

[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 15 points 1 day ago

hes probABLY holding in all those farts.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 2 days ago (2 children)

As a 40 year old unmarried and single dude I do follow some incredibly hot transwomen for fairly similar reasons. Whaddaya gonna do? I'm lonely.

Oh that's why you're the token cis dude on Blahaj. /s

[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Just a note: It's trans women, two words. Trans is an adjective not a prefix, we're women that happen to be trans - Putting them together is often a dog whistle for hate groups

[–] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 day ago

I think people just don't know how to write it lol

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I've also heard the opposite, that separating the two words is separating them from the very idea that they're inherently women, whereas conjoining them is making them whole. I suppose there's still varying interpretations.

[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 2 points 12 hours ago

I've seen some folks refer to themselves as transfems, but I've only ever seen "trans women" because putting the two words together tries to make us sound like a separate thing. Funny that you've seen the same logic for the opposite.

But ultimately, "trans" is an adjective and a separate word. We don't say "tallwomen" or "shortwomen" because tall and short are separate from the fact that they're women.

[–] belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Its not varying, trans is an adjective. They are women, they are also trans. Its not a new thing altogether, trans women are a type of woman.

I'm not arguing, I understand and appreciate your input. I am just telling you the idea that was conveyed to me by a trans woman that led me to putting them together in the past. I am not implying it is something new or that what you're saying is wrong.

This is literally what I use reddit for.

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wait, I thought she was saying the wives follow a bunch of young women and was confused until the boobs sorted everything out.

Bisexual wives exist tho

May I say, "duh", or is that too subtle?

[–] otacon239@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Well spoken, FART MONSTER TWO K

[–] Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Ooooooooooooooooh