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[-] hrimfaxi_work@midwest.social 74 points 8 months ago

Today is worse than yesterday. But at least it's better than tomorrow!

In seriousness, though, your 30s will be considerably less garbage than your 20s. Stuff on your body is gonna begin hurting more, and that's dumb, but you'll generally have fewer hangups about things and life's day-to-day gets more enjoyable.

The world is a flaming hellscape, but not every individual moment has to suck. I figured that out in my 30s 🙃

[-] GBU_28@lemm.ee 18 points 8 months ago

In your thirties is the first time you realize you have to do things to maintain your body.

Watch your calories.

Really look after your teeth.

Exercise and think about posture to stay pain free.

Sleep to maintain mood and energy.

Hydrate to keep skin looking healthy and energy and lots of things.

[-] Siethron@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

I recently learned the bags under my eyes are likely due to being too hydrated when I go to sleep. The recommendation to get rid of them was drink less water... Well that's bullshit

[-] can@sh.itjust.works 9 points 8 months ago

Is that a thing? I'm not going to bed thirsty. I accept my bags.

[-] hrimfaxi_work@midwest.social 7 points 8 months ago

Cosign on the teeth thing. I've always been mindful of dental care because I'm afraid of the dentist and want to minimize visits. My wife is less vigilant than I am. She easily accounts for 75% of our combined dental expenses.

[-] nossaquesapao@lemmy.eco.br 42 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

This hurts me so badly... :( I've lost all of my 20s to depression, extreme social isolation and emptiness. My 30th birthday was last month, and I wonder is there's something to be recovered from me

[-] lazyslacker@sh.itjust.works 17 points 8 months ago

There's nothing you can do to change what happened in the past but you can treat every new day as a new opportunity to try to self actualize, following whatever path to do that seems best to you.

[-] nossaquesapao@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 8 months ago

Thank you for your words. it's a lot harder in practice, though. Everything changes, and the way people interact with us changes too. My first approach was trying to live out the youth experiences I missed, but I realized everything is different and it's impossible. It's something still hard for me to deal with, but i'm trying to find new paths. It's just hard not to find myself lying down in tears when I think about these things.

[-] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 16 points 8 months ago

I spent a solid chunk of my 20s being an alcoholic in a desperate attempt to hide from myself. Late 20s (like 28-29) I finally moved to the right place, put in an exhausting amount of work into finding local connections, I'm doing a lot better now. Eat healthy, do some kind of physical activity if you can, see if there are any groups near you that share in any of your interests, don't expect it to be solved right away it takes time. Enjoy being at the early side of old people "I just truly don't give a fuck" mentality because that can carry you past a lot of social anxiety. 16 yr old at the MTG table says you have a garbage deck? IDGAF, give them a "I'm old enough to fuck your mom" glare through your beginners crows feet. Bond with the people who think that kid is a dipshit. Being in my 30s now is way better than my 20s I'm happier and healthier (save for COVID giving me fucking asthma never used to need an inhaler)

[-] Anamana@feddit.de 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

In your 30s you can still do almost anything, so yeah :)

I went skijumping last year, which was a childhood dream of mine.

[-] nossaquesapao@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 8 months ago

Thank you for that droplet of motivation. How was it when you jumped?

[-] Anamana@feddit.de 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I thought I was gonna die when I looked down the hill and let go of the plank. The jump itself was actually way more controlled then I expected, but I also didn't fly that long obv ;) was able to try two different hills, but not the biggest one.

Fun fact: Most people in the group were 40+ years old and they were flying like crazy haha

[-] LordAmplifier@pawb.social 1 points 8 months ago

Same. I'm 3 years younger, but depression, anxiety, and the resulting lack of any kind of sense of mission have made me so miserable. The lockdowns tore down the resemblance of a social network I had, and now it feels like there's nothing left. I'm trying to get better and to change, turn my life around, but it's hard. I don't have any encouraging words. Just know that you're not alone in feeling like that <3

[-] Anamana@feddit.de 25 points 8 months ago

Iam30andthisisdeep

[-] Seigest@lemmy.ca 20 points 8 months ago

After 30 the pain is still there, you're just to tired to scream

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 6 points 8 months ago

I'm almost 40 and I feel the scream coming back.

[-] telllos@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

The midlife crisis hits so hard, you just can't scream.

[-] Imbrex@lemmy.world 17 points 8 months ago

As a former 20's person being in your 30s kicks ass.

[-] daellat@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

Peaking in adulthood > peaking in highschool, it lasts a lot longer.

[-] Donjuanme@lemmy.world 17 points 8 months ago

I was about to share this with my wife, I know we'd both get a kick out of it, except we're 36 and we met when we were 18 XD

[-] s_s@lemmy.one 12 points 8 months ago

Sounds like 18 beautiful years of aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh together.

[-] uphillbothways@kbin.social 14 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

30th birthday...
ohgodohno..ohgodohno..ohgodohno....
dirt.

[-] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 8 points 8 months ago

I've been recovering ever since ... still a long way too go tho, and for not much upside risk tbh

[-] orsetto@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 8 months ago

Shut up, i'm 22 and i'm scared

[-] can@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 months ago

Well, you have time to prepare.

[-] daellat@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

I'd rather be where I am at 30 then where I was at 22.

[-] thySatannic@beehaw.org 6 points 8 months ago

Birth
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Today

[-] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 6 points 8 months ago

I hope this is how it works for me. Light somewhere at the end of the tunnel, cause fuck my twenties have been shit so far.

[-] idiomaddict@feddit.de 1 points 8 months ago

If you’re anything like me, you’ll learn to trust yourself more, and that trust will be better placed. I did lose some ability to wing it, but that’s mostly because I can see through the act a little too much to be comfortable bullshitting.

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[-] lemillionsocks@beehaw.org 2 points 8 months ago

I dunno I enjoyed my 20s quite a bit. In my 30s not and still dont quite feel like theyve ended its weird(though the amount of drinking and going out I did has gone down quite a bit).