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[–] 6stringringer@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 hours ago

My friend had a a cat that as a human would have been a balding, neurotic man with a mustache and glasses. A very high strung cat tbh. His name was Mr. Pappy.

[–] RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com 2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

When you're 50 years old and start dating someone do you call them your wo/manfriend?

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 6 hours ago

She's not my special lady, she's my fucking lady friend.

[–] normalexit@lemmy.world 4 points 21 hours ago

Probably the same reason my six year old dog is still my puppy. She is just a baby after all.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

my cat always acts like she's a year old and is pretty small for a cat (we assume she's the runt)
when we got her the pound said 2 years old (info from previous owner) but when we took her to the vet we got told that she's actually about 5

She's about 7-8 now and still looks just as adorable as when I got her!!

edit: this image also shows her bent whisker that got messed up when she tried to stick her head in the food container as I was shutting it a couple weeks ago lol

[–] scarabic@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I think for most people the answer is that pets are not considered peers. They have gender but we will never consider them on a level with human adults - maybe on a level with human babies or young children. We love and prize them, but we don’t give them equal rights and respect. Just like with children.

It probably doesn’t help that we also spay/neuter them at birth, which not only prevents them from ever becoming reproductively viable adults, but also affects their hormonal development permanently. I’m no biologist but it may be accurate to say they never fully mature, even if they do eventually age.

FWIW I personally have two human kids and I refer to our German shepherd as the 3rd grownup in the house. I do say “good boy” but I also say “hey man” and call him “old man.”

[–] 418_im_a_teapot@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have a dead cat. 🤷‍♂️

[–] BleatingZombie@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

How long have you had it?

[–] disco 20 points 1 day ago

He's just a lil guy

[–] SpicyTaint@lemmy.world 87 points 2 days ago

Because they are all fur babies. Always.

I have a little man cat, he’s my little guy.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 21 points 2 days ago

Because kitties are forever babies 🤗

[–] aaaa@piefed.world 59 points 2 days ago (4 children)

My cat was an "old man cat" for a while before he passed.

Anyhow, a "man cat" just sounds like a cat who dresses up like a man and fights crime

[–] floo@retrolemmy.com 25 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I believe you’re thinking of Catman

[–] Zachariah@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

respect my authoritay

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes, but Lady Cat and Gentleman Cat just sounds like cats being fancy. And cats are fancy.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (6 children)

You haven't met my chonker

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[–] vrighter@discuss.tchncs.de 23 points 2 days ago

because they stay smol!

[–] TheDoozer@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago

Same reason I refer to my 14-year-old dachshund as a puppy.

Because he's my puppy.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 34 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I’ve read a lot about how dogs have evolved to hit some of the same triggers that human infants do. I’ve also read about how we tend to view pets as children in our minds. I imagine that that all plays a role in it.

[–] Dasus@lemmy.world 21 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

We totally do.

You can address a pet like you would politely address an adult, but only in a jokey way. Like "oh, and who's this handsome gentleman/lady?", same as with kids.

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[–] Steve@startrek.website 26 points 2 days ago (2 children)

You can call your cat anything you want, they still won’t come.

[–] Lembot_0004@discuss.online 7 points 2 days ago

Because their real name sounds like a food pouring into the bowl.

[–] Bazoogle@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

That's when you break out the tuna can. Try to see them resist that shit

[–] tacosanonymous@mander.xyz 20 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I can hold onto many feelings and ideas at once.

My orange baby boy is an old man.

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[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Speak for yourself. I've got two brother cats and I refer to both of them as little kitty cat mans.

[–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The only true man cat is Idris Elba in Cats

[–] ms_lane@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"And that's where you're wrong, buddy. Damn I look good."

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Tippon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 days ago

I'm gonna eat you little fishy!

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 29 points 2 days ago (2 children)

IMO:

Boy/Girl cat implies gender.

Man/Woman cat implies anthropomorphism.

[–] scarabic@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Right but why is that your opinion of how those words work? Because the only strict differentiation between man/boy and woman/girl is age.

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[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 20 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Generally speaking, the terms man and woman are reserved specifically for humans. I couldn't tell you why, but I suppose it doesn't really matter.

For pets, the use of boy/girl probably does have a lot to do with how people tend to infantilize their companion animals.

Additionally, the boy / girl terminology is often generalized to cover all animals, particularly when adults are interacting with children and by extension when children are interacting with each other. It's not uncommon to have a child ask something like "is that a boy rabbit or a girl rabbit?" but it is a little unusual to hear an adult ask another adult that same question, unless it's sort of tongue-in-cheek or maybe in the presence of kids.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

I do call my doggo 'old man', but never just called him a man.

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[–] floo@retrolemmy.com 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Because pet owners tend to infantilize their pets.

[–] Bazoogle@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Easy to do based on their small size, large eyes, big ears, and fluffy fur.

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 7 points 2 days ago

Define "grow up". Their personality changes with age but they remain fixated on their care giver(s) similar to children for as long as you let them.

[–] Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Human/animal bonding is aided because their faces retain neotenic features that remind us of babies. So many are inclined to relate to them like children.

From that article:

Accumulating behavioral and neurophysiological studies support the idea of infantile (cute) faces as highly biologically relevant stimuli rapidly and unconsciously capturing attention and eliciting positive/affectionate behaviors, including willingness to care. It has been hypothesized that the presence of infantile physical and behavioral features in companion (or pet) animals (i.e., dogs and cats) might form the basis of our attraction to these species.

It has been hypothesized that both behavioral and physical infantile features present in companion animals might form the basis of our attraction to these animals and may bear some part of the responsibility for our motivational drive to pet-keeping and pet-caretaking (Archer, 1997).

That's weird because babies are ugly. Cats, on the other hand, are just so... hey wait a minute, my cat stole my heart 💘😼

This spell, so potent... 😍🐈

[–] BussyGyatt@feddit.org 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think this might be a case of cart-before-horse. It seems obvious to me that domesticated animals have these traits because they were selected for by our ancestors, not the other way around.

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[–] exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago

Not a lot of cats grow to be 18 years old.

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[–] Afflictedlife@lemmy.ml 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My cats are gentlemen and ladies

[–] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I only have one lady. The rest I call terrible names.

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[–] ski11erboi@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

Boy and girl cats grow up??

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 11 points 2 days ago

They do? Who does this? I'd say ask them.

I use the terms "male" and "female".

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago

Because they get neutered/spayed

[–] Doublenut@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 days ago

One of my cats is a man cat. We always call him a man unless it Big Bubba Boi for the alliteration. The other cat is a demon.

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