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Either in regards to the current political situation, or for other reasons. What drew you to the idea of living in another country? Do you think whatever benefits it offers are really worth it, or is the grass just greener on the other side of the fence?

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[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 44 minutes ago

Its unrealistic. My parents have too much invesments in the US, hard to liquidate.

If my US citizenship is gone, I'd either be:

(A) Stateless, which is um... not good, too much bureaucracy to get another citizenship, and I'd have to learn a new language.

(B) If PRC wants me back, oh jeez I think that makes my asylum claim in a western country even harder, since its very difficult to "prove" my fear of persecution. And if my fears become real, it'd be too late to leave. What's that saying: "Out of a frying pan into the burning fire"? or something, so yea that... very bad.

Country on my go-to list are:

Canada, Australia, France, Germany, Maybe other EU countries, Singapore... then idk...

These are the countries with a decent amount of Chinese Diaspora. As much as I love EU, less than 1% ethnic Chinese in some of the EU countries seems like I'd have a difficult time fitting in... idk.

I've considered Taiwan, but PRC is already aiming the cannons there, seems like a bad idea.

I've also been considering just ending it. I don't have the will to live anymore. It's too much...

[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 6 points 18 hours ago

When I was single and without kids I just felt untethered enough to do so.

Nowadays, politically speaking, I have more the Michael Bolton Office Space perspective. They're the one's who suck, why should I be the one to leave?

[–] Horsey@lemmy.world 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I’m ready to pack my shit and move to Marseille tomorrow if my husband would agree to it. He’s concerned he won’t be able to learn French☹️

[–] valtia@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

I feel this strongly. My partner is very resistant to moving to the Netherlands despite the many, many reasons that doing so would be better than staying in the US

[–] Quexotic@infosec.pub 1 points 13 hours ago

I've looked into it deeply enough to realize that I probably can't afford it.

So I contribute in ways that I can.

[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 1 points 14 hours ago

Seen a few YT vids on my feed of Americans going to Albania as a first step recently.

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 1 points 14 hours ago

I was born and raised here, but I've always had an affinity for my grandfather's ancestry in the UK.

I intend to stay here and fight for my homeland, but if things are at an obviously insurmountable point and I have to fall back, I wouldn't mind my grandfather's homeland.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 1 points 14 hours ago

I’m planning on moving to Uruguay where I can live on half my salary and half my hours and not have to worry about Burgerland anymore.

What drew me to moving out of the country was the idea of not investing in a country when I don’t think it’s worth the investment.

A few benefits I’m looking forward to is a more close-knit community, cheap healthcare, and free college.

[–] jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I moved to Taiwan asking with my entire family and 2 dogs. It's the best decision of my life. It's a very young democracy and the government really cares about the people.

Anyone can be a business owner and the infrastructure is setup that way. Meet this Hawaiian guy that moved here. He couldn't really find a job since he couldn't speak the language. He decided to buy a food cart for 500usd and sell tacos and burritos downstairs where he lives. This was 3 years ago and this year he opened up a store.

[–] Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Taiwan is going to get bombed by china.

Why not another country?

[–] Lumisal@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Bombing Taiwan defeats like 90% of the purpose of owning Taiwan - the chip fabs.

Hence why the owners have dynamite strapped to them for self destructions.

China would rather take it over the way they took over Hong Kong initially - corruption.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago

China have always controlled HongKong, PLA is literally already there.

[–] jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

We are not going to get bombed. At least it's not yet a concern. China needs Taiwan to be the scapegoat. Our tiny island is the reason for their citizens agony, not the PRC.

[–] Garbagio@lemmy.zip -1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah. Don't get me wrong, fuck China, but their imperialism isn't always like western imperialism. Here, we see an "enemy," and they better get ready for some democracy. China seems more willing to engage with maintaining an oppressive opinion without necessarily acting on it. Personally I think it has more to do with the fact that western nations are still democracies; if someone offers to put nuts on the table for established propaganda, they'll usually get into political office.

[–] Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world 1 points 18 hours ago

Remember, democracy looks very similar to demon crazy

[–] SuperSpruce@lemmy.zip 14 points 1 day ago

The problem is that the same forces that affect the US seem to affect everywhere. Look at the UK, even with their supposedly "center left" government they've lost arguably more freedom than the US in the form of the draconian KOSA, and will probably have a rightwing government next. The EU is trying to implement chat control. It unfortunately seems like authoritarianism all the way down, so I'll just stay in the US and fight for liberty and justice for all.

[–] audaxdreik@pawb.social 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I just moved from the US to a small European country and it's much more of a mixed bag than you could imagine.

I don't want to dox myself too much, but I moved from a very tech-centric city to a smaller nation that's not going to be one of your 1st or probably even 2nd guesses.

I didn't move due to politics, although I'd be lying if I said they didn't have an iron grip on my thoughts as I spent too much time unemployed. It was the tech industry that did me in. I had spent the past decade clawing my career out of the gutter only to have it slam-dunked right into the dumpster by a bunch of gormless tech CEOs who don't see the value in anything. I would've happily stayed and voted, fought and gone down with the whole fascist ship to protect my trans, queer, and minority friends. But I seriously doubted my ability to continue to support myself in that environment, nevermind anyone else.

Maybe these are all just excuses, but when it came time to consider relocating, tearing myself out by the roots and losing all my friends and connections for the sake of finding someplace new I could afford to support myself, I cast a wider net than all that. There was no place in the US I wanted to be more, so I looked further.

And still the opportunities came up short. Everywhere is hurting. I took my modest savings and started a college program. It was an "easier" foot in the door and a chance to upskill myself and hopefully compete better in the market (so I hope, so I tell myself). I cannot stress how difficult and expensive every step of this process has been.

You can tell yourself it doesn't matter, but for as long as I live I'll never outrun the guilt or shame for what ultimately feels like a very selfish action. My therapist says I need to treat this as a reward for positioning myself in a way so as to even be able to take advantage of an opportunity like this, but that really sugarcoats it. There's no even guaranteeing this will pay off. There's no guarantee I eventually find a job or stay here, I may well end up back in the States, only this time without any of the possessions I gave up to get here.

You can't take stuff. I mean not unless you're RICH. It's just costly and takes so much time and effort. Are you going to pay to keep it in storage while you're gone? With the intent that you might never be back? Shipping things over is subject to so much regulation, I couldn't even take my computer with me, they turned it down at the airport and I had to send it home with family. Maybe they'll be able to ship it for me some day. In the end I was giving things away, throwing the last bits of my life into the dumpster just to be able to close out the apartment.

So much paperwork. ALL OF THE PAPERWORK! And so little guidance and no guarantees. I'm still waiting on things to be finalized and while there's no reason they shouldn't be, that uncertainty hangs over my head like a knife. Living on savings for now and they'll hold awhile, but inflation has hit here pretty hard, too. Everything is expensive. And now I'm so much farther away from any support systems I may have had.

I don't want to sound too thankless, this has been a wonderful opportunity. I love getting to see a new country and acclimate to a new culture. My head is a bit clearer without having all the politics cluttering it up but I assure you watching things from afar while I still have so many friends and family affected is no comfort at all.

It's not an easy out. It's not a golden ticket. For a lot of people it's just not an option at all. I'll die furious at what they've done to me, to my life, to my friends and everyone I love, to my country. Best I can hope for is some day I have more to bring home for the fight ...

[–] killabeezio@lemmy.zip 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds like Estonia. But in any case, when you move somewhere, it's what you make of it. It's definitely hard at first, but once you do get settled in, you may grow to enjoy it. All I can say is make sure you get out and experience the culture and really what they have to offer. If you are just living there, then why does it matter if you do that in the states or elsewhere? Politics wouldn't interfere with any of that. You would still go to work to make money just to survive. You can do that anywhere.

[–] audaxdreik@pawb.social 1 points 10 hours ago

For sure, and I do appreciate the advice. I didn't want to sound too negative, it has been lovely here 😉

But I just want to communicate to others looking to get out that it's not so simple as picking up and leaving. It's very difficult and much like a plant that has been uprooted and transplanted, there's more trauma involved than you'd think. As you pointed out, it does take that active effort to make something of it, it's not just a simple continuation of the life you had only somewhere else.

[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 58 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My fiancée lives in the US, and we're in the process of getting her a visa to get her the fuck out of that backwards shit hole

It's not a case of "the grass is greener", the US is a fucking joke

It's a cruel country. I've never seen a place so full of hatred and fear

[–] Beacon@fedia.io 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Overall that's totally fair, but to add some nuisance, it very much depends on where in the US you are

I agree, but the states that aren't complete backwaters are being specifically targeted by Cheeto, and outside the the major centres, even California is full of complete fucking idiots

You can be wealthy, and live in the most progressive part of 'Murica and still be ruined by a bit of bad luck

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Hey, i have "reduced motion" setting on! And if anyone with epilepsy sees that...

[–] m_f@discuss.online 31 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Moving to another country is a lot of work. Europe is stereotypically seen as having a lot of practical benefits like walkable cities and generally sane culture around stuff like healthcare. America is a big country though and blue states offer a lot of the same benefits.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 32 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Not really to the same levels, and federal fuckery seeps into everything nationwide.

Back alley abortions common in the EU? Because we're less than one lifetime from the age of septic pregnancy wards and could easily go back if mifepristone gets banned

[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 28 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I don’t wish to but I’ve thought about it, mainly as an emergency exit in case I get targeted by state violence. But barring that I don’t plan to leave.

Unfortunately, I’m as home grown as they come so I don’t have any other citizenship I would qualify for. And with the level of anti-immigrant sentiment happening in most of the world right now, nowhere seems like a great option. But I’ll do what I have to do if the time comes.

For now, I’d rather keep resisting tyranny here though.

I personally like the culture of my community and am very happy here. If only the thugs would leave us alone things would be great. So having to learn another culture and possibly language to assimilate into doesn’t sound very appealing. I have lived abroad before and it’s harder than I thought it would be.

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[–] Hello_there@fedia.io 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

EU passport seems like a good option.

Trouble is trying to find a job with transferable skills, being willing to pick up all my roots and move, and fitting into a community that speaks a different language, and 'jealous passport' countries that ask you to give up your US citizenship when you claim the new one.

Wish it was easier.

I did moved away from the states a long time ago, for reasons other then political fear. I mean I was afraid of what the US was turning in to but not like it is today. Finding a way to immigrate is a lot harder then it looks, but the EU isn't the only option. The second part is a lot harder then it sound and it some ways easier. Picking up a second language is easier in a country where everyone is already using it. The hardest part is getting most people to stop trying to practice their English on you and to let you practice you new language on them. And the fitting in isn't that hard if you are honestly excited about it. Don't grumble because this isn't the way you're used to doing it think of it as new chance to be part of the lucky 10,000 almost every day. But picking up your roots is harder then you think everyday I'm haunted by the fact I'll never see my old friends and my family again except through a tiny screen, never hug them, never cry on their shoulder, hell never even have them understand what my day was like because they don't understand all the cultural clues I do. I've lost frames of reference to my family and it's not something I really expected or would have been able to understand if did. It's weird / hard to have cultural gulfs between you and your family not to have a shared pool of reference.
I wish it was easier too, but I'm glad I did it every day.

[–] ProfThadBach@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I would but I am 63, retired, and have 4 cats. My pension is tied to the state and my SS is tied to the USA. I am fucking stuck.

[–] Druth@discuss.online 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can still collect you pension and SS even if you are abroad! Some places even have 'retirement visas'. 4 cats is tough for a big move, though, for sure.

[–] Lumisal@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

It's at a point where wondering if there'll be a pension in the future is a valid concern, especially after DOGE.

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[–] w3ird_sloth@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Nah. There's work to do here.

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Nope. Gonna fight it out here.

[–] sparky@lemmy.federate.cc 13 points 1 day ago (6 children)

I moved to Portugal about three years back. Unrelated to politics, I just wanted a change. Life is overall much more peaceful and enjoyable here. Let me know if anyone has specific questions!

[–] m_f@discuss.online 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What do you like most about the differences? Did you learn Portuguese / is it pretty common for locals to speak English? What is your favorite food there that's not as much a thing in the US?

[–] sparky@lemmy.federate.cc 7 points 1 day ago

Most people do speak English to some extent, but I have made a great effort to learn Portuguese and am now fluent. You won’t need to speak it to survive or run errands, but it makes a huge difference in terms of making friends and having a social life.

My favorite change is the slower pace of life. There is no rat race here. People work to live rather than live to work, and there’s always time for a glass of wine on a lazy afternoon.

This dish: https://leitesculinaria.com/7642/recipes-portuguese-eggs-salt-cod-potatoes-bacalhau-bras.html

[–] zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I just spent a month there checking out Lisbon and Porto.

Definitely a lot of things that are different, some things better here or there, but I've only got a tiny perspective.

What are some of the things that surprised you over the long term. What are the worst parts of it?

[–] sparky@lemmy.federate.cc 6 points 1 day ago

Surprising: the high degree of safety and its effect on the local psyche. Because violent crime is virtually nonexistent, they aren’t ”calibrated" for danger and are prone to tell you that some place is really sketchy, but when you go there it’s fine, just maybe needs a fresh coat of paint.

Worst part: bureaucracy and government wait times. Need anything done? Go here and talk to this guy. Wait, that was wrong, it’s an online form. Wait, the online form doesn’t work. Call this number. Wait, no, go here and talk to this other guy. Then wait 6 months.

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[–] GooseGang@beehaw.org 13 points 1 day ago

I emigrated in 2017 after coming back from the Peace Corps in Peru. After the 2016 election, I wanted out and don’t regret it. Many benefits, one of the main ones being not having to support the current government, and the work-life balance of course.

[–] spinda@leminal.space 7 points 1 day ago

I've been living in Canada for a year now (grad school). Going to hope and work hard to see if engineering can pan out over here.

[–] entropicdrift@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 1 day ago

The strongest contenders for me would be Ireland or Spain.

My employer does remote work and they have their European HQ in Dublin. That combined with everyone speaking english seems close to ideal in terms of logistics.

As for Spain, they have a special Digital Nomad visa for remote workers, my wife and I took Spanish in high school, and my dad lives in Barcelona after having retired, due to the lower cost of living/healthcare, and also because his sister, my aunt, lives there too.

[–] Zedd00@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 day ago

Yeah. My wife and I bounced from the US 2 years ago. We cashed out our 401ks at the start of this year and bought a house. We're currently in the nightmare stage of remodeling where everything is twice as expensive as expected and takes 4 times as long as we were told. Outside of everything currently being hell, we feel it was the best decision we could have made.

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