When I told them how the screaming of our common neighbhor sometimes woke up my other neighbhour told me how to buy weed in this apartment block thing since weed helps her sleep. Honestly that was nice of her, but also totally useless.
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I went to my posts surgery checkup and according to my doctor, it's healing slowly, but that's to be expected with my medical history. She was happy to see that I got through the worst of the pain and am on the mend. However, she was highly confused when she realized my surgical stitches had already dissolved completely, even though the wound isn't done healing. Apparently, I am, was, and probably will be a freak of nature all my life, and I quite enjoy the "surprising the doctors" energy I have. Still can't sit, but that'll get better soon.
Good to hear you're on the mend!
Thank you 
Glad to hear the healing is going OK, hope you can sit soon!
Thank you love 
Hope you're doing okay too these days. How's your walking working out so far?
Not anywhere near as well as I would like. I can wear shoes and walk for about 5 or so mins. So shopping is OK now, my landlady drives me, parks outside and i go in and get a few things (my landlady won't go in to shops since covid). Although carrying any weight, like more than a few things in a shopping bag, at all flares the achilles up again. Walking for more than about 5 mins flares it up too. My landlady has a tiny dog who i used to walk but now all we can do is drive him to the park, walk up and down for 5 minutes then drive home. So apart from these short trips I am still stuck indoors. The physio said if the achilles isn't better in another 2 months, go back. It's been about a month since that appointment and it's no better. Even if it does get better there is always a high risk of it going again. It's all because of my stroke, my left side is so weak now doing anything makes it get injured. The achilles injury happened just from carrying a shopping bag a short distance. I've previously torn all the muscles in my right arm just from lifting a small object. Constant plantar fasciitis in the left foot and a whole list of other injuries because of this damn stroke. The neurophysio said the3re isn't any more improvement to be expected and I just have to learn to live with it. I just want to be able to hike again. Having issues with my thyroid meds too.
This sucks so much, I'm sorry you're suffering still, honey
I know it's not much, but the fact you can walk at all is still impressive, especially given the rest of the issues you mention. I hope that the tendon will get better, and that you can walk pain free for more than five minutes. Out of curiosity, is there a way to improve your left side slowly again? Like, some way to strengthen muscles and tendons to give you back your mobility? And if so, is it affordable/available?
Nooo not the thyroid meds again ._. Is it too much or too little or something altogether different?
Wow, I actually remember when you first mentioned the surgery..so reading this really made me smile. You’ve been through so much, and I love how you still manage to keep such a good spirit. That “freak of nature” line got me but honestly, it suits you. Keep surprising those doctors! I’m proud of you, and I hope you’re able to sit comfortably soon. You deserve all the healing.
I'm happy to hear my humor made you smile/laugh :) and I hope so too, comrade, thank you
these tariffs are killing us 
we are already disabled and broke and now the things we need to be slightly less disabled cost like twice as much 
woof
They're really out here trying to deny us every little thing aren't they? 
Today I received an important update on my psychiatric diagnosis. I probably have autism too, aside from schizophrenia. I just need to complete a questionnaire to confirm the diagnosis.
Hopefully the diagnosis can get you the accommodations and any additional help you need, comrade
Worst part about support groups is that often everyone else ends up getting better except me, then they move on
You're the cure. Holy shit.
Cause boys don't cry
booooys don't cry
I finally fell asleep about two hours after I wrote the last post. While they were fighting I was on my phone scrolling (and posting) wondering if I should intervene. Anyway things cleared up. I got my sleep. I read about Chinese history and boned up on anatomy (hehehe).
Hi everyone, I'm Onandrah
I'm a proud trans woman and disabled refugee currently living in a settlement camp in . I fled Uganda after the passing of the anti-gay bill..it became too dangerous for someone like me to live freely and safely. Now, I'm doing my best to survive and hold on to hope even in very difficult conditions.
I also live with HIV, which adds another layer to my daily struggles especially with limited access to healthcare and support. Being in a space like this, where we can speak openly and support one another, means a lot.
Sometimes life feels like too much, but I'm still here. And if you’re still here too, I want you to know you’re not alone. I see you. I’m rooting for all of us.
Sending love and strength from Gorom Camp in South Sudan. Onandrah
My heart goes out to you, love, and I thank you for your words of hope and kindness
I hope you can get to a safe place with better healthcare soon, so you don't have to live in fear. Take good care of yourself and never hesitate to contact us here in the mega or via private messages.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support. It really means a lot to be seen, especially in such hard times. I’m doing my best to survive here in the camp as a trans refugee with limited access to healthcare. If you know of any groups or people who support cases like mine, I’d be deeply grateful to connect. Thank you again for being here.
Hi Onandrah, we're rooting for you too! Thank you for your kind words. Sending peace and solidarity your way, comrade. Stay safe, and know you are loved and you are beautiful.
Thank you for your kind and supportive words. Being a trans refugee is very hard....every day is a struggle for safety and basic needs. Your solidarity means the world to me and gives me strength to keep going.
Stay safe, and thank you for standing with me meanwhile how is it going??...
Hoping you can find peace in the future, comrade, and that you can get the care and necessities you need. It's goin alright on my end, I appreciate you asking. Mostly job hunting and hanging out here on hexbear these days when IRL stuff is quiet. How are you doing this week?
My screaming neighbour got interrupted by another neighbour who started slamming om her door screaming at her. Violence has been threatened, stuff has been thrown in both directions.
I am not equipped for this.
I forgot to eat all day so now I'm hungry but it's too late to eat. This is a conundrum. I should eat smarter
I'm gonna have some crackers. Sadly no hummus since no food processor, sad times.
So relatable, hope you get some good sleep...oh no just saw your other post. Hope everything settled down ok
I'm tired
I've started falling asleep in the afternoons again, which I hate. I feel horrid and groggy. I don't know what's started it again, whether it's an issue with my thyroxine or poor sleep. It's awful being tired all the time, and people are like "What have you got to be tired about?"
"What have you got to be tired about?"
"well for one i have to field a lot of tiresome questions"
Maybe I'll try that next time.
Yeah same here, afternoons have become the worst. The "what have you got to be tired about" is so gross, too. We could just gesture broadly at the stress of everything as a reason without even going into the actual disabilities that aren't always visible. Wishing you some good rest soon, comrade.
Thanks, you too.
Me too. I'll have a nap for the both of us, you should be feeling more awake soon 
May your dreams be peaceful and your rest rejuvenating
And yours too love
Was helping my sibling out yesterday with some health insurance stuff, their treatment had been stalled so needed to see their primary care provider but the mf was in a different system all together. Navigating the insurance site to change it was a nightmare so I was coaching them what to say on the phone and I think we got a doctor that exists. Beforehand I was just calling up clinics to confirm if these doctors even were real and it was a pain... pretty sure the insurance site was just using ai to scrape local doctors around here not really checking to see if they were real and that rightly pisses me off. At least the lady on the phone was way more helpful
Health bureaucracy is so fucked up. I don't even know how they get so fucked up or get the idea to use AI for a database like that.
It's just my guess because holy shit some of the doctors made up names were like 
Sleve Mcdichael and Todd Bonzalez?
I talked to a tamil person in the healthcare industry once who told me she shortens her name for white people because they can't pronounce her actual name, and once she had to get a nametag and it just arbitrarily cut off half her name. Like her name on the tag just ended in the middle of the name.
Shit was like Dr Mating, Narwhals I think that for real was take
I've been focused on my health lately, and I just got out of the hospital (maintenance, not emergency). Even if I don't improve my condition I've at least been improving my reaction to it and stress from it, blahblahblah. That said, I'm basically under house arrest since I'm so goddamn fatigued, and I may have a long trial-and-error period with new medications coming up. I know I'm doing what's best for both my physical and my mental health but it's a major bummer to not be able to be involved in any organizing at a time like this. I hope that I can achieve some sort of stability soon and can pick things back up, even if it's not on the front lines. @Frank@hexbear.net had a great comment here a while back that I'm trying to keep in mind:
Whenever folks express dismay that they can't do cool activism stuff on the front lines i try to remind them that an army marches on it's stomach and there's lots of logistics things that need to be done that don't involve marches and protest camps. Handling phones, making food, taking care of kids, coordinating intelligence, teaching classes and sharing expert knowledge. Many people can fight for a cause in ways that go beyonf the highly visible stereotypes of what protesting looks like but our society makes people think they're useless if they can't play tennis with tear gas cannisters.
They say youth is wasted on the young. Well, I say health is wasted on the healthy. All these people with able bodies and good health, ruining it with junk food or other habits, sitting indoors doomscrolling all day when they could be outside doing activities. I wish to be able bodied again. I want to hike for miles along the coast instead of sitting around frustrated.
Couldn't agree more. 
Med students are having chatgpt do their ethics exams. I don't have a comment. Just a statement.
what do you call someone who cheated their way to a pass at med school?
doctor
I haven't posted in here before but today I just needed a place to speak my peace and I hope that is alright.
I am 37 years old. I was a Chef for 15 years. My family was poor and when my father stole the savings we had for college I attended Job Corp to get my culinary degree. Seeing that they have now been defunded kind of made me think about where I am and how I was so grateful for that opportunity even if my body has fallen apart.
I have Porphyria, COPD, Heart Failure, Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Lupus, and Pulmonary Arterial Hypertension. Many of these conditions were unknown to me until my state finally expanded medicaid. Since then I have undergone alot of testing and seem to be collecting new diagnoses like Pokemon.
I had filed for Disability 2 years ago and have many conditions that should qualify me according to their own website. Instead NC has given me the run around for years, denied me twice, i filed again and have now been waiting a year with almost no contact from them despite constant calls and messaging and emails.
Last July I became homeless due to my savings running out and being unable to work. I used the last of my money on a car so that I wouldn't be living on the street. I have been driving for Lyft to stay alive and afford my food, gas, and medicines. Constant doctor visits and hospitalizations have made it impossible to keep up with even those lately and my car is now falling apart as well. No AC with the Carolina summer coming up, a failing transmission, and god knows what else that is keeping me from passing inspection now and unable to renew my registration because of it. Even if I could afford it.
The system is literally killing me and Trump and the Republicans have made it somehow even more unforgiving. This month I even lost my food stamps as NC told me I didn't work enough to qualify.
As i type this I sit here feeling what I think is the beginning of blood clots forming again in my lung and leg and I don't know if I even want to go to the hospital again because I am not seeing a point.
I only keep going for my Partner, my Mother, and my little brother but I really don't feel anything for me anymore. I am so tired and don't see the end of this tunnel like I used to. All i see is the end of the month approaching while i am hospitalized and unable to work enough to pay for the impossible bills that have accrued from Disability constantly delaying my approval.
I see me, on the street because my car is unable to be registered, unable to work to afford my medicines, and still dying here either way.
Sorry for the downer comment but I needed somewhere to vent and I am sure many of you have seen similar struggles and I don't want to feel so alone.
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